Would we need to leave?

[happysunnydays]

Myself, DH, DS and DD arrived at in-laws yesterday for Christmas. We'd all taken LFTs before we came, all negative.

Since she went to bed tonight, DD (2) has started coughing and seems very snotty all of a sudden. She's asleep but I will do a test on her when she gets up in the morning. She has potentially had contact with someone with covid at the start of the week at nursery so I think we are more aware of the risk that she could have covid but clearly hope that not to be the case.

Talking to my FIL this evening, I mentioned DD coughing and he said that if she does test positive then we'd all need to leave and go home.

My question is - do we need to? Given that we have already all spent a day together in the house already, haven't we already spread any potential germs around? Obviously it's his house and if he feels that strongly about it, we'd have to leave, but I'm curious what others think the "right" answer would be in this situation?

Cos they’re the host yes but I would never make someone leave on Xmas Day, that is so unreasonable and depressing. I’m at my parents’ and none of us tested or care. But obviously they see it differently.

Of course your FIL is right. Your child should be isolating and waiting for a pcr test. You should have gone last night.

@Mummyoflittledragon

Fuckery I thought pompoms is perhaps suggesting op should be careful when testing a 2 yo as they’re tiny and fragile, thinner mucous membranes etc, no?

Right. That makes sense. OP needs to just go home then, even if it's just a cold. If she can't test, the only way is to assume covid.

I mean it's his house.. you can't force yourself on him!

@SandysMam

That table is rubbish, I had heavy sneezing even with the Kent variant and so almost everyone I know who has had Covid reports cold symptoms including runny nose and sneezing.

Yes. Sneezing and runny nose were my main symptoms with Delta!

Zoe app says these are main symptoms

I hope everything is okay this morning. You do have to leave if your FIL had asked, but hopefully she tests negative this morning. 2 year olds have head colds constantly.

Of course you would it's their house! Have some respect and do what they ask.

Is she positive on lft?

I can’t believe any decent human would chuck their small grandchild and family out of their home on Christmas morning, covid or not.

If he is anything other than happy and welcoming to his grandchildren, I wouldn’t be going back there ever.

Did you come by car? If not, then staying out might be the lesser of two evils, so to speak.

*staying put

@LethargicActress

I can’t believe any decent human would chuck their small grandchild and family out of their home on Christmas morning, covid or not.

If he is anything other than happy and welcoming to his grandchildren, I wouldn’t be going back there ever.

Nor can I. I find it really depressing.

What was the outcome OP?

Hi, thank you all for the replies and apologies for the delay in coming back - been a bit of a crazy day! We did LFT this morning and she was negative.

She was only coughing once she had gone to bed last night and hasn't coughed pretty much all day today. No temperature etc so we're assuming that it is just a cold and the cough was as a result of her lying down and being snotty. As it is, we're all satisfied that she's fine and likely just a cold so haven't felt the need for a PCR test.

I do accept the feeling of most responders though, that if she does have symptoms then we will get her a PCR test and go home. I guess I was just panicking a bit last night as frankly it would have been a bit rubbish to all have to pack up on Christmas Day and go home, especially for my very excited older child, but realise that that would have been the right answer.

We're here for a while yet and if she does start with any proper symptoms then we'll just go home. Thanks again everyone!

Well surely since your uninvited then yes you’d need to leave. And I don’t know anyone with an ounce of commence sense who would stay

Meh. I think your FIL sounds a right knob.

But then I’m rapidly losing my patience with this obsessive nonsense in otherwise healthy people who are unlikely to experience anything worse than a cold with covid.

Different if you’re vulnerable obviously. Or are caring for somebody vulnerable and they are reliant on you.

I’m glad you didn’t leave, I thought that was really mean. Really, don’t worry about a PCR. Just enjoy your Xmas now.
If you’d posted this on AIBU you would’ve got very different responses as the people on this section have extreme health anxiety. Turning someone out is hardly the spirit of Christmas.

If they are vulnerable and have other medical conditions then I would have volunteered to leave.

No one here is vulnerable, all adults are fully vaccinated and boosted. FIL works in a hospital and has always been very relaxed about the risks of covid throughout (in fact, more relaxed than we were as a young family certainly at the start of all of this!) so the insistence that we would have had to leave is slightly at odds with his general stance... he had no issue with BIL (his daughters son) coming for xmas one week after being confirmed covid positive (even before the rules changed the other day)!