Feeling very, very low

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I’m on day 5 of isolation due to Covid and am really struggling mentally. I have a toddler and have tried to avoid cuddles with him and keep contact to a minimum so as not to pass it on. He’s been a bit confused by me keeping my distance and now cries whenever my DH leaves the room. After all my efforts, it looks like DH has now come down with Covid anyway. I can’t stop crying and worrying that I’ve ruined my bond with DS. I’m also worried that he’s now almost certain to get it.

Also just being stuck at home for days on end with a very lively toddler is something I’m finding mentally exhausting. He’s bouncing off the walls and clearly desperate to go out. I honestly don’t know how I can last another 5 days of this and if DH has it, it could be another 10.

DH and I had an argument last night and are being so short and snappy with each other due to the stress of it all.

Food is normally my enjoyment and comfort in difficult times and I can’t even taste anything.

This is far harder than lockdown as we’re both ill and aren’t allowed out the house even for a walk.

How do people get through this.

OP, you poor thing. I would hug your toddler, he needs his mum, and is at very low risk from covid (assuming he hasn't got a health condition that makes him vulnerable)? Is there anyone who could take him out for a walk, perhaps someone who is vaxxed and has had covid recently?

@MsMartini my mum lives quite far away - she could come up at a push, but if my toddler is carrying the virus and passed it onto her I would feel terrible.

My mood is so low, I honestly can’t get through this.

If DH has it too I don’t think I’ll be able to cope. He’s self employed and his business has already been hammered due to the events of the past year.

I feel so broken.

I’m also worried that he’s now almost certain to get it

My child has been in the house with covid positive people for the last 13 days and is still negative.

short and snappy with each other due to the stress of it all

Yes, it's shit. Have the 'this is shit' conversation and agree to be kind to each other. There is no other way through it. Me and my partner have barely spoken this week. Which is fine!

I just don’t think mentally I can do this for another 10 days - I just can’t.

Reach out to your mum and have a chat with her. She might want to come if she hears how low you are. At the very least it’s important you get some real life support even if just over the phone. If you are halfway through though - you can do this.

You don’t need to extend your isolation if DH has it. So it’s just another 5 days for you.
(Unless you’re in a country with different rules to England of course)

If DH does have it, can I still go out with our toddler after 5 days as I will have done 10 days isolation by then?

Sorry, cross post with Leonie. That’s something at least.

Sorry you are struggling, but you are on day 5, so 5 more to go, not 10, even if DH and DC comes down with it, you will be out of isolation after 10 days.

Yes, it would just be a case of following the guidance for close contacts (so minimising unnecessary social contact), but yes, you can go out after 10 days even if your DH got it later than you

Oh OP, it’s so shit. Once you’re done with your isolation, regardless of what happens with DH, take your toddler out. If DH isn’t positive he can take toddler out now. Kids need fresh air and to let of steam. Go somewhere isolated if necessary.

You poor thing. I wasn’t in this exact situation but I sort of know how you feel, I had covid about a month ago and my 9 month old had it too and didn’t sleep for a week, but my partner was negative so had to do his night shifts as normal. I honestly thought I was going to lose my mind from the isolation and lack of sleep, I almost wished he would just catch it too so I could have some help (ridiculous I know). I also initially tried to isolate from my DD and felt dreadful about it.

It feels endless but this will pass eventually and you’ll be able to look back on it and shudder slightly whilst you enjoy normal life.. Also- I lost sense of smell around day 4 but it came back a week later. Fingers crossed your taste comes back ASAP 🤞