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children and isolating in a house????

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Sami544 · 19/12/2021 20:41

ds 12yrs just tested positive with Lft. Have ordered pcrs as cannot get tests done near us. Should he now stay in his room?
obviously don't want to get it but he is my son and I feel like he is all alone as rest of us still negative.
What have others done that has worked???

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Sally872 · 19/12/2021 21:09

I would leave my 12 year old in her room as long as she was coping and not actually ill. Mine would be delighted for at least 2-3 days. If she was unwell or struggling mentally I would of course not keep her isolating.

DontTellThemYourNamePike · 19/12/2021 21:10

It depends on the child I reckon. DS13 was happy to stay in his room when he had Covid. In fact, we barely noticed the difference!! He himself decided it was sensible to stay away from us if he could, as he knows a 10 day isolation for me would mean I couldn't care for my elderly mum (although I realise this is probably inevitable at some point). None of us caught it. He's not a very tactile child and wasn't particularly impressed when I opened my arms for a hug after his isolation was over😀

This definitely wouldn't work with his 9yo brother though and that's fine. I'll just have to cross that bridge when I come to it.

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Sami544 · 19/12/2021 21:19

he has asked to be in his room. I think a bit excited about us allowing xbox up there. Usually downstairs.

another questions for those who have dealt with this. After the pcr should we also do more lfts in 10days to see if still positive? Dh has said some articles are saying the new variants only lasts a week???

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Timeturnerplease · 19/12/2021 21:21

If I was 12 now and had access to Netflix and books on a Kindle I’d probably love a week or so’s peace in my room. But I was a quiet and introverted child.

I’d personally ask a 12 year old what they’d like to do, emphasising that it is entirely their choice and whether or not they pass it on is absolutely NOT their ‘fault’.

Timeturnerplease · 19/12/2021 21:21

Ah just saw your update. Can see the allure of an XBox for a 12yo boy!

Drywhitefruitycidergin · 19/12/2021 21:24

My 10 year old has just finished isolation & me & 7 year old haven't caught it. We went with ventilation & masks & dd2 moved in with me and she hasn't passed it on. yet?😱
Whether that is more luck than judgement, who knows. I have a friend & the 11 year old tested +'ve on 3rd Dec & it's gradually spread through them all.

Mother40 · 19/12/2021 21:25

My 12 year old isolated in his room and had a bathroom to himself. He was a bit bored but reasonably happy with his laptop etc. He wasn't particularly I'll though, and I don't think my 9 year old would cope so well with being in her room. None of us caught it from him.

CoffeeWithCheese · 19/12/2021 21:37

Both of mine have it at the moment - and I am NEVER going to deny my kids cuddles on the sofa when they're feeling mildly grotty (or just wanting a cuddle) and make them stay in one room of their home. If it means I get it - it means I get it - they need to know that this is their safe place and that that is unconditional. Me and DH are testing every day to keep an eye on the situation - but there's no way we'd treat the kids how some on MN seem to have delighted in doing so.

Papertrail392 · 19/12/2021 21:41

CoffeeWithCheese can you understand why people like myself who are CEV would have to though? You sound incredibly judgemental. Everyone should do what's right for their own family situation without passing judement on others.

Yellowarmy · 19/12/2021 21:44

It's child cruelty if you lock them in their bedroom for 10 days. If you're CEV and worried, lock yourself away for 10 days.

Papertrail392 · 19/12/2021 21:46

Yellowarmy oh ffs, no one's locking their children in their bedrooms for 10 days! Have a

CoffeeWithCheese · 19/12/2021 21:47

@Papertrail392

Yes I judge you. It is cruelty to a child.

Yellowarmy · 19/12/2021 21:49

You are probably correct that they are not physically locking them in their room, but I've heard of many cases of children not being 'allowed' out of their room.

Papertrail392 · 19/12/2021 21:53

Yellowarmy Well that certainly wouldn't be the case in our home. DS would be 'allowed' out of his room whenever he wanted but if he was happy to isolate, with all his home comforts etc then that's what we'd do. He'd love it!

freddiethegreat · 19/12/2021 21:58

@Papertrail392 no you don’t have to. You choose to & your choice is perhaps understandable but it’s a choice.

