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14 year old ds unvaccinated with high temp and headache

29 replies

Kaylasmum49 · 05/01/2022 14:51

I tested positive on Thursday, my 18 year old dd started with symptoms of a cold after 2 people at her work tested positive for covid. She mostly had cold symptoms but developed a cough. 7 negative lft’s, she didn’t want to have a pcr so we all isolated. My son was showing some cold symptoms the day before me. He’s autistic and wasn’t happy about doing a test so I haven’t pushed it. Yesterday, day 8 he started to get a high temperature which came down with calpol, he won’t swallow tablets. He has had a temperature on and of since then and a bad headache.

I have awful health anxiety and I am panicking massively. The gp is prescribing liquid paracetamol for him and has been quite reassuring concerning his risks etc but I am spiralling and struggling so much.

Can anyone please help to alleviate my fears

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EvilPea · 05/01/2022 14:56

You could see if you can get one of the gargle and spit tests. I’ve heard they are a bit grim but less invasive.

There are a lot of colds doing the rounds though, so it could just be that.

If he can’t swallow tablets, You can also get nurofen in little meltlets that dissolve in your mouth.

Thethingswedidanddidntdo · 05/01/2022 14:58

Would it help to tell us exactly what you fear is?

EvilPea · 05/01/2022 15:00

Just had another read of your post. If your symptomatic the advice is to PCR as it picks up differently to LFTs. Hence why you can’t pcr for 90 days after testing positive.

So to be honest I’d isolate you all for ten days from the start of each of your symptoms. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck. It’s probably a duck.

Just keep your sons fluids up, paracetamol alternate with nurofen. To keep the temperature down and feeling ok. Let him sleep. I bought an oxygen monitor when the government advised them, but I don’t know if that’s so much of an issue with omicron.

Beamur · 05/01/2022 15:02

Try to believe your Dr. It sounds likely your DS has it and it's very likely he'll feel a bit rough for a few days and then will be fine. Give him whatever pain relief he'll take, rest and keep hydrated. Ring 111 for advice if you are worried by any symptoms getting worse.
I know some people are in hospital with this, but I personally know loads of people who have caught Covid in the last few weeks and are fine.
It's a scary time but fingers crossed you will all be fine and out the other side of this in a few days. Keep calm and focus on what you can practically do to help.

AlexaShutUp · 05/01/2022 15:03

It might be covid or it might not be. Either way, chances are very high that you'll all be fine.

Are you getting help with your anxiety? It sounds like you might benefit from this.

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Kaylasmum49 · 05/01/2022 15:10

My fear is that he becomes seriously ill, and that it will be my fault for not having him vaccinated.

I am on the waiting list for psychotherapy

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steppemum · 05/01/2022 15:11

I have had covid, as has my dh and my 14 year old has had it twice.

Please try not to worry, I was quite poorly and still it was like having a bad bout of flu. My dd who has had it twice was poorly like your ds for a few days.

It is very unlikely he will be any worse than he is now, keep taking paracetamol, and drinking fluids.

There are also a LOT of coughs and colds going round, and he could just have one of those.

Thethingswedidanddidntdo · 05/01/2022 15:14

Presumably you had good reason not to have him vaccinated. Mum guilt is awful but if you did what you thought was best for him, please don't beat yourself up.

Separately the vaccine is safer than covid but neither are risky at all for young people so in all likelihood he'll be fine either way. Would you be really anxious if he got a cold? Because it's likely to be no worse for him.

(Disclaimer just in case: I am not saying covid is just a cold! I just mean that for a healthy young person it is likely to be no more serious).

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Kaylasmum49 · 05/01/2022 15:15

steppemum is your dd vaccinated? I think it’s very likely to be covid as I tested positive on a pcr last week and he spends a lot of time next to me.

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steppemum · 05/01/2022 15:16

@Kaylasmum49

My fear is that he becomes seriously ill, and that it will be my fault for not having him vaccinated.

I am on the waiting list for psychotherapy

please don't go down the guilt trip line. It really isn't your fault.

