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AIBU not attending kids party

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WhatNowWorld · 04/08/2021 13:01

My BIL (husbands brother) has covid at the moment, he is fine - young (mid 30s), double jabbed, healthy etc. He tested positive on Monday 26th July and has 3 kids plus a CEV wife.
Their isolation ends this coming Thursday (night).
On Friday we are all invited to my SIL (husbands sister) house for her 3 year old daughters birthday party.

I messaged my CEV SIL to ask how they were and she said they were ok and happy to be out of isolation soon. I asked if the kids would need tests but she said no, not if they have no symptoms. I now feel really nervous that one of them has Covid with no symptoms and am scared about going to the party.
My 4 year old son will be playing (touching each other) with his cousins at the party (they all love each other and are very close). My son also loves his uncle (the one who has covid) and will cuddle/play fight with him.
I'm not too worried about my son getting it as it should be mild, I'm worried about it being passed to myself & my husband. We are double jabbed but the 2nd was less than 2 weeks ago for both of us. We have no health problems but my husband is overweight. I keep reading about people on their 30s & 40s dying now.
I want to suguest to my husband that none of us go to the party and we don't see them for at least another week to make sure no one in the household come out with symptoms - is this unreasonable?

We have been out & about as usual and I've been happy however I didn't know anyone personally who had Covid esp not someone so close to us (That BIL & SIL babysit for us a lot as the SIL loves kids and asks to see my son a lot).

I know the gov advice means they are doing the right thing (no tests after isolation) but its made me feel really uneasy. My husband will say I'm being overprotective/paranoid probably.
Maybe I should ask SIL who's party it is her thoughts?
Just wanted to get other peoples opinions.

OP posts:

IsabellesMissingSock · 04/08/2021 15:32

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking them to do a test

MzHz · 04/08/2021 16:22

@IsabellesMissingSock

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking them to do a test

Tbh there’s nothing wrong with asking, and most people would test themselves for the self assurance that THEY won’t be bringing anything unwanted to the party, but if it doesn’t occur to them and you have to ask them, like those who don’t wear masks indoors etc you’re likely to get a response that’s aggressive or rude.

Killahangilion · 04/08/2021 17:38

I’m appalled that your SIL is planning to attend the party so I don’t blame you for not going.

Some people really don’t give any fucks about anyone else but themselves.

SingingInTheShithouse · 04/08/2021 17:40

No, I wouldn't go

Figgygal · 04/08/2021 17:42

An indoor party with people who were in isolation until the day before ……. I’d not be happy either

Do they have a garden?

newnortherner111 · 04/08/2021 18:57

Given they are CEV it seems kind not to go. A three year old can manage without a large birthday party.

MRex · 05/08/2021 07:34

No, you're less than 2 weeks from your second jab so don't have full protection. There's a higher risk from the children not being tested, as well as the fact that not all cases present within 10 days, so I'd leave it a week.

ZenNudist · 05/08/2021 07:42

I'm not a covid worrier but I wouldn't. Your immunity isn't increased yet. But even when it is I see no reason to mix with ill people straight after isolation.

One of the school mums isolated family and they had covid in the holidays. Sent dc back to school "within the rules", one of them had covid and that meant the bubble burst as soon as they all went back to school. I was annoyed as I couldn't see why they wouldn't test rather than ruin 30 dc and their parents and teachers 2 weeks.

Vanilla1Cookies · 05/08/2021 07:47

I’d go personally. You have no reason not too

lagerandblack · 05/08/2021 07:52

Stay at home for ever more.

timetochangeagainforever · 05/08/2021 07:52

Agree with duffermum - go to the party. Look at the stats the vast majority of people only have minor symptoms as did my ex husband, myself, my two kids and several friends and family
Go and enjoy yourselves and let your daughter have some fun

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 05/08/2021 08:14

@lagerandblack

Stay at home for ever more.

Not wanting to see someone the moment their idol ends doesn't equate to having to do nothing else. It used to be 14 days and the children haven’t been tested so could have it with it no symptoms etc. Not worth the risk for a party. I’d wait a little longer before seeing them.

Toesies · 05/08/2021 08:17

@timetochangeagainforever

Agree with duffermum - go to the party. Look at the stats the vast majority of people only have minor symptoms as did my ex husband, myself, my two kids and several friends and family Go and enjoy yourselves and let your daughter have some fun

Yes, enjoy yourselves at the Covid party! Even the kids too! Weren't chicken-pox parties all the rage for a time there? Have we moved on now to Covid parties then?

OP, I think you're being sensible to avoid this party so soon after the isolation has ended. Maybe in a week or so, but not yet.

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