I tried to do the right thing and got shouted down, I don’t know why I bother

[RightThingForCovid]

My DD is 6 and tested positive for covid over the weekend.

I let everyone know that we’ve seen the last week (she does 3 activities, plus school and her dads). Most have just said it’s not their problem, some said nothing at all, most haven’t done close contact emails like I expected.

Her dad told me I best not tell Test and Trace or give them his number as he can’t afford to isolate.

My parents told me it’s a lie and they won’t be helping me during isolation, at all. They told me to just carry on as normal. Neither are vaccinated, we’ve seen both in the last week, both told me they will not be isolating and one made it about them saying how they’ve never tested or been vaccinated and have been fine.

DD has 2 appointments this week that where face to face for a medical condition she has. One asked me if I was certain that I wanted to cancel as there’s a 6 month wait for appointments – she’s already 3 months overdue a checkup as her one in October got cancelled due to her consultant having covid I have cancelled her appointment anyway and will be complaining about that receptionist.

I just don’t know why I bother. She only tested positive on a LFT, so in theory I could of just got on with my day and sent her to school and appointments but I’ve always tried to do the right thing, and think about others rather than myself.

I’m trying to remember everyones stressed, just like me, but I just want to cry!

You’re doing the right thing!

You do what you feel you need to do, let others make their own risk assessments and leave them to it? It's nothing to do with you how seriously others decide to take covid. You can disagree with them obviously, but they're adults so leave them to it.

We've had lots of people test positive that we know (school, friends, etc). I say get well soon, ask if they need anything, and then carry on with my day

Do you know that there is no longer any requirement for close contacts to isolate? Only your child needs to isolate, other close contacts should test daily and only isolate if they test positive.

@WarmSeaSwimmer

Do you know that there is no longer any requirement for close contacts to isolate? Only your child needs to isolate, other close contacts should test daily and only isolate if they test positive.

@WarmSeaSwimmer ExH was just using it as a stick to beat me with because he can, he is vaccinated.

119 told me that close contacts who're unvaccinated do still need to isolate for 10 days, thats why my parents are going on about it.

At least you have a clear conscience that you know you’ve done the right thing. It is sad that people (Dd dad) don’t know the rules, as someone within a close contact doesn’t now have to isolate. Hope your DD is ok, but I too would be a bit worried about the medical receptionist saying what she did.

Its selfish when others don't help to stop the spread. Might have been over all,of this by now if everyone did what they were meant to do. You can either get angry and stressed which will affect your health or, this is what Im doing, just let others do their thing, let it go. You won't change their mindset, esp if they won't have a vaccine. Its exasperating I know. Hope your dad feels better soon.

I meant daughter! Wont let me do the abbreviations for some reason!

Thank you for doing the right thing.

I had to shield (chemo), and truly appreciate everyone who thought of others and did the right thing. I’m OK now, though still get nervous if I encounter people coughing or sneezing.

though still get nervous if I encounter people coughing or sneezing.

I do feel really bad for coughing, but I am now on week 6 of my cough (being investigated) but I do want a white flag to fly when I go out.

@Whitefire

though still get nervous if I encounter people coughing or sneezing.

I do feel really bad for coughing, but I am now on week 6 of my cough (being investigated) but I do want a white flag to fly when I go out.

I keep telling myself that whoever is coughing might not have (or had) Covid-19, it could be something else entirely. I just need to get used to being around people again after shielding for so long. I can’t stop the panicking yet though, so if you see someone run the other way it’s probably me, but I am working on it!

Schools and activity providers are no longer have the responsibility to contact close contacts. Whilst it is good that you informed them you now need to let test and trace know those details and it will be up to them.

I am aghast at the medical appointment though.

Thank you for doing the right thing. We had to isolate over Xmas but know others who were positive who didn’t. It’s very frustrating as my DC missed out on activities and so on, as we tried to do the right thing, whereas others didn’t but will have spread their germs far and wide. So galling!

Well, I guess you bother because you feel it's the right thing to do.

All you can do is what you feel is right. You can't police other people's behaviour, really, and certainly not their thinking.

You're unlucky to be surrounded by so many unreasonable people.

I hope your daughter isn't too poorly with it, and that she gets well soon.

You're doing the right thing.

And consultants can now do appointments over video call or phone.

I'm surprised they didn't offer this as an alternative. Contact PaLs and ask about it.

119 told me that close contacts who're unvaccinated do still need to isolate for 10 days, thats why my parents are going on about it.

But are they close contacts? You don't need to contact everyone you've seen in the previous week, just those you had close contact with in the 48 hours prior to symptoms or a positive test.

@itsgettingweird

You're doing the right thing.

And consultants can now do appointments over video call or phone.

I'm surprised they didn't offer this as an alternative. Contact PaLs and ask about it.

@itsgettingweird Unfortunately these particular appointments need to be face to face, one needs x-rays which can't easily be done over video call and the other is to do with her eyes so she needs drops and then tests with big machine that probably wouldn't fit in my living room

Thanks everyone I'm feeling a lot happier now, had a bath and DDs enjoying some tablet time. Not heard anything from school at all so just waiting for them now.

@AndEyeSay

119 told me that close contacts who're unvaccinated do still need to isolate for 10 days, thats why my parents are going on about it.

But are they close contacts? You don't need to contact everyone you've seen in the previous week, just those you had close contact with in the 48 hours prior to symptoms or a positive test.

@AndEyeSay I'd been in the car with my mum and DD in the 48 hours before and my dad popped over over the weekend for a cuppa and was sat playing a board game with DD so yes close contacts.

You don't need to isolate if you are triple jabbed and test clear every day. If any of your DDs choose contacts aren't vaccinated then technically they should isolate for 10 days but they don't have to if they are jabbed and boosted (or under 18 with two jabs, not sure about children as didn't look that up as we have no young children in the house).

@Wbeezer

You don't need to isolate if you are triple jabbed and test clear every day. If any of your DDs choose contacts aren't vaccinated then technically they should isolate for 10 days but they don't have to if they are jabbed and boosted (or under 18 with two jabs, not sure about children as didn't look that up as we have no young children in the house).

@Wbeezer Neither of my parents are vaccinated and neither of them will isolate.

Hope your little one feels better soon. I'd feel disheartened in your position too.

I hope your daughter is ok.

You can only control what YOU do, you cannot control what others do.

Agree with others, you can only control your own response and behaviour. You’ve given the information, what they choose to that is up to them. Hope she stays well.

@Whitefire

though still get nervous if I encounter people coughing or sneezing.

I do feel really bad for coughing, but I am now on week 6 of my cough (being investigated) but I do want a white flag to fly when I go out.

I have a persistent cough due to allergies and I've given up worrying about what other people think. I'd hate to worry anyone who was CEV but there's not a lot I can do about it other than not go out.