My 18 year old is CEV, unvaxxed (his choice, I disagree) & has MH issues. I (double vaxxed) had it recently & whilst we kept some distance, the nature of his MH issues meant that he couldn’t handle not being with me some of the time. His choice (also CEV) & I supported what he chose.

I am not saying he is right & you are wrong. I am saying there is no ‘have to’ in this scenario. Choices are made, based on assessment of risk & other factors.

freddiethegreat · 19/12/2021 21:59

I should add we were very lucky & he didn’t get it!

SilverGlassHare · 19/12/2021 22:03

Absolutely wouldn’t do this to my child. I think it’s barbaric to be honest - they need their mum if they feel unwell. If you’re not CEV, why would you? Especially over Christmas! I mean, would you if he had flu? Or bad D&V?

GoldenFondue · 19/12/2021 22:07

I have it just now, isolated within the house and now oh and ds have caught it from me anyway, I assume from before i got my positive.

Omicron is a different kettle of fish it seems. I work in a school and have worked with positive cases repeatedly over the last year and a half without catching anything. Then someone gets omicron and I'm out in the first round and I've taken my household down with me

Ivchangedmynameforthis · 19/12/2021 22:10

When my DS (also 12) and DD caught it I didn't isolate them. They were poorly so I cuddled them and acted just as I would with any illness. I didnt catch it at all. DH did but he wfh so potentially was with them more.

Papertrail392 · 19/12/2021 22:11

freddiethegreat yes you're right, 'have to' was the wrong phrase. 'Might chose to' would have been better. My point is that people shouldn't judge others decision. Accusations of child cruelty are really fucking harsh and unnecessary. When you're going through chemotherapy and your life is already hanging in the balance, reading comments that you're being barbaric and cruel really cut deep and people should think before they type. In my situation, if DS was happy to isolate then that's what we'd do. If he became very poorly with it then we'd swop and I'd isolate. DH would always be there ready with cuddles for him if and when needed.

CoffeeWithCheese Yes I judge you. It is cruelty to a child you have no idea how much that comment has hurt.

VaguelyInteresting · 19/12/2021 22:16

@Papertrail392

DS’ father is also CEV. We’re separated but the nature of his illness and living situation is such that he necessarily has his weekend access visits with DS at my house and stays with us (and for a week at Christmas/ in holidays etc), to ensure everyone’s’ wellbeing.

Our plan is that in the event I or DS become covid positive during one of his visits, exDP is the one that isolates. This seemed to make more sense to us, as as an adult, he is better equipped mentally to manage isolation.

So whilst I appreciate not every family set up is the same, I do have some understanding of what it is to juggle the health needs of CEV family members (because although we are separated, for us sharing a child means that psychologically we feel we are still a family of sorts) and the needs of a child.

To each their own ofc, but there is more than one way to skin the covid cat.

Booklover3 · 19/12/2021 22:16

I wouldn’t leave my children alone. No matter their age

aliceca · 19/12/2021 22:18

It depends on the child and if there is anyone very vulnerable in the house.
Awful some judging others on this thread for having to make difficult decisions.

Papertrail392 · 19/12/2021 22:21

VaguelyInteresting yes I agree, my point is that people shouldn't be judging others so harshly for doing what works best for their family and their individual situation. It would be very difficult for me to isolate if I was negative and DS was positive as I need regular blood tests and hospital appointments. It's great that you've found a solution that works well for you all. My DS is 12 and as I said previously he would probably quite enjoy a week or so in his bedroom. That's what would work for us. The comments of child cruelty and it being barbaric are appalling.

SallyAnn32 · 19/12/2021 22:33

My 2 DD's had it (10 & 7) and because of their ages they slept in bed in me, wanted constant cuddles and were coughing and sneezing all over me and I thought what will be will be. I didn't catch it. I'm a single mum so I'm on my own with them so I had no break from them for their isolation and by some miracle escaped it.

Hope they're not too unwell x

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