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'Couples pinged on the eve of their wedding must isolate'

99 replies

TheVampiresWife · 22/07/2021 12:46

Would you?

I'd be deleting the app if I were due to get married (if I had it which I don't, after being through-the-wall-pinged last winter).

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5zeds · 22/07/2021 13:46

Do explain the “nuance” @HesterShaw1

Warhertisuff · 22/07/2021 13:47

Even if instructed by T&T, I wouldn't cancel my wedding a day beforehand. I'd suck up any fine in the unlikely event one was handed to me. I'm generally law abiding but there are limits.

5zeds · 22/07/2021 13:48

@Warhertisuff would you tell your guests?

Topseyt · 22/07/2021 13:48

I would delete the app if I were in that situation, although I am not (been married for 28 years).

In fact, I've deleted it anyway. If I do reinstall it (can't see why I would, mind you) then I will be keeping contact tracing turned off.

Nobody should be forced to cancel an extremely expensive wedding the night before because of a ping by a crap app unless the government is prepared to fully reimburse them immediately.

Warhertisuff · 22/07/2021 13:50

@5zeds

Mmmm yes of course all couples want to invite all their most loved relatives and friends if they’ve been exposed to Covid. What could go wrong??? Most people don’t struggle to protect their loved ones.
The relatives who want to be and are at risk will have been double jabbed.... Perhaps don't snog your 95 year old great aunt.
Warhertisuff · 22/07/2021 13:51

@Warhertisuff

Even if instructed by T&T, I wouldn't cancel my wedding a day beforehand. I'd suck up any fine in the unlikely event one was handed to me. I'm generally law abiding but there are limits.
Priobably, yes
TheSockMonster · 22/07/2021 13:53

@cheezy

The app is notoriously inaccurate - one in three people pinged develop Covid, states the article.

You'd surely do a test first before cancelling your wedding??

That’s 1 in 3 people contacted by test and trace or the app, so difficult to draw conclusions.

I’m surprised it’s that high to be honest, considering that not everyone exposed to Covid will develop it.

NannyAndJohn · 22/07/2021 13:54

The virus does not make exceptions for weddings.

Of course they should fucking isolate.

HesterShaw1 · 22/07/2021 13:57

@5zeds

Do explain the “nuance” *@HesterShaw1*
Many appear to be in the camp that proclaims "Good people do exactly as the government tells them, bad people question it."

Despite the apparent willingness of Johnson etc to claim they had some kind of pass because they were doing a "pilot", and their subsequent backtracking when they belatedly realised they looked bad. And still people lap up this shit.

ButteringMyArse · 22/07/2021 13:57

@Warhertisuff

Even if instructed by T&T, I wouldn't cancel my wedding a day beforehand. I'd suck up any fine in the unlikely event one was handed to me. I'm generally law abiding but there are limits.
I wouldn't even be answering my phone to any number I didn't know.
BoredZelda · 22/07/2021 13:58

We’ve had a year of people complaining test and trace had cost us too much money and it was ineffective.

Now we’re getting people complaining that it is working too well.

Can’t win, can they.

If I were getting married or any other important event I didn’t want to risk, I’d be keeping myself to myself and reducing the possibility I caught Covid rather than just deleting the app. Is turning off your smoke alarm going to prevent a fire?

5zeds · 22/07/2021 14:01

Is turning off your smoke alarm going to prevent a fire?
That about sums it up.

caughtinanet · 22/07/2021 14:04

@cheezy

The app is notoriously inaccurate - one in three people pinged develop Covid, states the article.

You'd surely do a test first before cancelling your wedding??

You know that the app is warning you that you were near someone who later tested positive, right? It's not some kind of testing device and you can't get out of an isolation by doing a test

But, as neither the app or isolating following a ping are complusory this is a bit of a non issue

KatherineJaneway · 22/07/2021 14:04

The app is advisory only, not law. Only the couple can know how much of a danger they could be to others based on their activities.

ButteringMyArse · 22/07/2021 14:05

@5zeds

Is turning off your smoke alarm going to prevent a fire? That about sums it up.
Absolutely, if the smoke alarm sometimes alerted you to the fact that you'd at some point been near someone who went on to be in a house fire. And if ignoring it would make no difference whatsoever to your own experience of the fire but might save you from being in a situation where you could lose your job and be unable to pay your bills.
IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/07/2021 14:06

@NannyAndJohn

The virus does not make exceptions for weddings.

Of course they should fucking isolate.

Of course they should. Totally unfair to put guests and the professionals involved at risk. Not to mention loss of income if they end up having to isolate.
Jackgrealishscurtains · 22/07/2021 14:07

Why would anyone who was about to get married even have the app?!

Lazypuppy · 22/07/2021 14:07

I would not be cancelling my wedding if i got pinged by the app. I've turned off contact tracing anyway, and i'm not answering the phone to unknown numbers in the 10 days before my wedding!

SinkGirl · 22/07/2021 14:09

The app is notoriously inaccurate - one in three people pinged develop Covid, states the article.

That’s remarkably high, given that transmission even within the same household isn’t 100%. Not everyone who’s a close contact will develop Covid.

I don’t keep mine on when I’m at home due to being so close to neighbours but put it on when I go out, because i would actually like to keep rates down 🤷‍♀️

MrsMiddleMother · 22/07/2021 14:13

I've always had the app, been out and about and to restaurants etc and have never been pinged.

thinkingaboutitall · 22/07/2021 14:15

I mean, on the one hand you could lose all the money spent and miss your wedding day

On the other, you could potentially infect all your loved ones and cause them to have to isolate or get poorly. Albeit the most vulnerable should be vaccinated and this is a low risk situation etc

thinkingaboutitall · 22/07/2021 14:17

I’m early 20s and obviously quite tech proficient

I deleted the app when it was first launched as it drained my battery and generally seemed a bit unfinished

I don’t regret it as most restaurants allow you to manually register your details and I don’t have to worry about being pinged. Honestly seems like the best way forward

TheVampiresWife · 22/07/2021 14:25

All those who are saying they would absolutely isolate if pinged - would you even if you knew you'd not been in contact with anyone who had tested positive? For example, the poster on another thread who was already isolating from a previous ping and hadn't been anywhere? Or when I was pinged after my ndn tested positive, even though I'd not seen him and only know him by sight much less spent any time with him, and hadn't left the house for days because I was mid-RA flare?

Surely under those circumstances you'd use your own judgement, and not?

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rwalker · 22/07/2021 14:27

You accept the app and it's short comings or delete it .

shinynewapple21 · 22/07/2021 14:30

If I had something like this coming up I would delete app, but be very careful the two weeks prior . Plus LFT

I've turned contract tracing off the app anyway which I think I has same effect as deleting ?