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I have covid, just keep crying

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Zenab12 · 28/07/2021 12:46

Hi so this week I tested positive for covid. It came from my lovely sister in law who didn't tell us she had covid before coming to our house. First my son had a cough and he tested positive, he is 4 and only had a cough. Then my daughter got ill (5&half) she was quite bad, high temp, dizzy. My husband is completely fine.

I'm only 23, had my first jab of Pfizer last month ( 2nd one due 30th August) and I just feel so so bad, I started with a fever and just general feeling of being unwell for the first 3 days, I'm on day 5 now, yesterday the fever subsided but I feel so sick and dizzy every time I stand up, I've completely lost my taste and smell and its actually pretty scary to me whenever I try and smell something or eat something and I can't even taste it. I feel hungry but I can't eat. I keep calling my mum and crying down the phone bevause I'm usually a very active person and every time I feel the slightest bit better and I get up and try and clean etc I end up not being able to stand up bevause I feel so ill and weak. I'm taking paracetomal every 4hrs. My head really hurts and my ears really hurt. I just never imagined it would hit me this bad and thank god I had the first vaccine when I did otherwise I don't know how bad I would have been.

Does anyone have any advice on absolutely anything I can do to make myself feel better 😒 I know the only option really is to just ride it out but I just keep feeling so bad, upset and scared. My kids are both better now and it's just so so hard feeling this bad when I need to run around after them, I haven't got dressed in 5 days and I'm practically bed bound and the mum guilt is killing me bevause they are just sat at home watching me in bed all day.

OP posts:
mum23kidz · 28/07/2021 14:37

You poor thing 😟 I hope you are better soon.

MyDcAreMarvel · 28/07/2021 14:44

Unfortunately one vaccine is only 10% effective against the Delta variant so you are as unwell as you would have been without vaccination at all.
The only positive is that your second vaccine plus having had Covid with provide greater protection for future variants than two vaccines and no Covid. That’s probably little comfort now but for the future you will have excellent protection.

EsoNoSeHace · 28/07/2021 14:46

I know exactly what you mean, when you say ‘lovely’ SIL!
Looking back, the fifth day was the worst. Just do what everyone above has said and take it easy. You will be better soon. It’s good you can talk to your mother.

AuntieMarys · 28/07/2021 14:47

Just rest!!! Dd (24) has it at the moment and she is so unwell. And on her own. She has never been ill before so it has blindsided her. Double jabbed too.

TheTeenageYears · 28/07/2021 14:54

No one is going to give you any medals for trying to carry on and it can sometimes come back to bite you on the bum in terms of how capable people think you are whilst sick and also how long you might be sick for. Be kind to yourself and rest. The kids will be fine. A few weeks of not doing very much and seeing that Mummy isn't a machine is no bad thing. Rest is the best thing you can do for yourself right now.

EsoNoSeHace · 28/07/2021 14:55

I think 10% reduction with one jab is a bit pessimistic for Delta, based on something I listened to this morning.

GrandmaSteglitszch · 28/07/2021 15:00

DO NOT Push Yourself - that is likely to land you with Long Covid as your body gets over-taxed.

Sit up in a chair or in bed as much as you can, rather than lying down. It's better for helping your lungs to stay clear.

DH, or someone else, should be doing childcare, cooking, cleaning.
You can bet that if DH was as ill as you are, he'd not be doing any work.

Your 'work' at the moment is to look after yourself properly so that you can get better and then continue to be a good mum.

Hollywolly1 · 28/07/2021 15:01

Well you learned one thing from all of this and its to never ever trust that sister in law as she is extremely selfish in fact I wouldn't let her near any of your children again

Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 28/07/2021 15:05

Rest, I didnt and felt too much mum guilt and ended up with long covid, and thats a common story, so rest. You having a short term illness is much better for the kids than a long term one. Get DH to help.

I found covid gave me anxiety and insomnia so anything that helps with that so you can rest and get better, like melatonin. Also omega oils, turmeric and magnesium helped me, and water with electrolytes, stay hydrated.

loopylindi · 28/07/2021 15:06

Just to repeat what others have said about resting, listening to your body and let it all waft over you. No amount of 'doing things NOW' is worth your long term health. I've not had Covid (thank goodness) but I have had flu which hit me and DH like a steam train. No activity in our house then for about 2 weeks (aside from drinking and peeing) Couldn't even be bothered to watch TV, it made my eyes so sore. Enjoy the restorative power of sleep.

RhonaRed · 28/07/2021 15:07

True that at least you now know SIL is a wrongun.

starfro · 28/07/2021 15:14

I've had "proper" flu a couple of times in my life, where you're incapable of getting out of bed for a few days. The saying goes that you know it's real flu if you wouldn't walk 2 steps to pick up a £50 note (the reality is that you get flu lots of times, but mostly with minor symptoms).

All respiratory viruses can be horrendous, but they do pass. They can get worse on day 3-5, which is all the more dispiriting.

You will be feeling a lot better in a week, even if things feel bleak now.

Meraas · 28/07/2021 15:14

Your SIL is not lovely, what on earth was she thinking? Is she thick?

Don't be a martyr, relax and get DH to do everything.

Also, ignore all the paracetamol advice unless it's been given by a doctor/pharmacist. Someone told you you're taking too much, someone told you you're taking too little, they are just armchair doctors.

