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Partner very close contact.. the rest of us carry on as normal for now?

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Christmas3143 · 03/12/2021 10:32

Dp has had very close contact with positive case. He's done two lfts (negative) and booked a pcr for later. Contact was Wednesday. Dp feels fine so far. Still very early days though. Even a negative pcr doesn't mean he won't get it, might be just too soon.

Anyway, I know the rules mean that he can carry on as usual as he's double jabbed and even more so that me and dc can. I have done an lft.

But I have a sense of guilt like what if he did have it and we don't know (yet).

Not planning to do much this weekend. We were going to a Christmas late night shopping thing tonight but decided against it as quite crowded so McDonald's and Christmas lights from the car will be the plan. Tomorrow Dd is meant to be meeting a friend? Carry on as usual?! Hoping results will be back tomorrow anyway ☺️

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Getbehindme · 03/12/2021 13:12

Similar position, my DD has a positive LFT so waiting on her PCR results. My LFTs are negative and I'm going out tonight. I've checked with the group and they're happy for me to come but I'm only going to stay for the meal and then leave.

Is hard isn't it, to go from such caution and rules as before, to this which seems so counter intuitive. But then, we have to try and get on with our lives.

Harsharse · 03/12/2021 13:17

A month ago I would have said follow the rules, they must be there for a reason so carry on as normal.

I caught it from someone carrying on as normal who’s DD had it and who consequently tested positive a few days later and had passed it to me so now I’d say err on the side of caution!

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Christmas3143 · 03/12/2021 13:22

Thank you both. I am planning to be very cautious - decided against the late night shopping to do our own thing for example. We don't go anywhere busy or do a huge deal at the weekends anyway!

Hoping Dp's test will come back quickly - even know I know that a negative test a few days after exposure could just mean it's too soon!

I'm meant to be having the booster on Sunday so I'm not sure what to do about that. I guess if Dp has a negative test and remains symptomless, I'll just do an lft and go if I'm fine myself?!

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Christmas3143 · 03/12/2021 13:24

@Harsharse

A month ago I would have said follow the rules, they must be there for a reason so carry on as normal.

I caught it from someone carrying on as normal who’s DD had it and who consequently tested positive a few days later and had passed it to me so now I’d say err on the side of caution!

Sorry to hear you caught it. Was the person you caught it from asymptomatic at the time? I only ask because the person Dp has had very close contact with had no symptoms and still doesn't (as far as I'm aware). His wife had a positive test and then he tested positive on a lft next day and now confirmed by pcr! Dp spent the whole at a conference with him, sat together, lunch together. Thankfully didn't share lifts like was originally planned!

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Harsharse · 03/12/2021 13:32

Yep they were completely asymptomatic. It took 5 days for her to get a positive LFT after her daughters PCR. She gave it to someone else two who took a week to give it to her husband. The transmission times really seem to vary.

DistantSkye · 03/12/2021 13:43

If I understand your post correctly, OP, then your DP was a contact, not the rest of you? At no point have the isolation rules ever extended to contacts of contacts so you would always have been able to go about your business?

I find the overcautiousness to this extent hard to understand tbh. Possibly because I'm a teacher (SEN so no distancing obviously) and my kids are at school and nursery, my husband has also worked throughout face to face. So if we had stopped doing things every time someone was a contact we'd never have done anything!

Honestly in your position, I'd definitely still go to my booster appointment and keep the kids playdate.

DramaLlllama · 03/12/2021 13:46

Just had this with my DD. She tested positive after we thought it was just a cold. We took no precautions around additional hygiene or isolation in the house. DD even coughed and sneezed in my face (with my mouth open 🤢). By some kind of miracle I did not catch it (OK, it was more likely due to the vaccine!) but I kept a very low profile for 10 days. DH only went out for eseential food shopping but otherwise we all stayed home just in case.

PanettoneSeason · 03/12/2021 13:53

Completely get what you mean OP! Feels wrong to be potentially exposing people. We had a team member at work in the same situation and head office still made her work, as per the government guidelines. Her DS had been the close contact (best friend at school positive). Within about 5 days her DS was positive, a day or so later the other DS was positive. Her and her DH then tested positive a further 5/6 days later!

