Would you go out with friend in these circumstances?

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My friends teenage son has just tested positive for Covid (PCR test). Not too poorly but obviously now has to isolate.

I'm supposed to be going out to dinner with my friend on Friday night. There are 4 of us going, all women in their 50s, all double jabbed. Friend is doing a PCR test today but if its negative is still coming out. We're going to a restaurant where we will be inside. I'm very tempted to pull out but don't know if I'm being ridiculous.

We have a holiday booked to Greece in a couple of weeks which is also affecting my decision. We had already decided not to go out for the 10 days before flying although this Friday is 14 days before flying.

Should I pull out of Friday's dinner to be on the safe side? I suspect if I pull out so will the others.

I think in your friends position I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting people indoors, despite it being allowed. Fair enough to go to work etc, but I'd pull out going for dinner. In your position I'd have my eye on my holiday and definitely pull out.

Exact same scenario has happened in our friendship group, I pulled out has have some not Covid bug but one of the other ladies has a positive DC but is still planning to go out. To be fair they have had negative PCRs, but all taken at the same time so might have developed later.
I'm glad I'm not going now, wonder if the others still will.

I know your friend is not going against guidance but I would.not be meeting her in a restaurant or crowded indoor place for at least a week or so after her family members positive test regardless of any holiday I had coming up. .

Going from this thread , your holiday provides an seeming socially acceptable excuse not to go,( unlike mine which would be to say no regardless ) so I'd use that.

Nah I wouldn't be risking it

I wouldn't go because of the holiday. It's just a dinner, far easier to plan another meet-up than another holiday.

In your circumstances, I probably wouldn't go due to the holiday. However, you could get it from anyone.. In the last few weeks, my 18 year old daughter (double jabbed since april) had covid - none of us got it from her, even her younger sister who she shares a room with and 3 friends whose child tested positive, no one in any of the households got it either and they weren't social distancing as it was a child. I know these are only antedotal, but its not given that household members will get it. Any of us could have it, any person working in a shop, health service or restaurant. Those of us who've worked out of the home all the way through and with vulnerable people, we can only keep doing LFTs although we know they're not always effective - my daughter only had a positive LFT on day 5 (pretty certain when she got it) and my friends daughter never had a positive LFT even after she'd tested positive on a PCR.

I dropped out, explaining my reasons, and we've agreed to wait a couple of weeks before meeting.

I would definitely cancel. I was in a similar position to you. I am going on holiday on Monday to Greece and I was avoiding non-essential outings however I arranged to meet a friend for yesterday. She complained of a sore throat and nasal congestion but insisted it was just a cold as her colleague tested negative (PCR) with similar symptoms. I decided not to meet her and encouraged her to do another test which came back positive. I can't believe how lucky I am to have avoided meeting her otherwise I would have caught it too! I have been self-isolating with my partner for two weeks and daily LF testing (weekly PCR test too) to avoid disappointment.

If you're like me, you are itching to get away and would be bitterly disappointed. I would cancel any dinners out you may have, anything that involves unnecessary social contact until you're back from Greece. You can meet your friends after you come back. Good luck.

She also tested negative the day prior despite showing symptoms. Do not risk it OP!

@Hairbrush123 You wouldn't necessarily have caught it, but better to be safe than sorry where holidays are concerned.

i wouldn't go

Purely because of holiday because if you test positive it can show for a while and Greece randomly test arrivals even if vaccinated

Exact same situation here and I didn't go. And the holiday was well worth it

Absolutely no, I wouldn't, particularly with the threat of it jeopardising your holiday.
If someone in my family had Covid I might not entirely stay at home but I would lay pretty low. Go out for country walks and maybe pop for milk or fruit if I was desperate, but I would limit interactions, shop online for groceries, work from home if allowed - and I certainly wouldn't be putting my friends in an awkward position like your friend is. She sounds inconsiderate to be honest, or stupid.

@rookiemere

I think we kid ourselves a bit with the masks and the fleeting contact. Delta seems to be so contagious that if say someone else sitting in the restaurant has it, then they may well pass it on.

Scientifically speaking, the shorter the contact and the more distanced, the less likely you are to catch it. Sharing a table with someone is many many times more risky than being waited on by someone.

I would not go to an indoor dinner with a close contact of a positive case, no. I would just say why, it is pretty sensible to stick to the previous rules tbh.

You don’t want to risk your holiday - so pull out.

Both DH and I are double jabbed and currently have Covid.

Although to be honest - I personally think the friend should be pulling out. DD and DH caught Covid before me. I cancelled all meets with friends during the ‘10 days’. I wouldn’t expect anyone to sit next to me indoors knowing there was a high risk I could turn positive any day (high risk because I am living with someone. Slightly different to just being a contact or sat near someone in a restaurant. Living with someone means yours viral load will be higher. Therefore a higher chance). And you are contagious for up to 48 hours before testing positive. Therefore your friend should pull out!