Partner’s sister’s 50th Birthday do. Not sure whether to go….

[Effybriest]

Bit of background. I’ve got long covid but slowly improving, well enough to go for gentle walks with my dog but unable to work (12 hour shifts which are physically and mentally stressful). I have relapses if I overdo it and I’m also awaiting an investigation for some persistent cardiac symptoms. If that’s fine I’ll resume on a phased return and see how it pans out.
Dp’s sister is having a 50th do at a local venue in a few weeks. I expect that there will be many people there. They are all extremely sociable types and love a good piss-up. Most of his close family have been double jabbed but not sure re friends. They’ve been pretty relaxed over covid and lockdown. Much mirth and laughter when dp caught it despite being extremely cautious. I doubt they knew exactly how ill he’d been tbh. They are all out and about now, meeting friends etc. Life is pretty much normal for them I suspect which I have no issues with. Doubt any of them wear masks or even think about Covid. Initially I was going to go, not to drink but just show my face. With rising figures it’s suddenly occurred to me that maybe it’s not a good idea. I’m double jabbed. No massive risk factors but surprisingly ill with it first time. I was going to sit outside if able and weather good. Now I’m really not sure. Dp is fine about it but just wondered what others would do ?

I wouldn’t take the risk personally but there will be plenty who say they would. In my view I agree with you, not a good idea.

Don’t go.

Most people would go, people seem to just want to live their life now but I am very much with you. I haven't had covid (that I know of) and I'm anxious about it. I take it pretty seriously but both mine and dp's have not which has caused a few problems. We were meant to be meet up with dp's sister a day or two after she went to a very large musical festivals where thousands of people have since tested positive. I said we could still meet yo but only outside. It didn't go down well. Ironically last year they said they wouldn't see my kids if I sent them back to school.. the tables have turned.

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If you do take precautions. If you don't, don't be made to feel guilty. You have experienced first hand what covid and long covid is like so I don't blame you!

No, don't go. You are still recovering. Even if you pick up a cold, if it hits you while you are post viral you could be set back for months. Just say sorry you are unwell. It's true.

I'd go if I liked my SIL, otherwise I'd use it as a good excuse not to go

Tbh I know her only very vaguely. Nice enough but we have very little in common. Dp will be fine without me there. He probably won't move away from the buffet knowing him .
I probably won't go, was daft even to entertain it. Just worried he might bring it home now like the bugger did first time .... Hopefully the combination of naturally acquired antibodies and double vax will protect me and him from any stray viruses...