Advice on seeing someone unvaccinated

[Aspiringmatriarch]

I've just found out a friend's partner is anti vaccinations. She has specifically requested to come and see us over the Christmas period, and I want to do this as she's had a very tough time recently and can't travel to our house on her own so would be with him. I've just had my booster jab so I'm probably reasonably well protected, as are all my immediate family with the exception of the under 10s. Just looking for thoughts on whether this is a sensible thing to go ahead with? Wait until summer and cases come down maybe? I understand unvaccinated people are much more likely to spread covid and this is a complication we could all do without, apart from any worries about the health impact. They're travelling from a place with very high infection rates as well.

So... do I request they do a lateral flow test before coming (which we will also do) and just keep the window open and not get too close? Or suggest we wait until it's warmer and we can all stay outside?

I would offer to meet out doors and go for a walk

I'm unvaccinated, I've never had a test nor would I. If family or a friend asked me to before visiting them I'd tell them to poke their invitation where the sun doesn't shine.. thankfully I don't know anybody who would even think to ask!!

Get a grip!!

I've got unvaccinated friends - doesn't bother me.

If it makes you feel any better.. my unvaccinated friend got it from a vaccinated colleague. Unvaccinated friend did not pass it on to his wife or kids. Shared the same room, etc..

dilly123

Wow. You're a tiny part of the reason our hospitals will be in crisis next month. I'm sure you'll be outraged if they can't give you what you need.

Your selfishness in not taking a test in any circumstances, when an older person could potentially be spared sickeness and a horrible death...

I have no words for you.

@Takemine

dilly123

Wow. You're a tiny part of the reason our hospitals will be in crisis next month. I'm sure you'll be outraged if they can't give you what you need.

Your selfishness in not taking a test in any circumstances, when an older person could potentially be spared sickeness and a horrible death...

I have no words for you.

I don't need your words... your opinion of me is of no interest!

I think we'll go ahead with it - assuming there aren't any further restrictions by then. Although I won't be surprised if I hear he won't do a test either, which would change things again.

I wouldn't have him.

If he won't even put himself out to do a test, then I would kick him to the curb.

I wouldn't have him just on principle. Don't want people who make selfish decisions around me and my family at Christmas. Tell him he can deliver your friend and then sit outside. If he is such a proponent of freedom and bodily autonomy then I'm sure he will be delighted to sit free of the confines of your home.

Would you feel them same if the relative couldn't get vaxxed due to disability rather than personal views? Just wondering.

@Aspiringmatriarch

I don't really get how the unvaccinated spread it more when the jabs don't stop you actually getting covid.

Thank you but I'm looking for scientifically informed advice if possible. I think at this stage the information is out there if you're interested.

I'm trying to gauge how much this increases the risks to everyone and balance that against upsetting my friend.

If you're looking for scientifically based advice, Mumsnet is probably not the place to search..

They are the one at risk rather than you. They likely to get poorlier than you if contract it

My double jabbed and boostered colleague has just caught Covid as has his grown up son who also has had both jabs and booster

It's Russian roulette as to whether you catch it. We as colleagues are all testing negative 7 days on.