Got covid and can't be left in peace

[Wokahontas]

DH and I are newly diagnosed with Covid, teenagers all recovering from it. It's been a brutal week and a half.

I know some people mean well, but honestly, I have not been able to just get on with this in private. I am feeling really grotty and my DH is too, but guess who has to be the one doing all the wifey work whilst still sick, plus look after him? Yes. moi.

So today is just like it was yesterday. Endless texts, phone calls and my absolute favourite.......zoom calls from extended family. Two of them have called today, twice.

I am sick and no I do not want to talk on zoom or talk to you for half an hour in the morning and at night. My phone just went off and because I didn't answer it, they will call again in a bit.

I know I am ungrateful but I just want to rest and chill out. Certain people are upset apparently as I don't want to zoom with them whilst I am coughing and have a temp.

To save your own sanity you have to be prepared to be unpopular. Upset people. They'll get over it. Don't be a martyr.

(Obviously they are in the wrong for complaining in the first place but you know that).

Tell them you are switching g your phone off and will be in touch if/when you need them.

Can you put an answer phone message on for the moment, something like "I have coronavirus, if I don't answer I'm probably resting. Please leave a short message & I'll call back when I feel able to." Polite but leaves no room for negotiation by people who don't recognise your boundaries.

And yes, switch off / onto silent however often & long you feel you want to. If it's important they can leave a message!

Thx

WHY, WTF WHY do people think that you want to chat on zoom when you have covid, are scared, tired, knocked off your axis, trying to just get through the days.

I wouldn't mind but non of them have offered to help us by getting food or anything else we need. We are just a bit of drama.

Just ignore. It's easy.

Turn your phone off.

I mean, be grateful you have so many people in your life that care 🤷🏼‍♀️ And just explain you feel poorly & will catch up when better..

I had this but I was firm. I simply ignored calls, silenced phone, messaged to say too ill to chat etc. I was too ill to be talking or caring what others thought.

I am on day 5 of covid, I haven't gotten out of my pj's in 3 days (except to get into clean ones) , I think I have brushed my hair twice, and my eyes are heavy and look like someone has drew rings under them with a black sharpie. No fucking way would I be having zoom chats. Nope. I want to be ill and ugly in private thanks, with the odd self-pitying moany text sent round the family while they send me sad faces and ask if they can drip anything at the door for me.That's all.

Turn your phone off

Tell your lazy arse husband to sort himself out

Are you some sort of martyr or something ? The solution is pretty obvious.

You are choosing to go on zoom.
No one is forcing you
Just say no.
Turn off your devices

Put your phone on silent and ignore it. Also stop doing ruddy everything in the house.

Just turn your fucking phone off and stop running about doing everything.

Honestly, stop whining if you are going to do nothing about it.

Go to bed and let your husband and teens sort themselves out for a bit.

Stop answering ?

When my dad had covid I FaceTimed and I know it maybe annoyed him but I needed to see he really was ok cos otherwise you can't tell. (He does live on his own though).
Could it be something like that?

Go to bed. Let your lazy husband fend for himself. Send a “to all” message saying that you’lll be offline for a week or so and then mute notifications. Job done.

Create a personal note for your Zoom profile. This will show at the top of your chat profile to anyone who can see your profile.
"I have Covid and I'm resting. I won't resume Zoom calls until I've fully recovered."
Same for Whats App

Same for Voice Message/Answering machine type service.
Plus, a note on your letterbox.

You are not required to speak to anyone you don't want to speak with, on any medium or in person.

Tell them you need to focus on resting and will call them when you're ready. You need to get as much calm rest as possible, turn off your phone or mute/temp block people if needed.

@AnyFucker

Turn your phone off

Tell your lazy arse husband to sort himself out

Are you some sort of martyr or something ? The solution is pretty obvious.

This

We are just a bit of drama.

I don't know anyone who still sees having covid as a drama anymore. Most people I know have had it now.

I am thinking op is a bit too fond of the old am dram herself

@Bobholll it doesn’t really sound like the calls & zoom chats etc are coming from a POV of caring though, more from a need for drama. The OP has said that they’ve not actually received any help from any of these people, just a lot of calls, interrupting her need to rest.

Definitely ignore.
Let the main gossip person know you're taking time out, let them spread the news here.
Feeling similar on wife work.
He got isolation in peace for 3 days, now we're all infected I'm fed up not isolating alone.
DS age 6 talked for 2 hours straight repeating the same thing.

They are checking you're still alive! Turn your phone off whilst you sleep and when you wake up, send a quick text back. I know it's annoying but better that than no one giving a shit!