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To find it mad that life goes on

65 replies

Mammyloveswine · 11/11/2021 18:59

Covid cases are crazy where I live!! Anyway, my husband (who works from home and never goes anywhere bar school run!) has just tested positive on a PCR! He goes nowhere! All my lateral flows are negative (I'm a teacher) so myself and both children can just carry on as normal!! It's staggering!!

I've been for a pcr tonight as a contact but can't get over the mega difference in just a few months re being a close contact!!

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Timescale · 11/11/2021 19:13

Yeah I find the close contact thing crazy as
Well. If you bloody well live with a covid positive case then chances are pretty high that you’re also going to get it. Allowing people to live normally in these circumstances is strange to me.

I remember a post a month or so ago where a posters DH had covid and she was asking whether she should go out for drinks with her friends. I was completely shocked by this but it must be happening up and down the country.

BonneMaman15 · 11/11/2021 19:14

It's crazy. Don't know how we're going to get out of this pandemic without some restriction on household contacts of a positive case.

Mammyloveswine · 11/11/2021 20:02

I confined myself to my classroom today, opened windows...ended up spending more time outside...

I told my head I'd arranged to go for a pcr and she said "oh are you not feeling well?" And I said "erm isn't that what I'm supposed to do??

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RuleWithAWoodenFoot · 11/11/2021 21:36

Yep. My partner tests positive Sunday, we get our result Monday evening, so I didn't go to school on Monday. I was negative, so went in on Tuesday for half a day (partner in bed at home, child home due to inset) - wore a mask and avoided people, went to the supermarket on the way for cold remedies for partner. Went to work as normal on Wednesday, via the gym on the way, had around 40 child contacts in class, kept a mask on with adults and in public spaces at school.

Tested negative on LFT Wednesday evening, positive on LFT Thursday morning. I had 50+ close contact just by going to my job.

Our child has been to school all along, negative LFTs every day, two negative PCRs.

Wellbythebloodyhell · 11/11/2021 21:36

I don't think it's crazy at all, life went on beforehand when anyone else in our home had an infectious illness, illnesess that could have the potential to severe in elderly or vulnerable contacts,and no one gave it a second thought

FavouriteOne · 11/11/2021 21:41

It does seem crazy, as in so many households, if one person gets Covid, everyone gets Covid... however, our teens had it months apart and the rest of the family didn't catch it each time.

Bobholll · 11/11/2021 21:43

I had covid in October. Neither my children nor my husband caught it despite me not isolating from them at all. My kids are very young so isolating was impossible. 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s a weird virus. I caught it from a party I was at for 2 hours that was well ventilated. But spending loadsa time in my house with my family & they didn’t. No symptoms. Two PCR’s, one on day 3 and one on day 8.

Thankfully I’m relieved we can go about as normal as otherwise they’d have had to isolate when not ill and I’d have to isolate again whenever they inevitably do catch it later on 🙈

xxxGirlCrushxxx · 11/11/2021 21:44

i dont think its crazy either!!

life DOES need to go on, and majority are vaccinated now lessening effects! what do you expect? to be locked away for the foreseeable ?

who would pay for it?

AlanisMorningShed · 11/11/2021 21:51

We've all had it at separate times in our home and it didn't spread between us at the same time.

I don't disagree that you are more at risk now of catching and spreading it, but I do think we have to continue now the vaccines have made progress in bringing Covid hospital admissions down.

Taking time off to isolate was crushing for us as dh is self employed and we only got ssp. I also used up all my sick pay isolating! It really can hit families hard financially.

RancidOldHag · 11/11/2021 21:52

I do think that the household should bee considered the basic unit of infectivity.

But all the devolved governments have decided otherwise, so we just have to deal with it

Angrymum22 · 11/11/2021 21:53

I’m done with Covid. I’ve had it twice once before vaccination and second time post vaccination. Both times it was no worse than a bad cold.
Unfortunately I was diagnosed with breast cancer recently so for me Covid is no longer the enemy and I’m dammed if I’m going to waste anymore of my life being coupes up. I feel like the last two years have been lost.
I will get the results of final tests next week to see if I need chemo. If I don’t I will no longer worry about Covid. Life is for living not hiding from a bloody virus that has killed less people than cancer on a yearly basis.

Angrymum22 · 11/11/2021 21:59

For anyone interested in the stats. There will be a significant increase in theses figures in the next few years due to the temp shut down of screening services during 2020 and many people have found access to GPs almost impossible. You can’t feel a bloody breast lump over the phone or via video.
We may have saved a few lives but at what cost.