Marguerite2000 · 28/07/2021 15:25

I had flu when I was a single parent. What I did was lie on the settee while my son watched DVDs. Obviously I had to get up to feed him and get his drinks (he was 2 or 3 at the time) but apart from that I would be in a half sleep. He loved snuggling up to me and 'looking after mummy'.
In my experience, paracetamol, alternated with ibuprofen works best in controlling temperature and aches and pains. And lots of fluids of course.

BumbleFlump · 28/07/2021 15:31

I’m sorry about this OP. Did you SIL actually know she had Covid when she infected you? 😯

olidora63 · 28/07/2021 15:32

@ComDummings

Drink lots of water, REST, your children will be fine so ignore the stupid mum guilt (it lies!) just cover the basics - all fed and watered and clean. Hope you feel better soon Flowers
This . Give it a few more days and you will start feeling better. I found out on Christmas Day I had Covid and Boxing Day I lost taste and smell…by New Years Eve I was so much better and had a couple of glasses of wine…and I could taste it 😊. I am in my 50s, overweight and recovered really well!
CFSKate · 28/07/2021 15:40

"It probably doesn't help that I keep pushing my self too, as I said I'm very active usually doing everything and I keep trying to push myself to get things done"

Do not do this. You must rest. Do you want to rest and recover, or do you want to push yourself now and possibly end up permanently ill?

RaindropsOnRosie · 28/07/2021 15:40

As PP have said, pushing yourself will extend your recovery and can lead to long Covid. You seriously need to rest. Body and soul. No strenuous tasks even if you're sat or lying down, just some good TV, plenty of fluids and food. Try to have food with texture like crisps, crackers or carrot sticks- it makes it easier to get past the lack of taste. Keep yourself clean with lots of showers and clean bedding, let your DH look after DC- they can come to you if they want or need you.

My saviour was having a basket next to me in bed with everything I need- chargers, bottles of water, sweets, a book, etc.

YankeeDad · 28/07/2021 15:45

Haven’t RTFT but my three suggestions would be, drink plenty of water, be forgiving with yourself until this passes, and don’t be shy about, asking for help of any kind that can be provided safely (so for instance maybe a friend or family member can being you groceries or even a home cooked meal: even if you cannot enjoy it, try to eat a little and know that by asking or accepting this you’re also caring for your children).

TheTallOakTrees · 28/07/2021 15:47

I am sorry you are feeling so ill. I am really sorry your sil visited knowing she had it and didn't feel the need to protect you all.

Try to rest as much as possible. I hope you get better soon.

Maggiesfarm · 28/07/2021 15:49

@starfro

I've had "proper" flu a couple of times in my life, where you're incapable of getting out of bed for a few days. The saying goes that you know it's real flu if you wouldn't walk 2 steps to pick up a £50 note (the reality is that you get flu lots of times, but mostly with minor symptoms).

All respiratory viruses can be horrendous, but they do pass. They can get worse on day 3-5, which is all the more dispiriting.

You will be feeling a lot better in a week, even if things feel bleak now.

I agree about 'flu, it's dreadful.

I have to say Covid-19 was worse for me.

RampantIvy · 28/07/2021 15:55

It probably doesn't help that I keep pushing my self too, as I said I'm very active usually doing everything and I keep trying to push myself to get things done such as cleaning and the cooking

No, it really doesn't help.
Rest
Paracetamol
Rest
Plenty of fluids
Rest

I hope you feel better soon Flowers

a8mint · 28/07/2021 15:59

How do you know it was your SIL, especially if you all started at different times

iguanadonna · 28/07/2021 15:59

I've had the bloody thing twice. You NEED to be nice to yourself now. Rest, stop doing stuff, watch tv, go gently on yourself, cheer up, relax, REST. If you do that, you'll get better. If you don't, it'll take much longer.

I had trouble shaking off the fever and several doctors told me to just for heaven's sake go to bed and stay there until better. Do it.

Hadjab · 28/07/2021 16:01

@Zenab12

Hi so this week I tested positive for covid. It came from my lovely sister in law who didn't tell us she had covid before coming to our house. First my son had a cough and he tested positive, he is 4 and only had a cough. Then my daughter got ill (5&half) she was quite bad, high temp, dizzy. My husband is completely fine.

I'm only 23, had my first jab of Pfizer last month ( 2nd one due 30th August) and I just feel so so bad, I started with a fever and just general feeling of being unwell for the first 3 days, I'm on day 5 now, yesterday the fever subsided but I feel so sick and dizzy every time I stand up, I've completely lost my taste and smell and its actually pretty scary to me whenever I try and smell something or eat something and I can't even taste it. I feel hungry but I can't eat. I keep calling my mum and crying down the phone bevause I'm usually a very active person and every time I feel the slightest bit better and I get up and try and clean etc I end up not being able to stand up bevause I feel so ill and weak. I'm taking paracetomal every 4hrs. My head really hurts and my ears really hurt. I just never imagined it would hit me this bad and thank god I had the first vaccine when I did otherwise I don't know how bad I would have been.

Does anyone have any advice on absolutely anything I can do to make myself feel better 😒 I know the only option really is to just ride it out but I just keep feeling so bad, upset and scared. My kids are both better now and it's just so so hard feeling this bad when I need to run around after them, I haven't got dressed in 5 days and I'm practically bed bound and the mum guilt is killing me bevause they are just sat at home watching me in bed all day.

I've currently got covid, so I feel your pain, but first and foremost, stop crying! It's not helping you at all, is it? it's just going to make you feel worse. Secondly, accept that you're unwell (clue here being unwell, not dying) and just rest until you're actually stronger. Stop pushing yourself, drink plenty of fluids, sleep, watch crap tv and get better soon!