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Going to kids party with a cold?

27 replies

Koalaleia · 27/10/2021 09:09

Pre-Covid, if my kids had a cold, so long as they weren’t feeling ill with it (temperature/lethargy etc) we’d go about our business as normal, including going to school, clubs & activities & parties.

Now, in a post covid world, is this no longer socially acceptable? DD is around 10 days into a cold & for the last 6 days has had a barking cough. PCR negative, we’re also doing LFT every couple of days & all negative too. She is well in herself, has not had a temperature, just has this cough & still a bit snotty. She has a friend’s party coming up & not sure if I should let her go. Pre-covid, of course I would, but will it be frowned upon now?
She’ll be gutted, but I don’t want to be selfish about it if it’s the wrong thing to do to send her.

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Fdksyihfd · 27/10/2021 09:13

Could you message the mum and ask? It wouldn’t bother me as my kids have had constant colds and sniffles and I suspect if everyone didn’t come who had a cold there would be barely anyone there but everyone is different

Lawnpop · 27/10/2021 09:13

It’s tricky. With a cough then I wouldn’t go. Because getting a cough these days is a real pain because you have to get tested so I’d rather not catch things like that (although I realize in reality this isn’t possible). Also people will be wondering if it’s covid as soon as these hear coughing.

R0tational · 27/10/2021 09:15

I wouldnt mind - this winter will be full of illness.

almaonao · 27/10/2021 09:16

I wouldn't want you to come to my party with a child that has a barking cough. I'd say ask the host see if she minds. I've cancelled shit tons of people this year just for a runny nose 🤣

gogohm · 27/10/2021 09:17

I would not go with a cough, pcr tests can be wrong!

CakesOfVersailles · 27/10/2021 09:18

Wouldn't send her with a barking cough tbh.

How long until the party? Any chance her symptoms will clear up in time?

StillSadAboutTiffanyMitchell · 27/10/2021 09:18

I took my son to a party yesterday whilst on day 10 of a cough.
His cough sounds pretty bad but he was pcr negative when I tested him.
I didnt clear it with the mum first but they have been in school together all of last week anyway so it didn't cross my mind.

You could send the mum a text just stating that your child does has a cough, is pcr negative and that you do regular ltf's and see how she feels about it.

Fetarabbit · 27/10/2021 09:19

A cold yes, a cough though would be annoying as if it's inevitable passed on those who get it will need to take a test which is a pain in the ass. Snotty nose etc though yes I would!

Sittinginthesand · 27/10/2021 09:21

Just ask the host!

Sandyjag · 27/10/2021 09:53

Don’t they all go to school? School is full of kids with coughs. If you have done a PCR you have been entirely diligent and your kid should not have to miss out on normal life experiences.

aSofaNearYou · 27/10/2021 10:03

I would have frowned upon you doing it before Covid tbh, let alone after. Yes, I get that kids get colds, but it's not a very nice birthday present, is it.

Anything that lasts more than a couple of days, I think is a very inconsiderate thing to knowingly expose others to.

covetingthepreciousthings · 27/10/2021 10:06

Runny nose & negative PCR, then I'd consider it, but a barking cough? No, I wouldn't. I know that they've probably all been mixing at school, but if you can limit
contact why wouldn't you? No one wants to catch a barking cough / cold at the best of times, but when it means potentially isolation and tests..

Artie30 · 27/10/2021 10:24

At the beginning of the cold I would say not but if she's ten days 10 I would say possibly - if the mums okay with it. When Ds gets a cold the cough last for a few weeks when he's not contagious anymore! Not fun in pandemic times when they've tested negative but still coughing like mad!

Artie30 · 27/10/2021 10:26

@gogohm

I would not go with a cough, pcr tests can be wrong!
Not every cough is covid in fact most aren't and it's not even the main sign anymore! Ds had a cold & cough recently, pcr negative but like very cold he's had, he's got a lingering cough. Coughs can last a long time even when you are no longer contagious!
aSofaNearYou · 27/10/2021 10:36

Not every cough is covid in fact most aren't and it's not even the main sign anymore! Ds had a cold & cough recently, pcr negative but like very cold he's had, he's got a lingering cough. Coughs can last a long time even when you are no longer contagious!

But Covid aside, why would anyone want that?

