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I don’t know how I am going to cope.

112 replies

SteveArnottsWaistcoat · 17/07/2021 16:48

This talk of another lockdown, the doom and gloom of cases rising, the panic and hysteria.

I’m really, really starting to struggle with how I’m feeling about the current situation and what lies ahead for our futures. I feel almost as though I am suffocating.

Double vaccinated but it really doesn’t mean anything, it’s not improving the future.

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Waveafterwaveslowlydrifting · 17/07/2021 16:51

I feel like this too.

Sunshinegirl82 · 17/07/2021 16:51

The anxiety levels do tend to ramp up on mumsnet when we approach a change to the restrictions. That's not always helpful to people who are anxious themselves. Being double vaccinated will make a huge difference.

If you can I would take at least a 48 hour break from the news and mumsnet. Watch a film, go for a walk, read a book, have a bath, whatever floats your boat. It is very easy to hyper focus on covid, let yourself focus on other things for a bit.

Hope you feel better soon.

Sexnotgender · 17/07/2021 16:52

I know I feel the same. I’ve got 2 young children and it’s so hard.

Porcupineintherough · 17/07/2021 16:56

Have you ever thought you might feel better if you switch off the news and keep off social media? You might feel better if you just got on with daily life (taking whatever precautions you feel necessary) and didnt engage. Fi I have no idea where you are hearing "about to go into another lockdown" from except on here.

HelloMissus · 17/07/2021 17:09

Try to let tomorrow take care of itself.

Today the sun is shining, things are open, enjoy every second.

Mindymomo · 17/07/2021 17:19

You are not alone. I go from doom and gloom to seeing all the people out and about and reading positive things about vaccinations doing their job. We’ve not done a lot for 16 months and will only go to meet people outdoors. We are both double jabbed, but I still don’t want to catch covid.

SteveArnottsWaistcoat · 17/07/2021 17:30

I totally know that switching off the media can help in some ways, but it can’t help with the fact that there’s literally nothing in life to look forward to any more. The sense of being controlled and the resentment I have is huge. I don’t know who I’m even resentful towards. I just feel so extremely bitter frustrated and angry with everything.

This 100% isn’t me. I used to be optimistic and even in the most dire situations knowing that there was good stuff on the horizon would really get you through the tough times.

Now there’s nothing.

And the worst part of it all is I can see how badly it’s affecting my children.

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Porcupineintherough · 17/07/2021 17:32

So what good stuff on the horizon are you looking for?

Megasausagehead · 17/07/2021 17:35

Honestly, step away from covid discussion.

Life is good.

Shops are open, you can go out, you can choose to distance if you want.

You have everything to look forward to.

Kate3150 · 17/07/2021 17:35

I was looking at booking tickets for something this December, I actually stopped and thought “what if we’ve got restrictions again by then” so I didn’t bother. I know that will seem to ridiculous to some but all feels like a risk x

IcedPurple · 17/07/2021 17:35

I often feel the same way as you. Every time I feel optimistic, something comes along to knock me back. It's the Coronacoaster which we've all been on, up and down, for the past 17 months.

The only advice I can give you is to get off this board. I find opinons here are quite polarised and in general leaning much more towards pessimism than in the real world. I don't always follow that advice myself but when I do, it always makes me feel better. Give it a try.

NannyAndJohn · 17/07/2021 17:36

It's like March 2020 all over again.

I don’t know how I am going to cope.
RuthW · 17/07/2021 17:39

Lockdown talk? What have ai missed?

Miniestelle · 17/07/2021 17:39

@steveArnottsWaistcoat. You have summed up exactly how I am feeling. I'm so worried about the future. Both my children are self isolating because both their bubbles broke last week. I just want to sit and cry. I feel worse than ever. I thought it as meant to be getting better but I look to the future and it seems so chaotic and out of control. I'm sorry, I know I sound grim. My don't want my children to know I feel like this. Sending you good thoughts anyway. Flowers

Etinox · 17/07/2021 17:41

@Porcupineintherough

Have you ever thought you might feel better if you switch off the news and keep off social media? You might feel better if you just got on with daily life (taking whatever precautions you feel necessary) and didnt engage. Fi I have no idea where you are hearing "about to go into another lockdown" from except on here.
That’s my usual tactic and it works. But... literally everyone I know is getting pinged or called. Work, family, neighbourhood.
Twizbe · 17/07/2021 17:49

I've got to my limit I think with it. Yes infections are rising but people aren't dying the the numbers they were.

