Bf has Covid shall I go in

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My boyfriend has Covid. We don’t live together but I’ve been taking him food and handing it over on the doorstep. I feel bad but don’t fancy catching it. Someone joked to me that I should be putting a mask on and going into his home to support him. I’ve now starting to wonder whether I’m being mean by not. He is poorly but not bedridden. Not sure what to do. What would you do ?

You are being sensible OP. On every level, personal and social, it is better not to catch it.

I'd do the same, deliver food but not go in. It's only for a few more days surely.

Seeing as Boris thinks it ok to live with someone with covid but you can still carry on as normal. I would t stress to much. Wear a mask, wash hands, open windows etc

Of course not, he’s an adult! We managed 10 days with our 17 year old isolating in the same house without catching it, had I gone in to his room I probably would have, which frankly I could do without. Just let him get on with it & see him once it’s over, any other approach is batshit!

Thanks. It just doesn’t feel right going in. I wouldn’t expect him to come into my home if I had it. I have some u deleting issues aswell so really want to avoid this illness

He might not be bedridden but you might be or worse if you caught it.

Why risk it?

No, continue supporting with deliveries of meals and treats etc, that’s kind dnd enough. I wouldn’t be going in.

No.

Of course don’t go in. Carry on as you are.

how unwell is he?

I’d do what you’re doing.
I’d only go in if he gets worse and can’t look after himself/needs the support. Then I’d be masked and gloved and all windows open!

If he was extremely unwell and needed care then I'd go in, otherwise I'd do what you're doing. I'd do the same if someone had the flu or norovirus too.

It’s seems as though he has a heavy cold. Cough. He was able to wash up yesterday. I thought the same, if unable to get out of bed then I would assist. I think he’s annoyed I’m not going in. He wanted to give me some containers back but I said no and that I’d collect when he’s feeling better. I don’t think he liked that!

Dh and dd caught it and we just carried on as normal inside the house as we isolated together. Didn't see how I could wear masks/gloves and avoid being in the same room as my 6 year old, without totally traumatising her. And dh wasn't even that ill so there is no way I was about to do everything in the house, plus work from home, plus home school ds while he had a holiday in our bedroom. Neither ds or I caught it in the end.

I wouldn’t go in unless he needed any help.

no, he should be isolating

I wouldn't go in. It's different if he needed caring for but he's still functioning so why take the risk?

No don't go in. If he's managing why would you? Yes it's probably a bit grim on his own. But honestly it could be so much worse if you got it and we're more ill.

No, my DM had it living with my Dad and she kept herself to her room and he brought her food etc.
She wasn't that sick at all so was very bored but he has underlying health problems so she didn't want to risk him.
I'd turn it around and wonder why he wouldn't feel bad risking you getting sick?
I avoid people if I have a bad headcold as they are miserable let alone something as variable as Covid where no-one knows how their body would handle it.