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I’m panicking please help me see some sense..

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:17

I’ve been very very careful with Covid and still follow the safety measures. I’ve been very nervous going into shops etc but am trying. My daughter went to swimming after a break and I was not planning to go in..especially as I didn’t want my nervousness to upset her…my husband was going to go in. But she just wouldn’t go in and in the end I had to step in and take her through… I had to sit on the benches for the 30 min duration. I had to speak to another lady during this time..

We were not 2m apart as we were sitting indoors close to each other

All the parents were masked / including this lady

We were not chatting for the whole 30 mins but we must have for 8-10 mins

I was very very nervous about the jabs but somehow worked my way through the fear and got the first dose in August and second 11 days back

So not fully vaccinated?

I’m really really scared as my dad passed away due to Covid in September so it’s brought back the anxiety

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:17

I’ve ordered lft but really worried now

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JuneOsborne · 24/10/2021 12:20

Ah, honey. You're spiralling. Take some deep breaths.

All you can do is wait and see.

Hope you're ok, it sounds like you've got some intense anxiety Flowers

TeacherMa · 24/10/2021 12:25

I feel so sorry for everyone suffering such severe health anxiety because of this. Have you really been avoiding human interaction all this time with anyone outside of your household?

Sure, do the LFT. But I think counselling would be better for you longterm to help rehabilitate you back into society.

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:26

@JuneOsborne thank you for being kind…yes I am spiralling.

My mum instinct kicked in and I thought I’ll take her in as if I let her ‘carry her fear’ then she’ll never be able to get back in…

But it hit me when she was in the pool that I’m sitting inside and this lady whom I haven’t seen for a while was chatting to me. Of course nothing wrong with that but it’s my anxiety which is driving me nuts and make me think that’s it, I’ve caught it now.

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2boysand1princess · 24/10/2021 12:26

@Confused10101

I’ve been very very careful with Covid and still follow the safety measures. I’ve been very nervous going into shops etc but am trying. My daughter went to swimming after a break and I was not planning to go in..especially as I didn’t want my nervousness to upset her…my husband was going to go in. But she just wouldn’t go in and in the end I had to step in and take her through… I had to sit on the benches for the 30 min duration. I had to speak to another lady during this time..

We were not 2m apart as we were sitting indoors close to each other

All the parents were masked / including this lady

We were not chatting for the whole 30 mins but we must have for 8-10 mins

I was very very nervous about the jabs but somehow worked my way through the fear and got the first dose in August and second 11 days back

So not fully vaccinated?

I’m really really scared as my dad passed away due to Covid in September so it’s brought back the anxiety

So sorry about your dad Flowers I can understand feeling anxiety after going through something like that. My honest opinion is that you are fine. You most likely haven’t been exposed to the virus during that visit. I highly doubt the person you spoke to had covid and if they did it doesn’t mean you will automatically catch it. I have sat next to someone for 2 hours who had symptoms of covid and tested positive the following day (less than 1 metre apart) I have also been exposed to someone who had covid and I spent 30 mins speaking to that person where none of us were wearing a face mask. I still didn’t catch it and I was either not vaccinated then or had only one dose. Most recently I have been exposed again and am on day 7 of waiting for symptoms. (Spine a later flow every morning) So far nothing (touch wood) however I am double vaccinated this time. You will be fine
SylvanasWindrunner · 24/10/2021 12:26

There's no reason to think this lady has Covid, much less was able to pass it to you. Even if she did have Covid she clearly wasn't symptomatic, so the chances of her spreading it were low anyway.

But I'm not sure logic or people here telling you not to worry will really help you, OP. I think you need to speak to your GP and access some counselling or other services as it must be a very difficult and tiring way to live. I really feel for you.

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:27

@TeacherMa yes I have… my company has gone work from home..and I’ve not had any ‘in person’ interaction

It’s all been zoom,teams etc…

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:27

I’m slowly trying to…went to a shop yesterday but today was not in the plan hence the panic attack

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SummerHouse · 24/10/2021 12:28

Sorry you feel like this. Your issue is not covid but the anxiety around it. Have you seen GP?

Chances of other person having covid = miniscule
Chances you picked it up if they did = small
Chances you would get seriously ill = vanishingly small

Myself, DP and two children all have covid. None of us are ill, let alone seriously.

