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Covid at weddings

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donutqueen11 · 05/10/2021 20:43

Hss anyone been to a wedding or a big inside event and not caught COVID recently?? I have just heard of another friend today who has caught covid from a wedding at the weekend. Nearly 85% of guests have tested positive. This is about the 5th friend or relative that has caught covid from a wedding or party We are at a wedding on Saturday but have a really important week at work next week and can't be off work as well as needing to help look after my parents. I would be devastated if after going to the wedding I infected them. We are all double jabbed but as we know it doesn't stop transmission. Would AIBU to not go the wedding? It is one of my best friends so I know she would be devastated if I didn't go.

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Mindymomo · 05/10/2021 20:51

Could you suggest that everyone attending do LFT tests tomorrow and on the day of wedding. You cannot guarantee that there won’t be someone there is positive, but it may pick up anything beforehand.

Katie517 · 05/10/2021 21:02

I’ve been to 3 weddings since July, 2 christenings, a 30th birthday, a baby shower and a few kids parties no one I know including myself has caught covid from these events. To contemplate not going to your best friends wedding on the off chance you might catch a virus is ridiculous in my opinion.

PainAuChocowhat · 05/10/2021 21:02

We went to a wedding of just under 100 guests nearly 3 weeks ago and not one case of covid reported. There was even a receiving line which, frankly, I thought was pretty much a shoe-in for the groom’s elderly and infirm mum to catch it but nope.

Overthebow · 05/10/2021 21:07

I've been to a few weddings recently and only know of a small number of people that have caught covid from them. It's the risk you take though, if someone there has covid you could catch it, though chances are you won't especially if you're double jabbed.

It's a bit late though isn't it to cancel on a close friends wedding this weekend?

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donutqueen11 · 05/10/2021 21:10

I don't usually worry but it just seems to be every time anyone I know goes to wedding they catch covid so has made me a bit dubious. I have been to a packed theatre in London and travelled on the underground on packed tubes and my friends hen weekend where we were packed in like sardines at a club and nobody tested positive as well as having 2 kids in school so is a bit irrational really. I never once thought about putting my parents at risk from these events! but just can't help worrying because of what I have heard from other people.

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Abraxan · 05/10/2021 21:12

Went to a wedding 3 weeks ago.

None of us caught covid. However, I have had a really unpleasant cold (negative on PCRs and LFTs) ever since, as has Dd.

greenlynx · 05/10/2021 21:15

Tbh it’s very strange that you never thought that you could catch Covid at big events

NailsNeedDoing · 05/10/2021 21:16

You can’t let down one of your best friends a couple of days before her wedding because a few people you know claim they caught covid at parties. They can’t all be sure that that’s where they caught it, and even if they were, you’re vaccinated, and already admitting you’re being a bit irrational.

Scarby9 · 05/10/2021 21:20

My first time at an inside social event was crammed in with 80 people at a wedding. Quite a shock to the system, but noone caught Covid.
On the other hand I know of a retired doctors' reunion where at least ten of them caught it.

greenlynx · 05/10/2021 21:25

Sorry pressed too early at big crowded events you see more people so more chances of someone having Covid. I suppose wedding might be especially dangerous in case if you are having a lot of close contacts, if you can somehow lessen this e.g don’t hug people and sanitize your hands before eating/ after toilet and so on and then do every day LFT after wedding for a week it will help.

WorriedGiraffe · 05/10/2021 21:26

It would be very unreasonable to not go to a wedding that you’ve RSVP’d yes to because you’ve heard of other people getting covid at weddings, especially when you arnt generally shielding. Several of my friends have been to weddings recently and nobody has got covid. You could catch covid anywere, any time. I say go to the wedding, wash your hands, don’t hug everyone and live your life!

delilahbucket · 05/10/2021 21:29

We had our wedding on 20th August, circa 100 guests, and I hugged every single one of them. Absolutely zero social distancing going on. No one caught Covid.
I've sung in various large groups, 60+ people, weekly since then. No one has caught Covid.
You cannot live your life like this OP.

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donutqueen11 · 05/10/2021 21:42

@delilahbucket

We had our wedding on 20th August, circa 100 guests, and I hugged every single one of them. Absolutely zero social distancing going on. No one caught Covid. I've sung in various large groups, 60+ people, weekly since then. No one has caught Covid. You cannot live your life like this OP.
You are so right and I have always been the one saying to people "life is for living". I 've been to lots of social events recently and have loved being able to get back to normal. Its just because so many people I know have caught it at weddings lately rather than any other big events it has made me stop and think a bit. This is my friends 3rd reschedule so I will not let her down!
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Flowerlane · 05/10/2021 22:03

Went to a wedding last month. No one caught covid. Everyone had a great day/night dancing and drinking! Was one of the best weddings I have been to.

RhubarbRocks · 05/10/2021 22:23

I got married last month. 70 people, lots of hugging, fabulous time on the dance floor until the small hours and no one caught Covid. But we did ask everyone to do a lateral flow before as we have one parent who is CEV and the others are CV.

Got contacted today to say we had a close contact with a positive case on our flight back from our honeymoon and need to do a PCR but that is another story!

DarceyDashwood · 06/10/2021 02:22

I was at a biggish wedding in August (approx 80 people) and as far as I know no one there caught Covid at it. It was wonderful being there! I’m at another evening do this weekend.

NumberNineTwo · 06/10/2021 02:28

I went to two massive weddings in a row and didn’t catch Covid. People did LFTs beforehand (they were supposed to anyway). Just the luck of the draw I guess.

Warhertisuff · 06/10/2021 06:47

@donutqueen11

I don't usually worry but it just seems to be every time anyone I know goes to wedding they catch covid so has made me a bit dubious. I have been to a packed theatre in London and travelled on the underground on packed tubes and my friends hen weekend where we were packed in like sardines at a club and nobody tested positive as well as having 2 kids in school so is a bit irrational really. I never once thought about putting my parents at risk from these events! but just can't help worrying because of what I have heard from other people.
If you've happily done all of those things, it really doesn't make any sense at all to be so anxious about this wedding.
Remmy123 · 06/10/2021 07:23

I can't believe you are considering not going to a wedding because of covid esp your best friends.

shouldistop · 06/10/2021 07:35

Went to a wedding almost 3 weeks ago. There must have been 200 people there, we didn't catch Covid.

EileenGC · 06/10/2021 07:43

Not weddings, but I’ve been to other large events, no Covid and no cases around me that I know of.

If you’re very uncomfortable, wear a fitted FFP2 mask throughout the day and distance from other guests - although I guess that doesn’t go hand in hand with attending a wedding in the UK right now.

Chances are you’ll be fine - I would’ve been much more concerned after clubbing tbh!

BoomChicka · 06/10/2021 07:57

Yep, weddings here, a wedding abroad, a gig, a festival, the races, an award ceremony.. no covid.

Mumdiva99 · 06/10/2021 08:01

Forget the covid risk for one second.....if your best friend heard you weren't going to her wedding, last minute because you are concerned about covid YET you went tonthe hen do, you've been to the theatre and you go to London socially.....then that is probably the end of your friendship. Is that what you want? (I get cautious people.....but you haven't been up till now....why are you making her wedding the one event where you are concerned?)

LindaEllen · 06/10/2021 08:42

If you're saying you're considering going, then you can kiss goodbye to ever going to big events again. There is no safer time than now, with so many of the population freshly vaccinated. This is not going away. You need to learn to live with it.

LindaEllen · 06/10/2021 08:42

Considering NOT going, sorry.