So down about it all

[timanddaisy]

I'm currently still in bed as I have absolutely no motivation to do anything. I've never felt so utterly down.

I love Christmas. Love the build-up, the busy-ness, the plans, shopping for last minute bits. Even cleaning the house and preparing lovely things.

It all feels like such a waste of time.

Positive PCR yesterday. Symptoms started last week so my isolation finishes on Boxing Day. This is on top of exactly the same thing happening to me last year when I was really quite unwell.

This year, physically I feel Ok. But mentally, I'm not.

I just feel like pulling the duvet over my head and not coming out until Spring. I can't be bothered with the simplest of tasks. My DC are older and have been left to their own devices. DH is working all hours so I feel very alone.

Im seriously starting to feel worried about my mental health. I'm shocked by how upset about it all I am.

What can I do??

Anyone?!

Sorry you feel like this. The anxiety and worry is much worse this year.

💐

So sorry for you OP. 😢

Thank you.

I'm shocked by how unmotivated I am to do anything. Everything seems so pointless. I'm scaring myself. When I was ill last year, it was Ok if rubbish for a while. This year, it feels much sadder and darker.

For anyone else in this situation. It's truly shit.

If you are tired and ill, rest. X

Can you watch something comforting on the ipad or TV in bed to distract yourself? I watch Friends when I'm depressed.

Maybe run a nice bath and put some comfy clothes on?

Look after yourself, it's understandable that you feel shitty.

I was sick last Christmas too and now positive. I’ve just ordered myself a cashmere jumper as a reward to myself. I’m trying to be upbeat but it’s really hard.

I think part of having Covid can be to feel unmotivated- my friend had this.
Do nice kind things for yourself. By some nice Pjs and dressing gown. Watch nonsense on tv.
Hope you feel better soon

Can you celebrate Xmas on boxing day if that is your day for coming out of isolation?

Be kind to yourself

I'm in the same situation. DH tested positive on 15th, me yesterday & DS still negative but likely to catch it now as I'm obviously looking after him.

I'd saved all my A/L to have a special time with him & now it's all cancelled & ruined & we're all ill.

I lost my maternity leave to lock downs, returned to work and worked throughout this year front line emergency service , finally made it through to have a break with my little boy only for it to be taken from me at the last minute.

I too am really struggling and I feel utterly beaten down by it all & im so so sad.

I'm sorry I can't help but I'm sorry you're having a shitty time too.

Sorry to hear there are so many of you in the same position. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's horrible.

@Chocolatecoatedkettlebell that sounds lovely. Yes, I think I'll order something nice for myself.

@christmascovid7356 that sounds so hard. I'm sorry you're struggling too

I actually feel like I have a heavy cold and it's not that bad. Mentally though, I'm really struggling this time.

If I had a pound for every msg I've had I've the past few days where someone says 'How are you?' and I've been honest and said 'Not great really.' then had no reply, I'd be rich.

RL friends & family don't seem to know what to say. I'm normally a very happy, sunny sort of person so it must be strange I guess.

I'm very angry about it all but mostly disappointed. It sucks.

Talking to you on here does help massively tho. So thank you again.

That sounds incredibly shitty for you. I think I'd be feeling exactly the same.

Have you got some comfort tv you could watch. I think write today (or the next few days) off. You might feel much better tomorrow about getting into planning things. If not, there will be other Christmases

Rant away on here all you like. It’s a safe place to do that.

It helps that DS is only 2 so I’m having to get in with it and look after him & keep him entertained.

I like the idea of a gift for myself - but no idea what to get… any suggestions?

I want to give you a virtual hug 🤗

No advice I'm afraid. I feel equally unmotivated.

So sorry OP.

I had a positive PCR last Monday and it’s shit. My favourite part of Christmas is the build up. Actually more than the actual day. So everyone keeps saying ‘at least you’ll be out by Christmas’. And I think, yes great, just in time to cook dinner for 11 of DH’s relatives. Fantastic. I had to postpone my own parents, who I was really looking forward to seeing (they live far away).

Things that have helped a bit- having a nice warm bath, watching Christmas films, eating all the chocolate, putting candles on. Still very shit though!

@christmascovid7356

Rant away on here all you like. It’s a safe place to do that.

It helps that DS is only 2 so I’m having to get in with it and look after him & keep him entertained.

I like the idea of a gift for myself - but no idea what to get… any suggestions?

• eye shadow palette
• arts and craft item
• book
• if you have an iPhone you can sign up for Apple Arcade 😁 I like the selection of games.

(Apple arcade works on all Apple devices)

I ordered myself a beauty box and it was a surprise what was in it. That cheered me up a bit!

I'm so sorry. Maybe being ill is making you feel really down. Just indulge yourself. Ask your kids to do something for you. You are ill, need tlc.
Look forward to the things you can do when you have recovered. Take care.

@Delatron

So sorry OP.

I had a positive PCR last Monday and it’s shit. My favourite part of Christmas is the build up. Actually more than the actual day. So everyone keeps saying ‘at least you’ll be out by Christmas’. And I think, yes great, just in time to cook dinner for 11 of DH’s relatives. Fantastic. I had to postpone my own parents, who I was really looking forward to seeing (they live far away).

Things that have helped a bit- having a nice warm bath, watching Christmas films, eating all the chocolate, putting candles on. Still very shit though!

Yes to this! Exactly. So many people have said 'Oh well, you can have fun Christmas things after Boxing Day!!'

Not the same. Just isn't. The run up IS the fun bit.

DH works in retail so he's out all hours and the only time off he has is Christmas Day.

My parents are furious. I know they're disappointed too but they've made me feel like it's my fault.

After the shit Christmas I had last year, this just feels like the final straw.

I'm seriously thinking about sacking it all off completely (apart from stuff for the kids) and just skipping straight to booking a holiday for next Summer and trying to salvage something for next year...