OnceuponaRainbow18 · 24/10/2021 12:28

Why is sending your OH to potentially catch it ok but not yourself? I’m confused.

Many of us having been working throughout with no safety measures in place as we are ok. Even if you catch it, which seems pretty inevitable with what the gov are doing, you’re more than likely to be fine- especially now double jabbed.

You need to seek help for your anxiety as this needs addressing for your whole families sake- especially yours.

OliveTree75 · 24/10/2021 12:29

I feel sorry for you OP. I can't believe people still live with this level of fear.

ImFree2doasiwant · 24/10/2021 12:29

There's a high chance you'll be fine. For perspective, ds1 tested positive last week. I've been doing daily lft and despite him omly being 6 and coughing constantly, I havent caught it.

ThePlantsitter · 24/10/2021 12:30

So sorry about your dad OP.

I find that if I start to spiral about this stuff, just focusing on how I feel physically RIGHT NOW helps me. Like, right now I feel comfortable and well, or a bit snuffly but I can breathe perfectly well, my temperature is just right etc. Concentrate on the fact you feel good now and what happens in the future is not now.

Also doing other stuff to distract helps!

EnrouteNOTonroute · 24/10/2021 12:33

Op I don’t know what area you’re in but it’s highly unlikely the woman had covid. In my area there’s roughly 300 known cases per 100,000 which equates to 0.3% of the local population. Obviously there’ll be unrecorded cases, let’s say triple for arguments sake. That’s 0.9% of the local population. So the likelihood is that that lady is in the 99.1% of the population. Please don’t worry.

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:40

@OnceuponaRainbow18 there is always one poster isn’t there who tries to find out an issue not listed in the op??

No I was not trying to ‘save myself’ and push my husband in front

The rationale was as stated in my op I’m already nervous , trying to take small steps, me taking my daughter in who was nervous about going into swimming after a break would create a compounding issue..she feeding off my anxiety so we thought it’s best my husband who isn’t anxious hours in..but he couldn’t calm her down so I stepped in…
So no im not pushing others in front…

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:41

@EnrouteNOTonroute out is in the 600 mark..so 0.6%…

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:42

@ThePlantsitter yes that’s what I’m doing now..I just keep repeating ‘you don’t have symptoms yet’ in my head…

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Mybalconyiscracking · 24/10/2021 12:44

I honestly think that the best thing that could happen for some of you healthy worriers is that you get it, so you can see that it is not the end of the world.

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:44

This is the ‘hidden struggle’ of this pandemic..I’m sure there are many more.
I colleague of mine from a different company tang me on Friday practically in a panic as another person had used the mask down and coughed and she was close to him…so there are many many like me who are struggling to come out of this

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:46

I am on IAPT services and am going though cbt..however my therapist is not very good. She just goes through a script snd not bothered about really trying to understand- I might stop the nhs one and go private as most therapists are not very good.

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:47

@Mybalconyiscracking yes I used to think the same…actually my dad thought exactly this. I’ll be fine if I get it and you’ll see it’s nothing much…unfortunately he is not here today…😔

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 12:48

@Mybalconyiscracking that’s playing on my mind a lot

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Cookerhood · 24/10/2021 13:49

Did you get to go to your home country OP? I remember you were trying to get the 2nd jab early so you could travel. What happened in the end?
I'm sure you will be fine, you know it's your anxiety talking so reassurances are unlikely to help.

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Confused10101 · 24/10/2021 14:38

@Cookerhood yes that was me… I was trying to do too many things, travel to be with mum after dad passed, manage my anxiety, manage my emotions, get second jab, plan school start…it all got too much.

In the end we decided (me and husband)

Travel plans pushed to Dec/Jan - as no funeral anyways due to it being a corona death and my home country was under lockdown down etc

Wait the 8 weeks for second jab…

Husband did the drop/ pick up and we did daily LFTs…

I ended up getting the jab in 9 weeks gap..was not easy this time around as well but I took small steps and got it done..,

Didn’t have any side effects…well so far nothing. I’m on day 11 today

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Cookerhood · 24/10/2021 15:02

Well done for getting the second jab. I hope it helps reassure you.

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