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Paranoid about sending children to school!

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Bumblebee2930 · 07/12/2021 15:49

Dp is positive. So far the rest of us are negative but Dp is still early days into isolation and it can chance quickly from experience. Dp had a negative pcr one day and the next he had a strong positive on lft and then pcr confirmed. He caught it from a work mate.

So far the rest of us are negative on both pcr and lft.

So I can send kids to school but I have this sense of dread about it. Worried they will take it in and spread to their teachers and pears. Two members of staff in Dd's class had it about 3 weeks ago but I'm worried about ds's class. His ta is in her 60's - Ds has sen so had close contact with ta. I assume she's double or triple jabbed.

Worried about what other parents will think. The school has been fortunate enough to not have any cases amongst the kids - but a few members of staff have had it.

To top it off if my kids take it in then it's ruining a lot of people Christmas's

I'm just like well just because today's pcr is negative, doesn't mean they wouldn't be positive tomorrow or the next day!

To add, Dd already has a non covid cough she's had for 2-3 weeks.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 07/12/2021 15:50

do you know what strand he has? if the new variant then they have to isolate- you all do, right?

SaveWaterDrinkGin · 07/12/2021 15:55

So don’t send them to school?! Not sure what you’re expecting people to say.

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Bumblebee2930 · 07/12/2021 15:57

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

do you know what strand he has? if the new variant then they have to isolate- you all do, right?
How would one know what variant it is? Pcr was fine Sunday and results 1am Monday. Surely we would have been told by now? He caught it off a colleague who hadn't been told it's omicron either? 🤷‍♀️
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Bumblebee2930 · 07/12/2021 16:00

@SaveWaterDrinkGin

So don’t send them to school?! Not sure what you’re expecting people to say.
Schools are saying it's unauthorised attendance. Keeping them home is a non issue. Dp has hardly any symptoms atm. He's off work until next Thursday and I'm off work at the mo! But I don't know what to do!
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ANameChangeAgain · 07/12/2021 16:02

Ask school what they prefer.

Cam2020 · 07/12/2021 16:07

I've had the same thing. Dd's school want her in. I've done LF tests every day before she goes in (sometimes at night too when I've felt particularly nervous) - day 9 of isolation for me and she's still negative. I'll continue testing her daily next week too (assuming she stays negative).

Harsharse · 07/12/2021 16:07

DC and I Caught it from someone going out and about while there was a positive in her family. DC and I gave it to 2 other people from going out and about when we had seen her. They passed it to their families, not all at once, there was a few days between each positive. The guilt is something else. Honestly, if you can, just keep them home.

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Bumblebee2930 · 07/12/2021 16:26

@Cam2020

I've had the same thing. Dd's school want her in. I've done LF tests every day before she goes in (sometimes at night too when I've felt particularly nervous) - day 9 of isolation for me and she's still negative. I'll continue testing her daily next week too (assuming she stays negative).
I really hope she stays negative! 💕
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Bumblebee2930 · 07/12/2021 16:28

@Harsharse

DC and I Caught it from someone going out and about while there was a positive in her family. DC and I gave it to 2 other people from going out and about when we had seen her. They passed it to their families, not all at once, there was a few days between each positive. The guilt is something else. Honestly, if you can, just keep them home.
This is my worry. I have no issue keeping them home but don't want to get in trouble for not doing so, it's the guilt of spreading it on! I just feel it's too soon to tell if dc are gonna have it or not! I think it would be easier if Dp could isolate away from us fully which he cannot due to small house!
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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 07/12/2021 16:31

As worrying as it is this is a process of society learning to live with covid- do daily lat tests and fingers x they won’t catch it.

CrumpledCrumpet · 07/12/2021 16:41

We had this issue when DS2 and I both had covid and DS1 and DHdid not.

First we spoke to the school to gauge their reaction (I don’t think they can say ‘don’t send them in!’ but we just got a steer based on their tone, and they were quite relaxed about DS going in).

