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COVID Disagreement

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ErinAoife · 03/01/2022 19:30

Can I ask about a disagreement that i have with my friend related to covid? She came back from visiting her boyfriend last Thursday and tested positive for covid so she informed him and he tested positive as well. Unfortunately the boyfriend has his kids staying with him at the time of her visit so they need to stay home with him, they were supposed to be back at their mother home last Sunday. she is complaining to me that the kids mom told her boyfriend that he has to follow the government guidelines and do 3 lft tests with a two days intervals between them and if all three test are negative she would take the kids back. She is outraged by it as boyfriend cannot rest with having the kids at his home, the kids don't show any symptoms and only one of the kids tested positive so far, 3 kids aged 7 to 17 (the 17 tested positive) I told her that the mom is doing the right thing by not taking them as she will be bringing covid into her household. But for her the mom is just being a bad mom for not taking care of her kids and if the other kids get covid it will be the mother fault. Fyi, her boyfriend don't have any symptoms either. What do you think?

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ACryForHelp · 04/01/2022 14:58

Why does he need to rest if he doesn’t have any symptoms so, presumably, isn’t feeling unwell?

Comefromaway · 04/01/2022 15:01

Legally the kids don’t have to isolate at all.

However I can understand the mum not wanting to bring Covid into her home.

samks · 04/01/2022 15:03

I understand why the mum doesn’t want the kids to go there.
I couldn’t rest either when I had it…as I have children and no one would take them from me either 👀

itwasntaparty · 04/01/2022 15:58

Why does he need to test if he doesn't have any symptoms?

itwasntaparty · 04/01/2022 15:58

Rest ffs!

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ErinAoife · 04/01/2022 17:32

I am not 100 sure of governmentt guideline in Ireland. My friend lives in the North of Ireland and boyfriend in the Republic of Ireland and I am in the UK so really different rules. Was looking at the Irish guidelines for the Republic as the father is covid positive, the kids has been redeemed close contact and therefore must restrict their movement and stay at home. The kids usually resides with their mother but was with their father during the festive period. I do agree with the mom of not taking them back until it is OK to do so. It is so confusing to have different advice per countries. Should be the same everywhere

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ErinAoife · 04/01/2022 17:34

The father despite having no symptoms got a pcr test done as my friend contact him to say she had covid after staying at his place for whose wanting to know

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Comefromaway · 04/01/2022 17:35

Them being in Ireland changes things. They must follow the rules there.

Potatodrivers · 04/01/2022 17:42

Tell him to quit moaning and be a dad. If the mother was ill and the kids were with her, I bet he would just expect her to get on with it.
It makes him sound even worse since he has no symptoms, so has no reason to rest in the first place! How lazy

Babyvenusplant · 04/01/2022 17:44

By 'rest' do you mean he gets no child-free time to himself? If so then he'll just have to suck it up until the isolation ends 🤷‍♀️

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