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Have coronavirus and bf not checking in

13 replies

MissPC · 01/12/2021 19:25

I have coronavirus and have been isolating since the weekend, I don’t feel too ill but am lonely. I have been seeing a guy for 2 months, not long I know and he has texted once to ask how I am and hasn’t phoned at all. I feel so sad and this has made me realise that he doesn’t actually care about me. Just wanted to offload, guess I should end it with him.

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CloudyStorms · 01/12/2021 19:29

Oh you poor thing. Have you messaged him at all? If he hasn't bothered to see how you are it's best you know now I guess. Are you sure he hasn't come down with it too and might be really poorly?

SweetBabyCheeses99 · 01/12/2021 19:36

I think you could be being a bit dramatic to finish with him. He has asked you are - and presumably you said that didn’t feel too ill. Have you called him since you’re lonely?

AlbertBridge · 01/12/2021 19:55

I don't think you're being dramatic! The right man for you would care that you're sick and want to help you feel better in some way, whether by flowers, soup, calls or SOMETHING. Surely?!

Coldenoughforyou · 01/12/2021 19:58

He could check in every day I think, even if it’s just a text. What if you took a turn for the worse? He wouldn’t even know.

Warhertisuff · 01/12/2021 20:31

If you've had Covid since the weekend and he's only texted you once, he's not that into you I'm sorry to say. I know from experience that's shit to hear, but it's true. Don't message him. If he doesn't message tonight, then I'd end it.

inkworks273 · 01/12/2021 20:45

I also don't think you're being dramatic. It really isn't too much to ask for him to send you a text once a day just to check in and see how you are. I would be upset too.

Isbdm · 01/12/2021 20:47

That's a bit weird. I don't think you're being dramatic.

Valhalla17 · 01/12/2021 20:48

Seriously? It's Weds. 3 days since the weekend. Have you reached out to him?

AlbertBridge · 02/12/2021 19:14

I wish MN would stop encouraging women to "reach out" to lacklustre men. We've all known men to drift along in relationships just because the woman is making all the effort. Sod that. You shouldn't have to text from your deathbed to get a response from a bloke.

Spacecadetagain · 02/12/2021 19:50

I wouldn’t bother contacting him- if he contacts you , I’d polite reply that you’ve moved on . He’s not that into you I’m afraid . I was seeing someone long distance in March 2020 and he literally rung me morning noon and night when I had covid (we were in lockdown at the time), one to check in and reassure me as I had breathlessness but also just to keep me sane as it was so new and frightening at the time- he was an absolute rock

CouldThisReallyBe · 02/12/2021 19:54

I don't think you're being dramatic at all - this is an early indicator of things to come.

Lucia23 · 02/12/2021 20:08

OP I just broke up with someone i'd been seeing for 2 months. I was really unwell, told him all about it one evening and he didn't contact me at all until I broke up with him several days later.

Being ill like this has a way of making you 'see' a not quite right relationship for what it is.

Minikievs · 02/12/2021 20:14

I don't think you're being dramatic. I would be really pissed off in your shoes.
I'm afraid I'd chalk this one up as a bad job and not contact him again.

As a side note, I wonder whether all those posters saying "it's only been 3 days, have you text him?" have dated recently? I would guess not. Having been single and dating in the past couple of years, I would pretty much guarantee that after a couple of months of dating, if he doesn't text after 4 days of you having Covid and isolating, he's moved on.

Hope you're ok

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