To find it mad that life goes on
Angrymum22 · 11/11/2021 22:01

And before anyone argues the figure they are the average figures for 2016/17/18 not the total.

Wellbythebloodyhell · 11/11/2021 22:01

@RancidOldHag

I do think that the household should bee considered the basic unit of infectivity.

But all the devolved governments have decided otherwise, so we just have to deal with it

Does the same apply to other infectious diseases within the household? If not, why not? Who's going to fund missing wages due to repeated isolations? Practically how do you propose your idea become a viable option ? We can't just ignore the financial consequence repeated household isolations can cause, goodwill and the greater good doesn't pay the bills and that's the harsh realistic reality here
Sleepdeprived42long · 11/11/2021 22:04

Not sure what the rules are elsewhere but in Scotland whole household has to self isolate if someone in house has symptoms. If they are positive then other members of household can only end isolation with negative PCR result.

TheKeatingFive · 11/11/2021 22:05

Our economic system simply isn't set up to deal with repeated and significant isolation periods. That's the bottom line.

xxxGirlCrushxxx · 11/11/2021 22:09

ds just had it but the rest of our household was negative at every test

if we had isolated thats 4 incomes affected....who would pay that?

iwishiwasafish · 11/11/2021 23:50

@Sleepdeprived42long

Not sure what the rules are elsewhere but in Scotland whole household has to self isolate if someone in house has symptoms. If they are positive then other members of household can only end isolation with negative PCR result.
Yes I was going to say the same. Might be different in England? Was surprised OP was back in school with just LFT result.

That said, DS1 currently has covid. DS2 (and DH and I) both had PCRs as close contacts. All negative. So DS2 is now back at school. He is taking a LFT every morning, but the reality is he is exposed every evening at home.

However, if you don’t have a covid, you can’t spread it.

It just seems incongruous that it’s PCR to return to school, but no mandatory requirement even for LFTs from that point forward.

LivinLaVidaLoki · 12/11/2021 06:40

@Wellbythebloodyhell

I don't think it's crazy at all, life went on beforehand when anyone else in our home had an infectious illness, illnesess that could have the potential to severe in elderly or vulnerable contacts,and no one gave it a second thought
Same here. DS had it but DH and I tested negative throughout.

When DS was 4 and had chickenpox DH and I split the leave to care for him between us to enable us to work.

Same when he had flu. Both are infectious and both could be potentially severe or life threatening but no one batted an eyelid. People would have thought we were batshit crazy to isolate our whole house for this.

millenialblush · 12/11/2021 06:44

You've answered your own question in your post - your DH contracted it even though he 'doesn't go anywhere'. And that is why life goes on. People will catch it no matter what rules are in place, most people won't be seriously ill.

Landof · 12/11/2021 06:48

The household not having to isolate blows my mind but then on the other hand, I guess it's not a terrible thing?! For most people it is a mild illness, especially if we are double jabbed. They are obviously going for herd immunity now aren't they. Unless you want to be in and out of restrictions then I am not sure what else could happen?

brittleheadgirl · 12/11/2021 06:49

But for the majority of vaccinated people the illness is mild.

If someone has flu in my household, the rest of us wouldn't dream of self isolating, yet flu kills so many people every year, despite there being a long running flu vaccination programme.

My teen ds currently has covid and I'm testing daily but otherwise carrying on with my life as normal.

MrsJackWhicher · 12/11/2021 06:51

@Wellbythebloodyhell

I don't think it's crazy at all, life went on beforehand when anyone else in our home had an infectious illness, illnesess that could have the potential to severe in elderly or vulnerable contacts,and no one gave it a second thought
This. Thank god some sanity is prevailing even though the doomsters would like us all locked down again.
pinkpixie83 · 12/11/2021 06:52

But life has to go on.
My teen is on the last day of her isolation today, the other 3 of us have tested negative throughout. Bad enough their dad wouldn't have the other 2, but why should they have missed school and their other social activities too.
We've all regularly lateral flow tested and had a pcr, I isolated the teen in her room. As the adult I've minimised my social contact as I've been delivering food and washing stuff but still.
Life has to return, and the rest of us shouldn't have to potentially miss what could be 40 days of life.

SpookyScarySkeletons · 12/11/2021 06:54

I would have agreed but now I have had it I do agree that life needs to get back to normal.

DD caught it from a friend at a meal out. Tested positive on the Thursday and me and DH were positive by the Monday. Both double jabbed. DH worked Thursday - Sunday in retail so endless close contacts. Eldest DD has stayed negative and continued going to college.

None of us have been very poorly though. Made me think "what was all the fuss about?"