My dd is also not vaccinated, as she has not been eligible every time it has been possible.
My 16 year old only managed to get a second vaccination this week, depsite all our best efforts.
Real life is as it is.

steppemum · 05/01/2022 15:18

@Kaylasmum49

steppemum is your dd vaccinated? I think it’s very likely to be covid as I tested positive on a pcr last week and he spends a lot of time next to me.
sorry cross posts with you.

No, and she has now had covid twice. Sad
She had covid just before she became eligible first time, we had her ready to get it 28 days after that, and they changed it to 90 days for 12-16 year olds so she wasn't eligible.

Then she got Covid again.

Now she is STILL not eligible until March!

birdscheermeup · 05/01/2022 15:20

I hope you are all feeling better soon OP. Prayers for you

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Kaylasmum49 · 05/01/2022 15:28

steppemum how old is your dd and how unwell was she? I have awful catastrophic thinking.

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Valaris · 05/01/2022 15:32

Why didn't DD want to get a pcr?

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Kaylasmum49 · 05/01/2022 15:34

She has anxiety and couldn’t go through with it

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Valaris · 05/01/2022 15:46

Sorry I have autism and don't understand. She can get a home or and do it herself? It's the same as a lft?

AlexaShutUp · 05/01/2022 15:51

OP, the chances of a healthy 14yo getting seriously unwell with covid are vanishingly slim, whether they are vaccinated or not. And I say that as someone who is very pro-vax and as the mum of a double jabbed teenager.

The thing is, even if you should have got your dc vaccinated, there is nothing that you can do about that right now. Catastrophising about it won't make it any less likely to happen. You can't control the situation by worrying about it. So try to relax and trust that your dc will be absolutely fine.

If you don't owe it to yourself, you owe it to your dc to stop worrying. They will pick up on your anxiety no matter how hard you try to hide it, so take a step back, focus on the rational facts and breathe. Everything is going to be alright.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 05/01/2022 15:53

Are these threads actually helping you OP, you've posted about this at least twice before and got lots of reassurance but now you're posting again. I don't think this is helping you.

Thethingswedidanddidntdo · 05/01/2022 16:07

@Waxonwaxoff0 I hope you are Still accessing support. I have recovered from severe health anxiety. I feel really bad for you because you must know rationally that it's your anxiety that's the problem, not covid, and that threads like this will not help you- they just feed the beast. Please speak to your counsellor and in the meantime practise whatever grounding techniques you've been taught so far. You can be free from this, you don't have to live like this. Best wishes.

Newyearnewme2022 · 05/01/2022 17:20

If your ds has autism he may be eligible for anti virals, 119 will be able to tell you.
Children with autism were eligible for the vaccine in the vulnerable group before it was rolled out to all children.

Thethingswedidanddidntdo · 05/01/2022 18:34

Apologies my above message was for @Kaylasmum49 not the other PP.

Serenschintte · 05/01/2022 18:45

Take some deep breaths. Do you have any other coping mechanisms you have been given? Eg rub your arms 20-30 times.
Your DS has advice from his GP. Follow that advice. It’s not pleasant when your children are ill but he is extremely likely to be ok and recover from this.
You being calm will help.
Have courage. All will be well.

steppemum · 05/01/2022 18:49

@Kaylasmum49

steppemum how old is your dd and how unwell was she? I have awful catastrophic thinking.
dd is 14. The first time she was liek your ds, temp, felt rough for a few days. really not bad. the second time more like a cold. Both times tired for a few days after. Her taste is still a bit off.

There is no point beating yourself up. He has a temperature. Kids of all ages have temperatures all the time. Covid or not, he is veyr likely to sleep it off and feel better in 48 hours.

You have said yourself you tested positive. But you aren't very ill are you? You dd isn't very ill either is she? No need to think ds would be any more ill than you or dd.

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Kaylasmum49 · 05/01/2022 21:22

It’s more the fact that he hasn’t had the vaccine that worries me. My dd is double vaccinated.

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AlexaShutUp · 05/01/2022 21:26

@Kaylasmum49

It’s more the fact that he hasn’t had the vaccine that worries me. My dd is double vaccinated.
There is literally no point in worrying about that right now. It won't help.

He is young and he will be OK. Make plans to get him vaccinated after he recovers, by all means, so that you don't end up in this situation again. But there is nothing to be gained from beating yourself up about it now.

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