Guest before Christmas who will be travelling...

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My step daughter lives in France, and has asked to come and stay with us in the uk from 20th December. She will be travelling by train/underground and then another train to get to us.

Usually we love having her to stay, but must admit I'm very nervous in light of the new variant and the amount of travel on busy public transport and crossing through busy city centres. Our Christmas plans also involve elderly parents in their 80s on Christmas Day (they were on their own last year). One of them also has underlying conditions that possibly would make him more vulnerable.

What a fucking dilemma. I spent most of last night tying myself in knots. I know you can't avoid life forever (and we've been sensible about getting on and doing things, as safely as possible). I cancelled from attending the Xmas party at the weekend as I felt it was starting to get too close to Xmas.

What would you do?
A) cancel the parents and let SD come over (and try and get over my anxiety over catching something which will over shadow Xmas by a few days)
B) say no to SD, but worry she is on her own
C) see if she can travel on Boxing Day after Xmas so we can have a smaller celebration (although DH says there's no point then)

E) have her over, take sensible precautions and enjoy Christmas. If possible have her use a separate bathroom to your parents, sit her at the opposite end of the table to anyone vulnerable, have plenty of ventilation in the house. She’ll have done a pcr on arrival and you could ask her to do daily lft’s as well.

We're in a similar position. DD coming home from uni abroad. She'll have to get a coach back as we'll be at a funeral. I work at a school, both of us going to funeral and reception, then food shopping so we're at risk. My 81 DM is meant to be coming, but to be honest the priority will be having DD home (and that goes for my Mum as well). We're lucky though, we can do a distanced opening of presents over coffee and mince pie here in house and go for a distanced walk over the field, so do have a way of getting together even my DM doesn't stay over.

@Awakened22

E) have her over, take sensible precautions and enjoy Christmas. If possible have her use a separate bathroom to your parents, sit her at the opposite end of the table to anyone vulnerable, have plenty of ventilation in the house. She’ll have done a pcr on arrival and you could ask her to do daily lft’s as well.

I'd do this.

If your parents feel uncomfortable, they could cancel, but I wouldn't assume they had to. Unless some new rules come out before then of course!

Thank you. The menopause is dreadful for anxiety but this kept me awake last night. I don't like upsetting anyone and usually love a full house but bloody COVID just sucks the joy out of things. Our house is quite small so it will be in for a penny, in for a pound. Perhaps I need to work more on my anxiety. My daughter is still at school but had it clear in my head that she'd have broken up and had a week clear before seeing grandparents.

SD will only be getting booster on 20th but will get her to do tests.

Nice to hear I'm not the only one with this circling my head at 3am!

It's so incredibly tricky. If she does come, could you ask her to wear the best FFP3 mask she can find? They make a huge difference regarding transmission potential.