Most people now who are getting it are getting a milk illness. Vaccines are stopping people getting very ill and those that are would likely be the same with flu or other similar illnesses.

I've had covid and will be having my second jab soon. Im ready for restrictions to end and for people to take their own responsibility. Don't want to go to crowded places - fine, want to go - fine. Take your own level of risk.

HeyDugeesCakeBadge · 17/07/2021 17:50

PP is right OP, I used to watch the news several times a day, check social media for updates and I got into a very bad place mentally. I can't recommend turning off the news, stop visiting this board (which is very pessimistic and anxiety inducing most of the time) and go and live.

Life is far too short to worry about tomorrow, go and enjoy what freedoms we have and try not to think about a virus that 99% of people recover from.

UrbanRambler · 17/07/2021 18:02

I understand why people feel anxious about the Delta variant and case numbers rising, but this is a very different situation to what we faced a year ago, pre vaccine roll out. Double jabs give good protection against this variant, and are thought to reduce serious illness and deaths by around 95%, which means that if a double jabbed person does catch the virus, they will most probably only have mild symptoms. The weather is most of the UK is sunny, which makes it easier to socialise outdoors, which reduces the chance of infection. The pandemic is not over yet, but I feel we are on the home run now and with boosters being offered this autumn to everyone over 50 I feel hopeful that the worst is behind us.

I feel very sorry for the people in areas of mainland Europe who have experienced floods and lost their homes, or even their lives/family members. We seem to be getting the sunshine they would normally be enjoying now, so I feel very lucky to live in the UK. Also, there are many countries with low vaccination rates and dire healthcare provision, so I feel doubly lucky about living here. I do get low about things from time to time, and am fearful for the future for many reasons, but I'm trying to focus on the positive at the moment.

OP, are you able to get out for a walk this evening? When it's hot I do my daily walk between 7.30 and 9.30, which I find is more pleasant, and the beautiful sunset (around 9.15 down here) is an added bonus. I hope you feel a bit brighter tomorrow.

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Unsure33 · 17/07/2021 18:07

I think the only tactic is to still take care depending on your level of risk - but try and do things that are outside and low risk .

This is the first time I have felt down with it all because we have family members that are still not socialising because of the risk and I miss them .

Was glad to get back to work , but now its making me a bit nervous .

Looking at the deaths though I keep thinking how much worse it would be without the vaccines . It does not bear thinking about .

Unsure33 · 17/07/2021 18:08

@NannyAndJohn

No its not at all

SteveArnottsWaistcoat · 17/07/2021 18:09

Things in Scotland are slightly different. It’s not going to be freedom like it is in England for some considerable time, if at all.

I’d just look forward to absolutely anything at all. Holidays, parties with friends, concerts, sporting events, I was supposed to be starting a degree but the course had been put on hold due to it really not working with Covid restrictions, a sense of natural freedom. Just so, so much.

I’m not afraid of this virus and I’m not afraid of catching it. I deliberately haven’t downloaded the app because I couldn’t handle being imprisoned as often as people who use it seem to be.

I’ve never felt so low about life in this respect and if can be quite overwhelming at times. Usually when things at home don’t feel great you have the privilege of a world to escape to. Now when things at hone aren’t great, there’s absolutely nothing.

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IcedPurple · 17/07/2021 18:09

@Myplantsare

NannyAndJohn

You are downright weird - stalk every thread like this with your awful doom mongering. Your silly little chart fails to include vaccines doesn't it?? Hmm

I think it's a good example of what many of us have said - that it's a good idea to stay away from this board if you're feeling down. I really don't think posters should be allowed to behave this way and I'd really question their motivations for doing so.
Unsure33 · 17/07/2021 18:11

Also don't forget we are testing WAY more than other countries . Its the deaths and seriously ill in hospital that count - PLUS don't look at percentages - if 20 are in hospital it does not take a genius to work out what an increase of 50 % would be .

Myplantsare · 17/07/2021 18:11

Icedpurple

Mine or NannyandJohn post? Sorry not altogether clear.

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