Family gathering indoors, colds

[dollywoodlooksgood]

We were meant to have a birthday celebration this weekend - 10 people, 3 households. One person has a cold and asked how we feel about that. My parents said they weren’t bothered but I feel differently. My DD goes to various clubs and is loving being back at them after so long. At one of them they don’t allow you in if you’ve got a cold. We definitely can’t avoid colds at school but if someone’s got a cold and I know about it, I would probably try to avoid having a party with that person - we were going to share a buffet. Not normally so bothered, but I don’t want my DD to miss out on her clubs if she were to catch it. The person with the cold is also double vaccinated so I suppose there is also an outside chance they could even have covid. My mum said we have to live with covid and that they’re not getting any younger and like to see all the families together. I felt a bit pressured by this, like it was a bit of emotional blackmail. The other family was happy to postpone. My parents are retired and I don’t think they understand that there are implications for us if someone has a cold right now … DD can’t do her club and neither can I (we do the same activity but in different classes - indoors - same rules about colds tho). I’d normally be more relaxed but DD has missed out on so much. Am I being unreasonable? I don’t hide away from covid…but I try to be sensible.

Come winter it’s going to be impossible to avoid people with colds… but your choice, you can decide not to go

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Come winter it’s going to be impossible to avoid people with colds… but your choice, you can decide not to go

Oh yes, I know, you’re quite right. It just feels a bit soon as these activities have only just restarted for DD. After months of doing them on Zoom. I said to the others they should go ahead without us but my mum said that would make her “sad” and that made me feel even more guilty!

It feels unreasonable to me but it’s your life and we all have to make our own choices about our own boundaries.

Can you all just postpone for a week? I understand how you feel, we have a young child so he will miss nursery if he has a cold and have testing he dislikes but can't understand. He's missed more than enough, and is also affects income. We can't avoid the bugs he picks up anyway, but knowingly exposing him to someone unwell doesn't feel right.

If they haven’t pcr tested, I’d not be mixing. Not because of missing hobbies but to avoid getting sick or my children getting sick.

I've got a streaming cold at the moment - only it's actually covid. None of the 'typical' symptoms. They should do a lateral flow at the very least and ideally a pcr.

My friend is double jabbed, she’s had a cold all week, got her positive covid test yesterday afternoon.
I am double jabbed, didn’t think anything of her having a cold, (as my daughter had a cold last weekend. Yes we tested yes it was negative) went to hers for a coffee, she have me a big as having a tough time and now….
I have now come down with the same symptoms as my friend! Waiting on my test results to come back! 🤦‍♀️
I’m angry with myself for being so stupid!!!

Delta presents as a cold according to the Zoe Covid Study despite the government refusing to update the symptoms

Nope - stand your ground. Colds are unavoidable generally but in this case the person could easily stay home and avoid giving it to the rest of the party.

I agree they need a PCR. I disagree with your Mum's attitude about "having to live with covid" if, what she means by that is that you should allow ill, potentially covid positive people to come to a social occasion and spread it. Your parents are being supremely selfish towards your child who could end up missing out on her hobbies and even schooling for a while. And a knock on effect on classmates and teachers. They've had a bad enough year.

You will end up feeling uncomfortable and on edge, then resentful if your child comes down with it. The sick person needs to stay home.

Thank you for the replies - always useful to hear other people’s points of view. We are going to postpone it - I felt initially a bit guilty, but less so after reading some of the replies here. @Snowpatrolling I hope you feel better soon, and if you do test positive I suppose it’s a consolation to get it out of the way before Christmas if nothing else. We cannot avoid colds or potential covid from school but I do feel it is probably sensible to avoid whatever this is, since we know about it. Thanks again to those who replied.

I think you have to do what's right for you. Either postpone or suggest seeing parents another time.

I'd be perfectly happy to do things with people who have colds and negative covid tests. But, as someone who recently tested positive with just the mildest of sniffles, I would not be assuming any cold to be 'just a cold' without proof. Covid seems to be milder than a cold for many now.

As detailed above Professor Tim Spector's latest video is about 'is it Covid or a cold ' and recommends isolating until you have a PCR test which you can do through the ZOE app rather than lying on the Govt website!