How to do manage different people’s opinions on what they feel comfortable doing, mixing-wise?

[Doubledoors]

Just that really. Christmas party season is upon us, the Omicron development, usual lack of clear messaging from the government… how are you managing people’s different attitudes to how ‘careful’ they want to be?

Make sure it is clear there is no judgement either way

Accept that different people have different views on this. Invite people, make it clear what the arrangements will be, no worries if they decide they aren't comfortable with that.

Give everyone clear information on where you stand, ask them to do the same and make sure there's no pressure on those more at risk from those who don't feel at risk or vice versa.

Sorry that title should say “how TO manage..”

You’re right @CloudyStorms I think that’s the key. I’m just finding it hard to gauge where everyone’s at. Supposed to be hosting a small gathering next week and some of the guests are ‘out out’ types, going to busy pubs and bars every weekend and very chilled about it, and another couple are very cautious. Just trying to work out how to have them all in one gathering and make everyone feel comfortable and safe!

Just trying to work out how to have them all in one gathering and make everyone feel comfortable and safe!

I don't think that's going to happen if they have vastly different attitudes to it. Have the gathering with the more relaxed people and arrange to meet the more cautious outside or inside but just them and you/windows open etc.

I would do whatever is asked really. So meet up outside only, or LFT before meeting. I can accept that some people are more scared about Covid than I am.
Thankfully, my circle is small.

Really good advice here! One couple would be much happier outside (I have decent outdoor space and could sort of make this happen, unless it was literally sub zero temperatures!) but I know the others will eye roll a bit and moan about the cold. Argh!

Should add, am on the cautious/sensible end of the spectrum myself, so would have the house ventilated and lft beforehand etc

People just need to be Respectful of others views whether they agree with them or not

Make a decision, either indoors or outdoors. If it’s outdoors I wouldn’t come but if indoors happy to lateral flow and sanitise (no mask as drinking?). I’d like to know either way and wouldn’t be offended.

A rando in the pub mocked my mum for wearing a mask to come in and order, and asked her how long she was going to stay "living in fear"

Her response was to "poke him in the beer belly" in front of his mates and tel him "I'm doing it to protect YOU."

(Neatly demonstrating she's not afraid of any bugger.)

So just don't do any of that and you'll be fine.

We went to a party a few weeks ago. All asked to LFT before hand and were told the back door would be open and the fire pit lit so that those who wanted to be outside could be and those who were happy to stay inside could do so.

I went to a small party last weekend.
The host asked us all to take a LFT beforehand (although we didn't need to provide proof so it was done on trust) and to not come at all with any cold symptoms even if testing negative.
One person chose not to attend as she's CEV and still avoiding groups indoors. Those of us who went had a lovely time and I think with the LFT/don't attend with any symptoms rules felt relaxed about it being at least as safe as could be.
If I'd been the host I would have kept the back door open for some of the time for ventilation though, that was the only thing I would have changed.

@PrincessNutNuts

A rando in the pub mocked my mum for wearing a mask to come in and order, and asked her how long she was going to stay "living in fear"

Her response was to "poke him in the beer belly" in front of his mates and tel him "I'm doing it to protect YOU."

(Neatly demonstrating she's not afraid of any bugger.)

So just don't do any of that and you'll be fine.

I love this! Good on her.

I'm going with the attitude that people will go where they are comfortable. If you tell them the arrangements and they come or decline the invite, that's their choice. I wouldn't change my plans to try and suit everyone.

Remember op every day to male their living some people are forced into mixing with hundreds every single day, not a single mask in sight at all, indoors, no window or ventilation.

Give people as much information as possible about any event to which you invite them. How many people will be there, how big is the space, what is the ventilation like, is there an outdoor area.

At a recent family party there was space outdoors as well as inside. Some people stayed outside most of the time, others stayed inside most of the time but popped out to have a brief visit with those who were staying out.

Important to let people know if it's outdoors or if windows/doors will be open, so they can bundle up or decide not to come. You could make blankets available if it will be cold.