Would you meet someone for coffee who's son has tested positive?

[Alarmset]

I've had a shocking last 18 months, quite beyond the effects of Covid isolation and my MH is hanging on by a thread.

I don't have a DP, most people I know do, so if the world shuts down again I'm on my own.

"Everyone" around me seems to have someone positive atm. A friend has suggested a walk and a coffee tomorrow. His adult son has just tested positive. They were together all day Sunday, but don't live together.

We've both had three jabs.

Would you go?

Yes, definitely.

No not just before Christmas

I would, but I still taught 180 different kids a day when my own son had tested positive.

It depends. If the coffee was more important than the next 10 days or so... I am prioritising an event this week and basically isolating until it. Could have been a coffee. To me, my event is more important than seeing family at Christmas. Which will probably be cancelled anyway.

Outside, the transmission risk is minuscule.

No

Yes. You’ve got to weigh up the benefits of seeing a friend vs the tiny risk of catching an infection off her. You will be outdoors, and close contacts no longer need to isolate.

Seeing a friend will be a massive boost to your mood and mental health.

In your position yes. It sounds like you really need it.

So worst case.....they get it.....they give it to you. Would you rather have it and have spent a lovely morning out? Or not get it? That's your answer. There is no right or wrong here. A walk put the house is the safest thing you can do. You can drink the coffee outside too.

(FYI having had it - just stock up paracetamol just in case, and some yummy treat food.)

Yes. I’m also on my own and the social isolation for me is infinitely harder than the possibility of getting a virus that I have had 3 injections to protect against.

@Notdoingthis

It depends. If the coffee was more important than the next 10 days or so... I am prioritising an event this week and basically isolating until it. Could have been a coffee. To me, my event is more important than seeing family at Christmas. Which will probably be cancelled anyway.

Christmas day itself is a bit of a non event for me. I do have things planned in the days after Christmas, but I'm pretty much expecting them to be cancelled

Hi OP

I met a friend in exactly this situation last week. We stayed outdoors – walked the dog then had coffee and cake sitting outside a cafe.

She did a LFT before coming to meet me and we didn't get too close. It didn't feel risky.

Sounds like you really need to see your friend. I hope it makes you feel better.

I'd go, I'd request your friend did a LFT, stay outside & get a takeaway coffee instead of sitting inside

It sounds like you need it

Can you wrap up and sit outside?
Social contact is so important.

Yes. I would ask her to lateral flow before though.

Yes, without a doubt I would. I'd have to go to work if someone in my house was positive, so I'd definitely have a lovely walk and a coffee with a friend.

Probably not, but due to my particular circumstances.

Otherwise I probably would, especially if we could sit outdoors.

Yes I would. Not a household contact and have your coffee outside

How would you mental health handle having to isolate for 10days if you do catch it? Too risky for me. Especially at Christmas

@whosaidtha

How would you mental health handle having to isolate for 10days if you do catch it? Too risky for me. Especially at Christmas

I feel like it's going to happen at some point anyway. Missing Christmas isn't worse than having to isolate at any other time, especially if there are more restrictions after Christmas, so I wouldn't be missing anything anyway.

If it wasn't school holidays, I'd be in work with him.

Yes. Just don't share a coffee cup!