Life's just so damn difficult

[Hohofortherobbers]

I am one of life's copers, I tend to be like a river, just meandering around obstacles and carrying on. Tonight I feel like there's just too many damn obstacles. I have tickets for my dm and I to see a show tomorrow night for her birthday, she is not online, no email, no WiFi, no smart phone so I ordered her a covid pass by post for the show, its not turned up. I have created her a nhs app log in using a secondary email address of mine so I can get her a covid pass and the app is malfunctioning tonight, I can't access her a pass, have tested by refreshing mine, my dh's and a friend's, not working. So I get my triple vaxxed dm on the eve of her birthday, do a lft, upload to get a negative so the poor woman can attend her own birthday celebrations tomorrow night. I AM OVER THIS!!! How on earth are people coping, I usually cope, I deal with problems, but I am at the end of my tether with how difficult the niceties of life are right now.

We could even get them issued at point of vaccination - had your second jab, get given pass.

Actually that’s how you get your pass if you’re vaccinated at the GP. The receptions prints it off as you come out.

I had mine at work so had to take 10 mins out of my day to go to the pharmacy instead.

Agree, they should look for a better system.

@FindSomethingToHelp

I'm due to take DD to the panto next week and if we have to wear masks I'll be cancelling - I don't mind for 30 minutes or so in the supermarket but 2+ hours I can't manage. I worked extra hard in October and November to afford the tickets including extra shifts on my none working days and longer hours, now that might all have been for nothing.

DD has had a really tough few years with hospital treatment right before lockdowns meaning she lost over 9 months of school in the pandemic, I just wanted to have a little fun with her.

I am usually coper too @Hohofortherobbers but it all feels pointless now. I'm double vaccinated and will get my booster as soon as I can, but I am so sick of it all

Oh - that would be a shame.

Have you tried paper masks? They are less restricting. It seems a shame for your daughter to miss the panto because you don't think you can wear a mask for 2 hours - people manage on trains and planes and in customer facing jobs all the time. It'll be fine.

They never checked at a show I went too despite saying it was needed!!!

@PicsInRed

As PPs said, covid passes shouldn't be needed tomorrow.

It may be a "two logins" issue, if you're accessing from the same phone. Try deleting cookies, log into each account one by one, deleting cookies after each login, if this works then save each pdf copy down to your phone so you don't have to log in to access (keep in mind they have an expiry date). Hope this works for when needed.

Thank you for the advice, I will try if it still doesn't work tomorrow, there's definitely a tech issue with the app tonight though

is showing a covid pass for pantos something that he said will be needed? I'm going to one Sunday. When does it start?
just tried going on mine and not working either so guessing a technical fault.

I completely get being fed up this has gone on for a ridiculous amount of time but actually I think you need to get some perspective.
I lost my beloved father a few weeks ago, had he caught the virus he would not have stood a chance. Because of restrictions we managed to protect him from it!
Had I not have been so careful I have no doubt should I have caught it and spread to him I would have forever felt responsible for his death. Restrictions allowed me quality time to spend with him and gave us another year.
I was lucky I got to spend some time with him in hospital before he passed but this is a luxury many don't have at the moment.

What I would give to spend another birthday with him even if that was just sat at home. I think its time people appreciated simply being in each others company a bit more!

We did similar for a show, bloody nightmare. We got there nobody asked to see Covid pass, Neg LF
& hardly anyone wearing masks. All that stress for nothing!

Same. Untold stress in the lead up, but it was worth it.

I can completely see how people like my dm just wouldn't try and go out in the first place, if I wasn't jumping through these regulatory hoops for her she wouldn't stand a chance on her own.

I've read elsewhere there's an issue with the app tonight - I guess everyone is trying to access it at once. There were also issues with the vaccination booking site this morning when they reduced the time for a booster from six months to three - it was just overloaded.

I think given the size of the task, the tech has generally held up well. Much better than I expected tbh.

@FindSomethingToHelp

I'm due to take DD to the panto next week and if we have to wear masks I'll be cancelling - I don't mind for 30 minutes or so in the supermarket but 2+ hours I can't manage. I worked extra hard in October and November to afford the tickets including extra shifts on my none working days and longer hours, now that might all have been for nothing.

DD has had a really tough few years with hospital treatment right before lockdowns meaning she lost over 9 months of school in the pandemic, I just wanted to have a little fun with her.

I am usually coper too @Hohofortherobbers but it all feels pointless now. I'm double vaccinated and will get my booster as soon as I can, but I am so sick of it all

Break your mind free of this. You don’t need to wear a mask at all. No one will ask you for proof of exemption. Or wear one to sit down and take it off once watching the show. Put it on if you get up for the interval.

@tocas look up toxic positivity and give your own head a wobble

@emmacat I am so sorry for your loss

emmacat I’m so sorry to hear about your dad

In the most nark-free way possible, I do just want to offer the perspective of someone who lives alone; for me and others in my situation, restrictions - even small ones like WFH - decimate my opportunity for human interaction. My version of ‘enjoying each other’s company’ doesn’t exist in a world with loads of restrictions.

OP, I’m with you. It is so shit. My zest for life is gone now. I truly no longer feel any excitement about living, even in a tentative future state without the rollercoaster of Covid restrictions.

[quote Hohofortherobbers]@emmacat I am so sorry for your loss [/quote]
Thanks I hope I didnt seem too defensive, his birthday is next week and I'd literally give the world to spend one extra day with him.

@emmacat

I completely get being fed up this has gone on for a ridiculous amount of time but actually I think you need to get some perspective. I lost my beloved father a few weeks ago, had he caught the virus he would not have stood a chance. Because of restrictions we managed to protect him from it! Had I not have been so careful I have no doubt should I have caught it and spread to him I would have forever felt responsible for his death. Restrictions allowed me quality time to spend with him and gave us another year. I was lucky I got to spend some time with him in hospital before he passed but this is a luxury many don't have at the moment.

What I would give to spend another birthday with him even if that was just sat at home. I think its time people appreciated simply being in each others company a bit more!

But that's the entire problem - you can't spend time with people if you're being careful. Lots of people are literally completely isolated. They live alone, they're afraid to see elderly relatives in case they pass on covid, and anything nice and fun like holidays is such an enormous, expensive faff that it squeezes all the joy out of it. It's not easy.

Update, app worked this morning so I got her a pass. Had a lovely evening, and venue didn't even ask to see it after all that hassle! Oh well, dm's birthday was well celebrated which is the main thing.