Visiting grandparenrs

[twolittleboysonetiredmum]

More of a wwyd
Eldest of three chn (aged 9, 8 and 6) has had a positive LFT this evening. Two chn in his class are positive. He has mild symptoms hence the test
Is the youngest birthday tomorrow - have cancelled her party as was due to be at home. We’re also meant to be visiting my parents on Saturday as part of birthday plans. Have told them the situation and said potentially one of us could visit with the two other chn assuming they weren’t ill or testing positive by then. They’re very keen on this and have also suggested bringing positive child as they don’t really care. They’re both boosted etc but it still doesn’t seem right to me but I can’t think why if they’re not concerned. Mum has history for being very unforgiving about cancelling visits due to reasons not within my control / she will see this as the same and me choosing not to see them. Hence why I’m even considering it.
Wwyd?!

Be the sensible one here and face time instead...

Nope I would probably say no to everyone visiting just in case but of course those in the household with no symptoms with negative pcr can still can go. I definitely wouldn't be taking your poorly child though.

Mil is a bit like this. A couple weeks ago Dp was meant to be taking the kids over to hers one Sunday morning. Dd woke up with a cough and we booked her a pcr. Dp rang mil to say he wouldn't be bringing them over that day. She told us to still bring her over as they didn't care. Both are double jabbed but no booster yet. It does worry me, if they were positive would they still expect us to go over there?!! Really worried me how relaxed she is. Concerned that she wouldn't let us know if they were ill!

Your mum is bonkers if she gets funny about not going over. We are in a pandemic!!

I am double jabbed and got Covid..
Take nothing to chance.

For starters ‘taking the positive child’ is against the law - can you reiterate that?!!

How does the ‘being very unforgiving’ manifest itself?

Ah yes I’d forgotten it was breaking the law - that helps my case! Will still go down as being an awful daughter though
Manifests itself in massive guilt tripping and complaining especially when drunk. We don’t see them much for this reason (drinking and emotional guilt tripping) but have been trying harder recently as feel bad the kids don’t see them much.

It's not just about what she wants though it's about if you and your family can live with it if she gets seriously ill from covid.

My friend is a paramedic and she says they are still taking loads of double jabbed people into hospital really poorly so I’d be very wary about visiting anyone until everyone has the all clear

Your mum does not seem very COVID aware if she thinks bringing the positive child to visit is legal and ok. I must be younger than your parents and I wouldn't have you bring your other kids to see me while you have COVID in the house!

I think you need to save her from herself. "Sorry mum can't bring DC1 as it's illegal and, given the chances the other kids will catch it from him we will reschedule for the first weekend we will be sure we won't bring it to you. I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if I gave you COVID and you were seriously I'll or worse. Vaccines help but they are no guarantee. Love you! Bye!"

I’m still dodging her questions. Hoping she might relent first and accept it’s a bad plan 😂

Op I have see you already know its against the law now.
But this thread highlights how many people don't know the law and don't care.
That chain she's so happy to encourage, that chain of transmission could end up anywhere.

Tell her you're not keen on the kids having to live with the guilt that they killed their nan?