Showing up to see someone when you've been ill for over a week is like saying you expect spending time with you on that specific day to be more important to them than the whole of their next week not being awful. That's pretty much never the case in my opinion, it's really arrogant and inconsiderate!

thewhatsit · 27/10/2021 12:08

My DC have had colds pretty much since they went back to school. My DD is fine in herself but her cough will not shift and it’s been ages.
When the colds (I assume we keep getting them back to back) are at their heaviest we lie low but it would be impossible to not go out as long as they last.

FenceSplinters · 27/10/2021 12:11

I wouldn’t send her.

Katie517 · 27/10/2021 19:59

Yes I would let my little one go, every child I know at the moment has a cold or a cough most of whom have had negative PCRs so there is no point in taking even more enjoyment out of what has been a really crappy time for little ones! My one year olds nose has ran almost constantly since they started nursery a month ago, I think that’s just the reality of this winter

cooker321monster · 27/10/2021 20:39

Let her go and enjoy the party. Your not going to keep her indoors until the cold is gone so why not? exposure to viruses amongst children builds immunity x

Tillysfad · 27/10/2021 20:46

I have a child who would end up on inhalers of all kinds because you take your child around sick.

Covid or no Covid, it's a selfish thing to do. Even more so now when it might lead to children missing school and children like my child would struggle to access routine care. If she gets a cough we're directed 40 miles to a Covid centre just to be seen.

Your child does not need to go that badly.

Tillysfad · 27/10/2021 20:48

So many selfish people on this thread

Don't worry, if there is any mixing at all there will be quite enough immune boosting going on. No need to screw everyone over to achieve that.

cooker321monster · 27/10/2021 21:00

Are parents keeping things too clean for their kids' good?

By Lisa Zamosky

It's the basic nature of young children to touch the very things in their environment that their parents find most disgusting. Just try to keep your 1-year-old from sticking the dog's bone in their mouth!

Epidemic-scale flu seasons havehealth authorities imploring regular hand washing, and with talk of sanitizer gel like it was liquid gold, it's tough not to worry about what your children are getting into and the ultimate impact it will have on their health.

Infectious diseases are a legitimate cause for concern, but some would argue that our society has gone overboard when it comes to protecting our kids from germs.

How clean an environment do our kids really need for good health? Here's what experts told WebMD.

Hygiene Hypothesis

A mounting body of research suggests that exposing infants to germs may offer them greater protection from illnesses such as allergies and asthma later on in life.

This line of thinking, called the "hygiene hypothesis," holds that when exposure to parasites, bacteria, and viruses is limited early in life, children face a greater chance of having allergies, asthma, and other autoimmune diseases during adulthood.

In fact, kids with older siblings, who grew up on a farm, or who attended day care early in life seem to show lower rates of allergies.

Just as a baby's brain needs stimulation, input, and interaction to develop normally, the young immune system is strengthened by exposure to everyday germs so that it can learn, adapt, and regulate itself, notes Thom McDade, PhD, associate professor and director of the Laboratory for Human Biology Research at Northwestern University.

Exactly which germs seem to do the trick hasn't yet been confirmed. But new research offers clues.

In a recent study, McDade's team found that children who were exposed to more animal feces and had more cases of diarrhea before age 2 had less incidence of inflammation in the body as they grew into adulthood.

Inflammation has been linked to many chronic adulthood illnesses, such as heart disease, diabetes, and Alzheimer's.

"We're moving beyond this idea that the immune system is just involved in allergies, autoimmune diseases, and asthma to think about its role in inflammation and other degenerative diseases," McDade says. "Microbial exposures early in life may be important… to keep inflammation in check in adulthood."

cooker321monster · 27/10/2021 21:01

On the contrary I believe that wrapping our children up in bubble wrap will cause more long term harm.

Bobholll · 27/10/2021 21:11

Mines been at several this term. She’s had countless colds. So have the other kids. They are at school all day anyway. What’s a 2 hour party 🤷🏼‍♀️

LilyPond2 · 27/10/2021 21:23

If it's 10 days since the symptoms started, your DD would be coming out of isolation now even if it had been Covid. I would let her go, but also let the host know that she's had the symptoms for 10 days already and had a negative PCR and had lots of negative lateral flows. If you don't say anything, the host may spend the party fretting that your DD has Covid.