BIL knowingly came to our house after close contact

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NC for this
I don't know if I'm just overreacting here
I know I could catch it anywhere and people are obvious spreading it unknowingly but I'm so annoyed with BIL for doing this
He came to our house to drop off presents for dc's today and stayed a few hours . Then just casually drops into conversation that someone he spent the day with at the weekend has tested positive and he will get a pcr test but not until tomorrow night when he's 'got time'

So bloody close to Xmas !

He's a dick.

I'd be pissed off too. It's very selfish given the timing. Lots of people are being extra cautious this week so they don't have to isolate over Christmas. What a knob.

I think you're overreacting. People are in 'close contact' all the time and going by that most people are asymptomatic you're probably in close contact more than you think

@trackand I have considered this angle too
I could already have it for all I know
I could have caught it at the supermarket yday , who knows
It's the fact that he knew though . Just seems to make it worse

He's following official guidelines (assuming he's double vaxxed) and hasn't broken any rules. Half the country's got COVID atm - if you want to add on special rules for yourself and your family, I think it's on you to make that clear to people.

Also be realistic - if you've been to a shop, the pub or on public transport there's a very high chance you'll have been in vicinity of someone with the virus. Even if you catch it, no way of knowing it was him.

I’d be annoyed

So ! I was a contact but double jabbed I got a test but carried on as my lateral were negative you don’t need to isolate.

Blimey OP, using your guidelines, I'd never have been able to go anywhere at all since the second week in September...when the first child in my class tested positive.

They fell like flies after that one...with a grand total of 21/30 testing positive by Friday last week since the start of term 🙌🏼 (this means that I've literally been in 'close contact' with positive cases for the past 14 weeks 😱 I was lucky...I avoided catching it the entire time...until this weekend when I tested positive...my lovely darlings gave me a great Christmas present 🤦‍♀️ It can only have come from school, as that's the only place I'd been in the 6 days prior 🤷‍♀️

Obviously it's not ideal, but there really is no way to avoid being a 'close contact' anymore really, and no rules were broken.

I think if you want people to pay attention to your personal rules, on top of the official ones, then you need to communicate that to everyone.

That said, I would have given you the heads up and let you decide if you were happy for me to still come. Especially, so close to Christmas.

He’s following guidelines so it’s the guidelines you’re annoyed at really

He sounds like a bell end. Who follows rules and guidelines to the letter without engaging their own brain?

Yabu

Yanbu

I'd be cheesed off too - guidelines or not. He should have let you know first. He knew.

What did you say to him?

He could have ruined your Christmas entirely.

Yanbu at all!!!! Crazy. Hope you swerve it.

Yabu. Remember that advice in the BBC news from an expert the other week, "unless you live like a hermit, you WILL come into close contact with covid 19 by the end of the year". It's everywhere. My daughter went to 3 places since school broke up on Friday, and totalled 6 covid +ve tclose contacts that we have since been have notified us off since Friday! Yesterday her grandparents took her to a public place for lunch where goodness knows how many people have covid.

We LFT my DD every day at the moment as she is the only person with all these close contacts.

I honestly think your bil would have assumed that he is fine to follow the guidelines. I wouldn't be angry, it is impossible to avoid covid close contact at the moment unless you live like a hermit.

Ah he's following guidelines so done nothing wrong? No, I'd be annoyed too. People only seem to follow the guidelines that suit them. People don't want to get vaccinated or wear a mask and won't comply if there is a new lock down. But change the isolation rules and that's something people can get on board with. I'd be annoyed too and I wouldn't be visiting people willy nilly if I'd been exposed.

Threads like these make me think I live in an alternate reality. I teach so am in close contact to ‘close contacts’ all the time. I’ve sat next to children who the next day have tested positive. My own children have Covid now (so all Xmas plans cancelled). Unless you live in a bubble, you’ll be exposed to it. Have faith in the vaccines. DH also a teacher. Neither of us have contracted it (touch wood).

Sounds like a dickhead, but unfortunately the world is full of then so it’s hard to avoid close contact with dickheads.

If you have had close contact with a positive case you should do a lateral flow every day for 7 days but carry on as normal
I have just been doing the same but avoiding meeting anyone else outside my family. The meetings that I did have planned were quite easy to cancel and leave for another day
It’s called using a bit of common sense and not risking others health where there is a choice

Is BIL doing daily LFTs? Is anyone in your household CEV?

If yes and no, then YABU. If no and yes then YANBU.

I just can't worry about stuff like this. You can catch it anywhere from anyone.

I usually wouldn't be bothered but I think this close to Christmas if you know you've been in close contact then stay away from people you don't have to be around

I’ve been surrounded by sick kids all term, one of whom literally coughed all over me before testing positive the next day. No-one gave a flying fuck.

The upside is that I’ve been left with strangely liberating fatalism, I don’t feel scared anymore. Vaccines & talk of milder variant have helped.

From my shoes, posts like this feel a bit precious, although I do think there is a sensible middle-ground somewhere between our experiences.