Would this be okay with you?

[Firstshoes]

Adult dd lives with partner and their ds who's 7 and ds who is 18 months. They were due to come to our house on Christmas morning for an hour or two. Adult dd has just tested positive on pcr. Her partner is saying he will now bring the dgcs over himself on Christmas morning. It is within the rules. Myself, dh and teenage ds have health conditions but not really CV. Ds has not been jabbed yet (has apt booked for January). Would you be happy with them coming over? Her partner is doing daily lfts but not the dgcs

Are you happy with it? That's the only thing that matters really. If you're uncomfortable with it just say no.

Hmm tricky, technically if he does a lateral flow it’s within the rules now but personally in a similar situation recently I didn’t meet with a friend.

Could you meet outside for a walk instead?

No, I personally wouldn’t, although it’s not against the current rules.

Offer to meet at a playpark

Not against the rules but I'd not be happy having them over.

Personally no, especially if they're not LFTing the children.

That totally depends on your decision about what risk you want to expose yourself to to see the grandchildren. All depends on your personal circumstances. It has to be something you are happy with because of you then become positive, you'll resent it.

It’s just completely up to you. If you don’t feel comfortable then not worth it for a few hours.
There’s no reason the 7 year old can’t do a LFT. But still no guarantees.

We are a little uncomfortable with it but not sure if we are being unreasonable as it is within the rules. I would prefer to see them outside but I think they want to come round. It will be a shame for the dgcs.

I wouldn’t do it personally, but to be honest I’m so sick of it all, and sick of the hypocrisy of those that are telling us what to do, I wouldn’t judge anyone else.

I'm usually quite relaxed but this just seems a bit too risky. I think I'll have to suggest outisde but rain is forecast so would be difficult for dgcs to have their presents

I honestly wouldn’t risk it. We have all ended up getting it in my house. Meet up when they are all clear.

I wouldn't risk it.

Thank you. You've all made me feel better. I feel mean saying no but I think I'll have to

I wouldn't be happy with it at all. I think it's insane that you can go wherever you want when you're living in a household with covid. When DSS had it, technically I could have gone wherever I wanted, but I isolated with him - missing a family birthday in the process. It didn't feel right, or safe, or sensible.

Yes, that's kind of how I feel. It just seems too risky. Dd is not isolating in her own home (nor should she) but I think the chances of the others in the household getting it are very high

Wouldn't care but it's your choice. You should do what you're comfortable with.

Id be fine with it. But I also don’t think you’re unreasonable to not be.

Im not vulnerable but wouldn't have the children round if they're not tested if they're in a house with a positive case as could be asymptomatic

I'd feel happier if the child was doing daily lfts.

Do they have a garden/conservatory?

Perhaps you could suggest going to theirs instead and sitting in an open conservatory (social distancing) so the children can open their presents?

No conservatory for either of us but they do have a garden we could access without going through the house. We'll maybe suggest that.