WWYD: H is keeping estate agent valuation appointment, but he's got covid

[TherapyClient]

I'm here when the appointment is due to go ahead, and I want to warn them that H is covid positive because it is neither fair nor lawful for people to be exposed like that. You don't know what their home situation is or who they'd unwittingly pass it on to with dire consequences.

There's no urgency to get the house valued, it's only for the divorce which is only just beginning. We've got all summer to go before anything realistically happens. So the point is, another week really isn't going to hurt.

But the problem is, everything I do is being interpreted as manipulative and malicious, so I don't feel I can 'interfere', yet I also don't feel I can't ignore it either.

WWYD?

Ring the estate agent and rearrange the appointment is what I would do. (If your ex h is really awkward you could get the estate agent to agree that the appointment needs to be rearranged because the estate agent is isolating ?) But it’s unfair to put the estate agent at risk.

Ring them, explain that it is difficult because of divorce issues, ask them to be the ones to cancel, and reschedule. I’m sure they will appreciate your honesty and assist.

Contact the ea on the quiet, explain the situation to them and get them to contact your husband to say they're having to postpone. You could ask them to say it's because they've got covid themselves, just for a laugh.

I agree you should ring the estate agent. Tell them the truth and ask them to ring him and rearrange it, ask them to make an excuse so he doesn’t have a go at you.

I would have to let the estate agent know. I have a husband who is at home and has terminal cancer, I would hate for anyone to knowingly put him at risk. As you say, you have no idea what is going on in someone else's life so it is not a situation I would be prepared to knowingly put someone in.

@TheFlis12345

Ring them, explain that it is difficult because of divorce issues, ask them to be the ones to cancel, and reschedule. I’m sure they will appreciate your honesty and assist.

That's what I'd do.

But so what is he's says you're manipulative or whatever, you're not divorcing him because he's a great guy!

Selfish stupid bastard

You guys are great! I knew this was such a good idea to post here.

Unfortunately he's so good, he's even got my own lawyer telling me I'm unreasonable (when I was arguing a point for the well-being of our children), and it's not about exH thinking that about me, but my own solicitor 😟

But the idea is brilliant to get THEM to cancel him. I wish I'd thought of that, it's utterly brilliant!

Cannot thank you all enough.