Ssmiler · 03/12/2021 13:56

I think as long as you have no positive case in the home you can go ahead. But if not vital then as you suggest I’d avoid crowded places for a few days
I am often in the same position as you, as my DC’s school friends seem to all get COVID at different times - and therefore the DC seem to be fairly regularly close contacts. At those times I wouldn’t meet friends , go into the office, or generally mix with anyone without telling them in advance and asking for their input. Some people prefer to reschedule others are happy to go ahead. Everyone’s risk profile is different so it’s their choice really. Hope the PCR tests stay negative for all of you

Fallagain · 03/12/2021 13:59

Over 18 who are not doubled vaccinated have to isolate.

Government guidelines are to continue to go to work and education but to avoid social situations. You can find the guidelines with a quick google.

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Christmas3143 · 03/12/2021 14:19

@Fallagain

Over 18 who are not doubled vaccinated have to isolate.

Government guidelines are to continue to go to work and education but to avoid social situations. You can find the guidelines with a quick google.

Yes I know what the guidelines are and we are both double jabbed and I'm meant to having booster this weekend. I just feel guilty about carrying on as usual whilst waiting for dp's results anticipating he could have covid.

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Orchid876 · 03/12/2021 14:21

Similar position here, and we're staying in and effectively isolating, at least for today and the weekend. We're probably all a bit more likely to have it than you are though, as my DD is symptomatic and has tested positive on a LF. DD and DS had a PCR this morning (DS has mild cold symptoms, but negative PCR), so we're waiting for that. We'll decide what to do on Monday after we've got those results, and see if Track and Trace advise anything. Myself, DS and DH will keep LF testing, even if DS results come back negative. I know quite a number of people who have tested negative for a few days with LF but then got positive results. If we're all but DD (I'm sure she's positive) are testing negative on Monday, I'm not sure what we'll do, I guess I'm supposed to go into work. I feel really bad about that though, I'm really scared about spreading it around the vulnerable people I work with.

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Christmas3143 · 03/12/2021 14:22

Thanks all. I'm hoping Dp's results will be back tomorrow! 💕 either way we aren't planning an major social events - don't socialise much usually anyway!

Dp has been at work. They've told him he must come in because he has no symptoms. If his test is positive he's likely exposed others! I know rightfully he can still go to work but it just feels almost illegal (I know it's not as he's double jabbed)

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Orchid876 · 03/12/2021 14:33

I know how you feel. The rules on really close contacts not being required to isolate seems mad, and a recipe for spread. Surely when we know people don't test positive early on, but can be asymptomatically spreading it before they get symptoms or a later positive test, it's just a recipe for mass infection.

ThursdayLastWeek · 03/12/2021 14:37

My own DH has had a positive lft and is waiting for the results of his PCR.

I checked with my work to see if they want me to come in and they said yes, as I had a neg lft this morning.

In your shoes I would let the friends know what’s going on and see how they feel about it. And I would lft before the booster appt.

ifonly4 · 03/12/2021 14:44

DH had close sustained contact with someone at work about a month ago. They tested positive on LFT within 24 hours. Work immediately sent him to wfh. The first couple of days he wouldn't go out, cancelled the gym, wouldn't even go for a walk - I got a big annoyed with him over the walk as it's easy to keep away from others here. PCR came back negative, so he then started going out for a walk each day keeping away from others. He had no symptoms and daily LFTs negative.

I have to go to work regardless, wear masks in inside locations and do my best to distance in and out from others, so I continued with shopping and exercise. I decided not to meet up with friends, as I personally didn't want to be the one passing it onto them.

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Christmas3143 · 03/12/2021 18:02

Thanks all. Pcr done so not we await results but I don't think I'll chill even if he's get a negative result because I know it could be a case of too soon!

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murcimari · 03/12/2021 20:21

I honestly think relaxing close contact rules is the main reason why covid now spreads like wildfire. It is clear as daylight that cases started surging ever since the double vaccinated are allowed to go about their business even when living with someone with covid. Which part of this makes any sense???
I'm currently so angry with a colleague of mine who was at work on Monday as sick as a dog, with temperature and coughing for symptoms, her whole family took a test the day after and both her child and husband tested positive (with similar symptoms), but not her!!! She came back to work today still as sick as anything, high on ibuprofen to keep temperature down. I'm doing my absolute best to keep away from her, as I'm unvaccinated due to medical reasons, but I find it astonishing that none of her line managers had any common sense to send her home!! Clearly, if she doesn't have covid now (which is an utter surprise) she's very very likely to come down with it within days. The mind boggles at how utterly irresponsible many double jabbed people have become!!

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