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Partner isolating

23 replies

Upallnight23 · 08/01/2022 17:18

Hi to everyone that is currently isolating or has been in the past did the person in your household that had tested positive stay isolated in their room the whole time?

Currently my dp tested positive and we are on day 4 isolating and I've already had enough. He is laying in his room with games and TV and expecting me to constantly make drinks food for him, fetch him this and that etc. All the while I'm trying to keep the two young dc occupied and fed etc.

He isn't unwell so it's grating on me even more. What did other families do or should I jus put up with this until isolation is over 🙄

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WheelieBinPrincess · 08/01/2022 17:20

Well if friends if you wanted to catch covid and how much it would impact you. Personally I’d crack on and take my chances, not wait on him hand and foot while he had a good old rest in his room. You might well get it anyway and then is he going to do the same for you?

WheelieBinPrincess · 08/01/2022 17:20

*it depends

dementedpixie · 08/01/2022 17:23

I shared the bed and room with dh when he had it and the kids mainly stayed away from us but they are teenagers.

Only dh got it and the rest of us are still negative

hellsbells99 · 08/01/2022 17:26

DD and DH have both had it separately and tried to remain isolated. We have eaten or met for coffee on the patio with big coats in. Otherwise tied to keep to separate bathrooms etc. I have delivered some drinks / food to the door but otherwise they have text when they have wanted to use the kitchen, hand sanitised etc so I could stay away.

dementedpixie · 08/01/2022 17:27

I was trying to get it so I could get it over and done with but it never worked.

Pixies74 · 08/01/2022 17:30

Like PP says, it depends if you definitely want to avoid you/the DC getting it..

I'm really on the fence about what we'd do (might depend on if it was me or DH getting Covid Grin). On one hand it would be exhausting being the sole parent for a week (or more), but then there's the extra hassle of prolonging the agony if the rest of us all got it in turn (plus DC missing school and nursery and being cooped up in the house for longer).

Pixies74 · 08/01/2022 17:31

Though obviously you could have all been exposed before your DP started isolating..

Looneytune253 · 08/01/2022 17:31

We isolated my daughter for the first 2 days until we realised the other child was pos too and we hadn't been isolating from them. If you want to isolate from your DP then take him meals and snacks when you're ready. Just a couple of times a day tho you don't need to be running up and down on his whims

Gechik · 08/01/2022 17:32

He sounds like he is enjoying his isolation while you run round doing everything, I would not be bothering with isolation within the household.

WheelieBinPrincess · 08/01/2022 17:33

If he’s well he can just let you know when he wants to use the bathroom or kitchen so you can vacate. Then he should clean up after himself. He’s treating it like a hotel stay at present by the sounds of it, I wouldn’t have indulged anything beyond a cup of tea if I happened to be making one.

SpottyStripyDuvet · 08/01/2022 17:34

DH tested positive on an LFT Monday, confirmed by PCR on Wednesday so has been isolating this week. As we were staying with family last weekend and DH, me and DS shared a bed we didn't see the point in trying to stay apart. All lateral flow tests for me and DS have been negative so far and my PCR was negative as well.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 08/01/2022 17:35

No, they have come into the kitchen for food or the living room for company. My DH is just ending his isolation and two DC have both separately had covid in the past. No one else in the household has caught it on any of these occasions.

Gechik · 08/01/2022 17:36

If it was the other way round would he be running round after you and looking after the DC while you isolated with a few box sets and books.

ILookAtTheFloor · 08/01/2022 17:45

We haven't bothered.

So far I'm negative, DH tested positive on Tuesday.

We'll see. I know two people who tried it and it both failed and others in the house caught it anyway, so I think it's of limited value-- unless you're CV, then I think it's worth a shot. If not, no.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 08/01/2022 18:03

DD (teen) mostly stayed in her room but that's nothing new Grinand none of the rest of us in household caught it. DCs had it for the 2nd time over Christmas very mild and we continued as normal as it's just too stressful to spend Christmas doing room service. I thought if it was as transmissible as they said it would be impossible to prevent but yet DH and I did not get it 🤷‍♀️

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Upallnight23 · 08/01/2022 22:25

Thanks everyone for their replies. Im going to say he has to fend for himself now so I can focus on the dc, don't mind obviously making him dinner etc but it's just the constant messages for stuff while he sits in the room getting uninterrupted peace 😑..

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DollyStardust · 08/01/2022 22:34

Get him a load of snacks, a kettle with powdered milk and drop in a packed lunch and 2l bottle of water each day then what else could he need if you're making dinner?

99victoria · 08/01/2022 23:54

My OH tested positive on Tuesday. We've just been carrying on as normal. Obviously he hasn't been out but he's been cooking dinner and doing jobs around the house as he normally would. He isn't really ill at all though.

My adult daughter who lives with us at the moment, had it just before christmas so she isn't bothered about isolating from him. I'm testing every other day and go about my life as normal. So far, I'm negative

JorisBonson · 08/01/2022 23:57

I didn't isolate from DH at all and didn't catch it 🤷🏻‍♀️

sarah13xx · 08/01/2022 23:58

Yes, did exactly this just over a week ago! We have quite a young baby so luckily had help from family members some nights where they dropped off a plate of food ready to go and I just say it at his door. I barely felt like I was isolating at all though as I was on the go the full day making sure everyone was sorted out 🙈 My cousin didnt do this though and on day 7 her partner caught it so I really wouldn’t want to have been in their situation! I think if you don’t have it at the start of their isolation it is just quicker to get it over with the way you’re doing it

sarah13xx · 09/01/2022 00:01

Yes I’d agree with @DollyStardust

I offered to drop his coffee machine up to him but he said no, then requested coffees 😒 I put a tupperware box of biscuits, snacks, cereal bars etc outside the door to save me trailing up with snacks every hour or two. He did continually ask for water to be delivered though, wish I’d just done the bottle thing!

FancySomeChips · 09/01/2022 00:01

He can get up before you all and gather snacks, drinks etc for the day, wipe down the fridge/door handles etc and then lock himself away.
Buy him a cheap kettle if needed.

I stayed in my room all day everyday (but I was very ill) and even wore a mask to sleep in as I was worried the pets would catch it off me (might have been slightly delusional with the fever 🙄). Did not ask my kids to fetch me anything.

NerrSnerr · 09/01/2022 09:09

@Gechik

If it was the other way round would he be running round after you and looking after the DC while you isolated with a few box sets and books.
This is what I'd be asking.
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