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To not test?

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RickyZooom · 21/12/2021 21:41

We (me, DH and two preschool DC) are due to see DP (in their 70's, fully vax'd), DB and his gf (fully vax'd) at Christmas. Whilst my family are fully vax'd, they're very anti-testing and are more along the lines of "if I feel ill, I just don't go out, the same as any other cold etc". They've all had various coughs and colds this year and none of them have EVER taken a lateral flow!
Meanwhile us on the other hand have had to do numerous tests for kids nursery etc, or when we have had symptoms.

I've asked if my family are taking care at the moment not to go to busy places etc and they're not - quite happy to go to busy pubs etc in the knowledge that they're "fully vax'd". I asked whether anyone would do a LFT before we meet at Christmas and they're not.

We plan on testing even though we're asymptomatic - more to protect my parents than ourselves (all low risk). I'm just a bit annoyed that we run the risk of potentially one of the DC testing positive (with no symptoms), ending up having a ruined Christmas staying in our small flat for 10 days. Part of me thinks why should I bother! Nobody else is bothering to test...

I already know the answer but just wanted to vent somewhere. I'm sure there will be millions of people over the Christmas period not doing testing, especially if they haven't got symptoms but we want to do the right thing.

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ItsSnowJokes · 21/12/2021 21:42

Your family are twats and I personally wouldn't be going. They are very selfish.

Casmama · 21/12/2021 21:45

Your family are selfish and irresponsible and clearly haven't taken the time to do the most basic of research. Dont let their attitude rub off on you.
Many people don't seem to have any sense of responsibility to those around them who may be in poorer health or immunosuppressed and it's really disappointing

Meredusoleil · 21/12/2021 21:50

I would ask them to test, just to be on the safe side and say you're not comfortable coming if they refuse.

PokemonGoGoGo · 21/12/2021 21:51

Two wrongs don't make a right, so I would continue to test if I were you. But it's really inconsiderate of them not to think of the impact on you if they had it and passed it on.

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RickyZooom · 21/12/2021 21:54

They've never done a test so they won't do one now. They're in the "this can't be Covid" brigade. I'd like to think if they were struck down with a fever, cough and loss of smell/taste they actually WOULD do one!
The silly thing is, the only vulnerable people in the group are my parents, so that's the predominant reason why we would test but what can you do when the vulnerable people themselves aren't bothered?!
We have so much more to lose if one of us tests positive (upset kids, Christmas stuck in a small flat etc).

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LonginesPrime · 21/12/2021 21:55

We plan on testing even though we're asymptomatic - more to protect my parents than ourselves (all low risk). I'm just a bit annoyed that we run the risk of potentially one of the DC testing positive (with no symptoms), ending up having a ruined Christmas staying in our small flat for 10 days. Part of me thinks why should I bother! Nobody else is bothering to test...

Won't the risk of someone in your household testing positive be the same regardless of whether your wider family are testing themselves at the same time before meeting up, though?

PurpleDaisies · 21/12/2021 21:57

Just ask them to test and don’t go, or only meet them outside if not. It’s the new dilemma for Christmas. Everyone has a slightly different view of what’s right.

We’re not testing because we’re less than 90 days from having covid. Once we’re outside that we will be again.

AnnieSnap · 21/12/2021 21:58

I wouldn’t go. Just have a lovely nuclear family Christmas this year. Their loss.

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RickyZooom · 21/12/2021 21:59

Won't the risk of someone in your household testing positive be the same regardless of whether your wider family are testing themselves at the same time before meeting up, though?

I guess it's the saying "ignorance is bliss".. we haven't got any symptoms, could easily not test and go up there. But the minute you test positive, even without symptoms, that's it, Christmas is off! Nobody would willingly carry on with their plans then, I guess.
It's all hypothetical as we could all test negative, I guess it's just that worry that one of the DC has picked up something at nursery this week. ARGHH it's so annoying.

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Sally872 · 21/12/2021 22:09

You are doing the right thing protecting your more vulnerable family members understand it is frustrating as they are not protecting themselves by visiting busy places

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