Kids, other parents house & corona. Sorry

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So DD9 has tested positive for Coronavirus.

I have just gotten over it, my partner had it at the same time - we were wiped out, but nothing more than a bad cold.

My DD7 isn't YET testing positive.

Their dad still wants to pick them up on Saturday until after Christmas. I'd prefer to keep them here until they are not contagious anymore, it's inevitable the younger one is going to test positive.

I don't particularly want them 2 1/2 hours away at their dads house, being poorly or their dad then becoming poorly and having them in his care.

I say from experience because looking after kids and having Coronavirus is not fun, I'd rather stop the spread.

Can't seem to get it through to their dad to just wait 10 days so he doesn't get ill while he has them -

Although he could catch the virus at any point from anywhere, I don't want to knowingly send my sick kids off to make their dad and step mum sick.

I think your approach was totally sensible. I think in any case of shared parenting positive children should spend their 10 days in one household rather than going between two. Obviously needs must but in your case you were happy to have them and it just meant them going a few days later. Don't know why the heck your ex just didn't agree and thank you but you got there in the end!

No he didn't die, he just got poorly for the same amount of time I did, the same way I did. And I'm unvaccinated - being pregnant I didn't want it just yet.

Ahh that means vaccines don't work.

Have you informed the Scientists?

@WorraLiberty I understand what you're getting at. I didn't think he'd get as ill as me considering he was vaccinated.

I chose not to get it because I was pregnant and anxious about it right now.

But it showed me that had I had the vaccine or not then I would have not actually benefited...

So no I don't think it worked in our household 😂 maybe we had omicron, I don't know, I'm not a scientist.

Being vaccinated doesn't mean you won't catch it and won't be more I'

ill than say your spouse. It reduces the risk of needing hospitalisation. His body and immune system is completely different to yours and without the vaccines he may have had it worse than he did.

But it showed me that had I had the vaccine or not then I would have not actually benefited...

YANBU. When does your 9 year olds isolation end? Should be staying put for 10 days anyway. There is a chance your youngest won't get it though. I would want to keep them home too.

Glad resolution has been reached. My DD16 declined very rapidly with Covid. Started off like a heavy cold but then began V&D, horrendous stomach pains etc'. Dread to think what she would have been like during a car journey or away from her own comforts/GP etc'.

I thought it would be the opposite! AnNRP refusing to have the kids when they are ill, or when he has as much as a sniffle, is more common.

I’d let them go tbh

I see it’s been resolved which is good

Also your partner might have been even worse had he not been vaccinated

You need to educate yourself around vaccinations. The fact you think vaccines don't work just because your vaccinated partner got as ill as you shows an amazing level of ignorance

Yabu. If the adults did get sick, you could go and collect the children and bring them back to your home because you've already had covid so there's no risk there

The replies on this thread are wild

When I had covid and my children were negative I came to MN for advice and the replies were unanimous that my children were NOT to visit their dad

Even though I was quite fucking unwell and could have done with the break

Do what you think is best OP.