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Childcare for antivaxxer

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Mydogneedsabath · 31/08/2021 10:28

Now the colder weather is setting in, I’m wondering (&worrying) about our usual childcare responsibilities.
We have always had our granddaughters aged 4&6 while their mum trained and now works part time ( hairdresser) they often stop overnight.
Last winter there was no vaccine and we were in a “ bubble” Both my husband and I were vaccinated as soon as possible (& assumed she would as well)
Over the year she has become more and more anti the vaccine, gets stressed when her clients assume she’s been jabbed and although I respect her choice I’m now thinking about mine and worrying about the potential family fall out if I suggest she doesn’t come in when dropping the girls off or collecting them.

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DGFB · 31/08/2021 12:24

The kids are more of a risk to you than the mother.

bumbleymummy · 31/08/2021 12:26

It wouldn’t really make sense to stop seeing the mum if you’re still seeing the children so I think YABU to suggest she doesn’t come in. You’re less at risk bow that you were last year.

bumbleymummy · 31/08/2021 12:26

Now than*

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 31/08/2021 12:27

Yes, if there is a rare vaccine failure but even then, the risk of serious Covid complications is extremely low and risk of hospitalisation is 1 in a million, and risk of death is 1 in 10 million.

I know 3 people who’ve been hospitalised after having a vaccine. I’m not sure one in a million is correct..

MrsKeats · 31/08/2021 12:32

Stop offering childcare.
It's mad not being vaccinated when you run a business that has close contact with people.

illuyankas · 31/08/2021 12:38

If you are taking care of the children who aren't vaccinated, I don't see the difference in letting your dd in or not.

Usual2usual · 31/08/2021 12:41

Is this your daughter you are talking about? If so it would be absolutley horrible of you to not want to let your own child into your house based on vaccine status.

Anyway the children aren't vaccinated so what is the difference there? Or is this another thread with:

don't want to be vaccinated = dripping with covid, beware at all costs
can't be vaccinated = obviously are far morally superior and couldn't possible pass on covid

Lou573 · 31/08/2021 12:44

Is it your daughters children Op? My mum does childcare but I kept my kids well away from her until all adults were vaccinated, I’m surprised she’s happy to put you at risk.

ACreakingGateNeverStops · 31/08/2021 12:45

@Usual2usual

Is this your daughter you are talking about? If so it would be absolutley horrible of you to not want to let your own child into your house based on vaccine status.

Anyway the children aren't vaccinated so what is the difference there? Or is this another thread with:

don't want to be vaccinated = dripping with covid, beware at all costs
can't be vaccinated = obviously are far morally superior and couldn't possible pass on covid

I suspect you might have hit the nail on the head with a sprinkling of 'my adult child won't do what I want them too and it annoys me'.

bumbleymummy · 31/08/2021 12:49

I’m not sure it is the OPs DD. She refers to her as her grandchildren’s mum. Perhaps her son’s gf?

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Mydogneedsabath · 31/08/2021 13:45

Thanks for all giving your opinions, it’s such a quandary, I do sometimes feel a bit taken advantage of but I absolutely love having the little ones.
For the poster who suggests I’m irritated that my adult child won’t do as she’s told 🤣 nothing could be further than the truth, we are both very easy going and it’s probably more likely to be she’s irritated with us for being sheep and in her view blindly getting the vaccine.
My only suggestion to her was that in my opinion she should tell her clients that she hasn’t been vaccinated and doesn’t intend to, she didn’t agree.
Anyway thanks again, I don’t feel so unreasonable having this concern now.

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 31/08/2021 13:51

@PlanDeRaccordement I don't think it is that rare to catch Covid after being vaccinated. We are all vaccinated in my team at work and 3 out of 5 of us caught Covid recently when someone brought it into work. There are a lot of cases of vaccinated people catching it. It's true that it vastly reduces symptoms but I don't think it's a huge protection against actually catching it.

itsgrand · 31/08/2021 16:18

you are being so ridiculous and precious!!!
Absolutely ridiculous.

FflosFfantastig · 31/08/2021 16:26

Sounds like it's more about punishing her for her decision. It's ridiculous to fret about contact with her if you're not applying the same concerns to contact with the children. It doesn't make any sense which is why I suspect it's about punishment more than anything else.

woodfort · 31/08/2021 16:43

School age dc are a big spread threat & their mother needs to test them frequently as required by system advice - if not more because of you & she needs to check herself
The children are 4 and 6. There is no advice to test for asymptomatic Covid at primary school age….?

Anyway, I agree with most others. Not sure why you’re so worried about the mother as whatever she has the children can pass on to you and they are probably the more likely ones to come into Covid at school than the mother at work. So you’re either ok with the risk because you are vaccinated and want to provide this regular childcare for your grandchildren or you aren’t ok with the risk and will keep your distance from the whole family. Providing the childcare but asking the mother to wait outside achieves nothing.

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