Would you visit?

[parrotonmyshoulder]

My DM is currently undergoing a lots of tests for a lung problem. I am fearing the worst.
We live about 6 hours away. Haven’t seen her since middle of summer holiday.
I haven’t been visiting since she became ill - initially she was in hospital and no visitors, then too poorly at home for visitors anyway.
She and Dad have had boosters.
My DC are primary and secondary - eldest is single jabbed. I work in school - double jabbed, not eligible for booster.
Cases in our area are very high.

We’re not going for Christmas - that was decided a while ago and I wouldn’t want her to feel any pressure to ‘do’ Christmas. But I wish I could visit. I’ve been telling myself, and anyone who asks, that I can’t due to the covid risk (as she is now CEV and last year would have been asked to shield).

Just want others’ opinions. However, under these circumstances ‘it’s no worse than a cold’ or ‘would you go if the kids had D&V?’ or ´we’ve got to learn to live with it’ aren’t going to be helpful.

What is the current prognosis on it in terms of life limiting?
What does she think you should do?
What is she doing in her current life - hospitals are a huge port of infection.

Then are you able to test and isolate for 2-3 days before you go to make sure you are clear

I'd get a PCR (privately) and then visit if it was negative (and she was comfortable with it).

She’s at home and feeling relatively well. No prognosis yet.
She wants to see us. But she doesn’t want to make the decision, understandably.

Yes I would visit. You could do a lateral flow beforehand.
She’s your Mum. Mental health and seeing family are so very important.

I’d go, you’d regret is if she deteriorated and you hadnt seen her.

Id be minded to go

You and all family do laterals a couple of days before and onthe day you travel with as little external contact as possible in between ( could you go on a Monday when the kids have had the weekend off school for example ? Or after the start of the school holidays )

I think you need to go and visit her (maybe just you) and take the precautions you need - even to the point of sitting socially distanced and taking a mask and take it from there

I would visit.

I would do LFTs and visit. We have found them to be very reliable, so I would trust the result.

I am CEV and visited my parents. I wore masks and socially distanced and we all did lateral flow tests beforehand.

I also visited in the summer and we all sat outside.

In your situation I’d go but be very careful.