Double standards over vaccine.

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Pointless post really. I am 30 and was offered jab early for being an unpaid carer to disabled ds. Had first dose late Feb and second in mid May. I was nervous about having it and almost felt guilty for having it earlier than my age group. I had booster booked for this month but had to cancel due to catching covid so have rescheduled for early jan - nearly a year after first dose but not much I can do.

Anyway I was extremely anxious about the jab. I'm glad I've had it now. With the second it caused me a huge amount of anxiety with the small blood clot risk with Astra Zeneca etc and only being 30. My mother pushed me into having it saying I wouldn't be able to see her or my grandma if I didn't have it and I needed it etc. How I would be selfish for not having it.

I'm glad I did have it ^

But my issue is my younger siblings. Early twenties and late teens. They either don't want it or my mother won't let them have the vaccine due to side effects worries.

So she actively encouraged me but my younger siblings are not having it and it's okay with her. After her after making a fuss over me having it. I always intended on having it but wasn't sure whether to have it early or wait until my age group.

I was told that I wouldn't be allowed around my grandma but my siblings are unvaccinated but they can do as they please and visit grandma regularly - grandma is triple jabbed now though.

Double standards?

Not much I can do or say. Their choice always and I respect that but I just can't help feel a little annoyed at the situation.

My mother said she didn't want me around grandma unvaccinated but maybe I don't want my young children around unvaccinated adults.

Yes I know you can still catch and spread covid. But I believe it could lessen it.

We've had covid and my children have caught it off me or Dp but very mildly, Dd totally asymptomatic and Ds mildly ill for 24 hours. Is there a possibility they got less viral load from us because we are vaccinated? I also believe they had covid in early 2020.

Before anyone mentions it, I respect anyone's choice whether to be vaccinated or not. I'm just annoyed I was pushed into having it but my mother seems to worry more about the side effects with my younger siblings than she did me having it.

Well you will be on the right side of history. Also you are an adult so start making your own choices. It's a little pathetic that you are so heavily influenced by your Mum.

@PieMistee

Well you will be on the right side of history. Also you are an adult so start making your own choices. It's a little pathetic that you are so heavily influenced by your Mum.

Maybe I am 'pathetic'. I suffer from severe anxiety. I confided in my mum when I was invited for jab as it was feb and was way before my age group would have had it anyway. She was also working at a vaccination centre herself at the time so it seemed appropriate to talk to her.

You already had it and you didn't have blood cot. So no point in thinking about what ifs. Now you had 2 vaccine and had covid, so you are really protected against future infection. That's a great thing during this uncertain times.

Your siblings are old enough to make a decision themselves. And if they are not taking vaccine because of your mother's influence, your mother is not doing any good for them.

You're not pathetic at all. Lots of people considered families when getting vaccinated. And yes, it's double standards from your mum. At least you have protection now unlike your siblings.

This seems like a possibly toxic parent issue rather than a covid or vaccine issue. Why does your mum think she gets to decide whether other adults get vaccinated or not, or who is allowed to see each other? (Assuming your grandmother had mental capacity to decide who she wants to see or not). Really you and your siblings need to stop paying attention to her attempting to control you. You’re adults now and you’re a mother yourself. Stop letting her parent you, stop responding to her as a child, respond as you would if any other adult in your life treated you as she did.

Sorry for using pathetic, that was purely me projecting. I get anxiety too and hate myself for being easily swayed.

I'd spend a lot of time saying how I'm obviously the favourite child since DM wants you to be safe but that's just me..

@PieMistee

Sorry for using pathetic, that was purely me projecting. I get anxiety too and hate myself for being easily swayed.

No worries! I'm easily swayed with a lot of things, yet some things I'm very stubborn and won't be swayed! There's no in between in for me 😅

With my siblings I think they are a little anxious over it (not dismissing that anxiety, as I know what it's like). They've read some things online about terrible vaccine side effects that's happened in a small minority of cases and this has influenced my mother too! My mother and father are double jabbed but not having boosters. It's quite clear they've changed their opinion on vaccines which I respect as we can all make our own choices!

My mother compared my just turned 10 year old son not having it to my 18 year old sister not having it saying how there's not much difference in a 10 year old and a 18 year old not having it. Huge difference, biggest being 10 year olds cannot have it. 10 year old is at much less risk than a 18 year old. It was a bizarre argument to make.

Your mother has changed her mind - she would probably suggest now you don’t have any more jabs and that she regrets pushing you to be vaccinated back in February. Your mother is wrong and being an idiot and you should feel sorry for your siblings that she is encouraging their idiocy and is also risking her own health, rather than sorry for yourself that she helped you get over your irrational fear.

I think your mum was wrong to pressure you into it, but I suppose there’s a bigger risk to you at 30 if you got covid, although still a small one, than to your younger siblings. And you have a child to look after unlike your younger siblings, I presume.

Maybe she used the not seeing grandma thing when she was actually concerned for you and your child but didn’t want you to think she was concerned as it might have made your anxiety worse. Maybe not, you know your mum best and what she’s like.

There’s lots of people who have had the vaccine but are reluctant to give it to younger children as their risk from covid is so small.

Is your mum usually nice? If so, I’d try to just forget it as you’ve said you’re glad you’ve had the vaccinations.