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How effective in self isolation in your home?

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 10:04

DH has tested positive for COVID and the rest of us are negative on lateral flows but waiting for PCR results. dcs have already had it so unlikely to get it again but I am probably likely to get it. Very surprised we didn't get it when the dcs did and DH got it two weeks later.

Anyway, DH is currently self isolating in our loft room since yesterday and we have had no contact. But I have a very important funeral to go to next week and don't want to risk catching it. How likely am I to catch it from him (if I haven't already) or should I go and stay at my parents house to be safe? It makes taking the dcs to school next week tricky as they live 45/60 mins away but I don't want to risk missing the wedding.

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BigSquareRoom · 17/10/2021 10:15

Is it a funeral or wedding OP :)?

I think you would be stupid going to your parents personally. You might have caught it already and will then pass it on to your parents. The damage is already done so just continue to stay away from your dh

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 10:20

A funeral. I have taken a lateral flow this morning which is negative and we are waiting for our PCR results. Hopefully coming this afternoon. We are all double vaccinated. How likely is it that I have it between all those tests?

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Kb2942 · 17/10/2021 10:20

Wedding or funeral? Stupid going to your parents... you may be carrying it and risking spreading it to them. There's a good chance you won't catch it. What do you mean by next week? If it's still over a week away you would likely have caught it in that time frame if you was going to?!

Someone I know bad covid, her kids did not get it from her but caught it from school just a month or so after their mum had it. Not really helpful but it's an odd virus! You could live in a house with a positive person and not get it but catch from elsewhere.

Just keep disinfecting things and washing hands!

MrsWooster · 17/10/2021 10:22

I stayed in the conservatory for a week (was 4 days into symptoms when I tested) and none of the other three got it (or not symptomatically anyway 🤷)

dreamingofaholidaysoon · 17/10/2021 10:23

I had covid In March and spent ten days locked in our bedroom. When I came out I only went in well ventilated areas or sat outside. No one else got it in our house. However I also know people that have done the same thing and still caught it. Just take every precaution you can but if you do get it it's Sod's law I'm afraid

whatnumber · 17/10/2021 10:25

You should miss it if you don't want to pass the infection on.
You've taken a pcr test which only can tell you if you had it at that exact moment.
You could pick it up or develop it more the very next hour/day.
If you do go keep a very big distance from everyone and wear a mask.

Upsky · 17/10/2021 10:31

I had covid in August. My first symptom was a headache so I didn't think of covid straight away. By the time I tested (positive LFT followed by PCR) I had probably been highly infectious for 5 days.
From the day I tested DH and I kept to separate rooms and used masks in hall / kitchen. I was very ill and he had to take me to hospital by car, masked and windows all down.
He didn't catch it.

Legally you can go to your funeral but I wouldn't. Funerals tend to have lots of elderly people there who may be more vulnerable than you.

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 10:34

It's a funeral sorry. It's Wednesday next week. I have taken a lateral flow this morning which is negative and if the PCR is negative this afternoon- hopefully. I would say it's pretty certain I do not have it. I would pack my bags immediately and me and the dcs would go to my parents. We would be COVID free wouldn't we with all those tests? Then stay in a COVID free environment until the funeral.

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 10:34

I would do a lateral flow each morning until Wednesday to make sure.

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Popfan · 17/10/2021 10:54

There's still no way I'd go to my parents!! Even with negative tests.

legosunqueen · 17/10/2021 11:00

We're trying to manage it at the moment, DS age 15 & DH both tested positive on Monday & Friday respectively, both have symptoms, me & DDog are trying to avoid them, the difficulty is we only have one bathroom so I feel like I'm on borrowed time...am testing daily but so far negative. My main worry (apart from serious illness) is who can walk DDog if I succumb...DS is actually much better but still has to self isolate until Friday. I'm walking the dog only, although legally I can go out & about I've cancelled appointments & seeing friends. I don't think going to the funeral is a good idea personally.

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 11:04

I would carry on as normal if it wasn't for the funeral.

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Lushmetender · 17/10/2021 11:16

My dc all caught it and they self isolated and used different bathrooms. DH and I didn’t catch it.

