Is this unreasonable?

[WildFlowerBees]

Bil & Sil who we see fairly often are going to his works do on Friday night, he says around 100-120 supposedly going.

Is it unreasonable to tell them we won't see them in the run up to Christmas? Dh is cv my parent is cv and we've been sensible but realise life goes on and people will do as they please. I'm just not comfortable with them coming to our home when they 'might' have been exposed right before Christmas.

I'm definitely not precious nor do I have any anxiety just selfishly don't want anything before Christmas if possible!

I think that everyone has to decide the level of risk they are comfortable with.

I am cv but will be going to two work xmas parties. I am in a role where I think it’s important to attend.

If anyone would prefer not to see me or wants me to LFT before seeing them I’m happy to do it. Ultimately, the unreasonable thing would be trampling on others boundaries but you aren’t trying to tell them not to go, just choosing whether or not you are comfortable to be around them.

If that is the choice you need to make that's perfectly understandable.

They will have to suck it up buttercup but of course explain politely first.

I would understand if my socialising choices meant other visiting might be curtailed and would make a decision if needed which was more important.

No Biggie just be nice, honest and clear about it.

Would you be seeing them over Christmas too? Either way I think it’s reasonable to say you’re minimising your chances of not being positive over Christmas and they’d be very UR to make much of a fuss about it other than between themselves.

Yes we'll see them on Boxing Day, they're lovely I hope they understand I'm sure there will be some eye rolling though!

They're choosing what risks they're happy to accept. It's perfectly reasonable for you to do the same. Your decision doesn't impact them, but theirs could impact you. Let the eye rolling commence, but don't be swayed.

I'm sure they'll understand. However, if you feel under any pressure to see them, then how about a walk outside (you can still distance a bit) and then a takeaway coffee somewhere easy to distance and chat.

@Justmuddlingalong

They're choosing what risks they're happy to accept. It's perfectly reasonable for you to do the same. Your decision doesn't impact them, but theirs could impact you. Let the eye rolling commence, but don't be swayed.

Yep. That. I wouldn’t see them at all in your shoes OP