Then we did our level best to isolate within the house, particular for the first few days. Complete isolation wasn’t possible but we also opened windows a lot, I wore a mask when I had to leave the room, etc.

DS and DH took LFTs every morning before school.

I still felt a bit uneasy about it and would have felt dreadful if we had spread it, but it worked out ok as DH and DS1 never caught it.

woulducouldushouldu · 07/12/2021 17:34

People are not going to like this but someone I work with tested positive on a post flight lft and subsequently confirmed with a pcr but all their NHS supplied lfts were negative (incl the ones they did post getting a positive pcr result). I don't know if some lfts are more accurate than others as it seems weird but I would get a pcr done to be safe

ifonly4 · 07/12/2021 17:38

Talk to the school. We had a high level of cases a couple of weeks ago in our primary school, and parents were phoning in to say they wouldn't send siblings of confirmed cases in as they wanted to help make a break in transmission and they were supported.

2WeeksTillChristmas · 07/12/2021 17:39

I personally would not send them

ifonly4 · 07/12/2021 17:40

Oh, just seen you've spoken to the school. I'm sure you don't want to lie, but I'd half be tempted to phone in with cold symptoms for DC for the test of the week and see how it goes regarding covid symptoms and LFTs.

SauvignonGrower · 07/12/2021 18:01

I was going to say the same as @ifonly4 . We were in your position so just pretend the other child was displaying mild symptoms and kept them off too. Couldn't cope with guilt of having family members mix with the community.

Koalaleia · 07/12/2021 18:36

We were in this position when DS tested positive, DD & our PCR’s came back negative. school wanted DD to go in. So we did LFT every morning to make sure she was negative before sending her to school. None of us caught it from DS.

MacNTosh · 07/12/2021 18:40

Who cares about an unauthorised absence, you have freedom of choice you know.

twinkletoesimnot · 07/12/2021 18:49

I had a little one come into my class today with a positive sibling at home. I'll be honest my heart dropped.

I know it's the rules- her right to an education blah blah blah
Myself and my family have (somehow) avoided it so far but this just feels so wrong.
Frankly if it was my child I would keep them off.

I am as careful as possible but I cannot distance from the children.

I darent buy the rest of my Xmas presents until we break up now as if I got it and then passed it to (self employed) dh we would lose money we depend on for rent and bills.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 07/12/2021 22:20

@MacNTosh

Who cares about an unauthorised absence, you have freedom of choice you know.
Freedom of choice- is that a thing?!
Emerald5hamrock · 08/12/2021 00:36

I wouldn't send them in.
It was a few days before it infected the whole house.

Whatdoyawannado · 08/12/2021 08:15

DS1 tested positive on a Saturday, I kept DS2 off school and cancelled all his after school activities and I'm glad I did as he tested positive on the following Tuesday. Just because the govt say they should go to school it doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. I didn't want to be the cause of possibly passing this around his class or to any teachers.

santasmuma · 08/12/2021 08:19

Schools are saying it's unauthorised attendance.

Does it matter? Granted I'm in Scotland where this absolutely wouldn't be an issue and I don't know much about the attendance rules. There are regular threads where children are not well and parents worry about attendance figured though, which seems to over ride everything when making a decision. What actually happens if your child has unauthorised absence?

MyFirstMyLastMyEverythingBagel · 08/12/2021 08:26

Just say they have both tested positive on LFT. You don't legally need a PCR test done. School will have to accept they have positive LFT and can't make you make the kids have PCRs. Say they found the LFT distressing so you will not be upsetting them any further by confirming it with a PCR and will be isolating for the required 10 days. If you want to keep them off, keep them off 🙂

Afreshstart2021 · 08/12/2021 08:30

I’m a teacher and guidance is to send them in. Let the school know though.
Trust me, there will have been cases among the children. Just not spotted or, not reported by parents wanting to go to work, that’s happened a lot.

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