LindaEllen · 17/10/2021 11:17

To be honest, I would be missing the funeral. I know the rules around isolation have changed, but I still think it's stupid to go to any kind of gathering that would involve a large crowd. Even if you're not testing positive or showing symptoms, you could be carrying covid particles and touching surfaces etc etc. Given the fact that so many elderly people go to funerals, I would stay away. Sorry.

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 11:24

I don't see the problem if I test negative all the way up to the funeral. It's a very close relative and I would be so upset if I missed it. I already missed going into see the relative in her last days because of COVID.

By going to my parents when I am COVID free I will be minimising my changes of catching it so I can go.

Maybe a hotel would be a better option and leave dcs with DH. I would need to ferry them to school and back.

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yikesanotherbooboo · 17/10/2021 11:33

The problem with funerals is that a lot of old people go to them.I don't think that you should go. If you are determined; stay in a hotel, hang around outside the crematorium, stand at the back and leave without social contact.

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 11:38

Yes I get that but I would only go if I have tested negative on all tests. What's the difference in going in that situation and a situation where I had taken no tests and DH didn't have COVID. I could still have had it unbeknownst to me and wouldn't have been tested.

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ApplesAreTheBaneOfMyLife · 17/10/2021 11:39

I wouldn’t go to your parents but would go to the funeral if lateral flow tests were negative, unless you know that someone there is ECV. Depends whether it’s a big funeral or a small one where you know everyone. Sit at the back away from everyone, wear a mask, and leave as soon as it is over. Or stand outside and listen from there. Chances are they’ll have the doors open.

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 11:49

How much higher is my risk of catching it with DH self isolating and if I go to a hotel once I get a negative PCR test? Is it worth going to a hotel? I feel I am more likely to catch it if I am here.

DH is currently refusing to look after the dcs as she feels too ill apparently. He's in bed but not completely bed bound and is managing to eat etc and do work. But does feel rough apparently. He has an attitude if I can't do anything when I'll rather than carrying on. Is this selfish? I miss a very important funeral of a loved relative because he can't push through from today until Wednesday.

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BigSquareRoom · 17/10/2021 12:30

From my experience, my lateral flows didn’t turn positive until day 3 of mild symptoms. I was testing several times a day and it turned from negative to strongly positive in about 3 hours.

I caught it from dd. As soon as she got her positive lateral flow she stayed in her room. But I still caught it - presumably because I caught it before she tested positive.

I think you need to accept that you probably won’t be able to go to the funeral.

pullingmyhairout2 · 17/10/2021 12:48

Can only tell you my experience but feel I've been lucky really. Son had it in July, isolated in his room as soon as lateral flow was positive. Husband works away but was at home when son would have been infectious which they think is two days prior to symptoms. He had a hotel for the weekend while we were still isolating. No one else caught it.
Daughter had covid end of sept, I collected her from school as she had a headache and most of her friends had covid at that point, tested her that day but she was negative, decided to get her to isolate to be on the safe side. She then tested positive the next morning, again no one else caught it.
We shared a bathroom as only have one, but I cleaned it each time she had been in there.

I'm not sure I would risk going to stay with your parents just yet as it's still early days and you could be incubating the virus. But either book the hotel for you and the children or just be extra cautious in the house re cleaning and masking up when using shared spaces and ventilating the house.

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gingercatsparky · 17/10/2021 12:51

If DH tested positive Saturday morning and so is likely to have had it two days before so Thursday. What is the period for me to show as a positive before I know I will not have caught it?

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BigSquareRoom · 17/10/2021 14:02

If you think that previously you had to isolate for 10 days after contact, I would count 10 days from Thursday. And if you don’t get it by then you’re in the clear

Tatum1234 · 17/10/2021 15:04

It took me a week to show positive after my children. I had negative PCRs on the Sunday and Wednesday before testing positive on the Saturday so don’t assume you’ll stay negative just because your tests are at the minute.

Tatum1234 · 17/10/2021 15:05

To add, they tested positive on the Saturday and Sunday of the first weekend, then other child and I tested positive on the following Saturday.

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