Not seeing family

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I've worked throughout covid in the NHS and have had both vaccinations, my parents have had both vaccinations, my siblings have had both vaccinations - ages ago.
They all refuse to see me unless I isolate for two weeks in case I infect them all. I never get more than two weeks holiday at a time so that isn't happening even if I could afford to isolate in a hotel for two weeks which I can't.
I haven't seen any of them for two years and it looks like I never will again unless I concede to their demands.
Quite honestly I think they are being paranoid and absurd. They won't even let me sit at the end of the garden with a mask on.
How can you just abandon a member of the family like that? Especially one that has looked after countless covid patients and never had a day off sick. I think it's so selfish.
I've got a weeks holiday and was hoping to see my family, even out in a park or something but it's a big no from them.

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Sorry they are preventing you from having a relationship with them

Oh I am so sorry :( . I have tricky family for other reasons and it hurts so much.

There is no reason not to see you at a park or garden etc.

Have they always been tricky?

I think accept they are not great at being damily (understatment) and stop expecting anything from them

I am so sorry, it must be very hurtful for you, no advice but can imagine your frustration.

That's horrible and completely OTT. They must be in a state of paranoia about everything. I'd be tempted to let them get on with it and hope they come to their senses sooner or later, I'm not sure I'd waste my energy trying to persuade them.

Oh gosh. Yep tricky nasty family especially now they have been vaccinated. We are all going to have to learn to live with Covid now.

I agree, and it's been like this my whole life. I think I'm just going to give up now. It's time.

This sounds awful OP I'm so sorry to hear this. I don't have any advice, but they don't sound very supportive. Plan some nice things in for you for you holiday dates. I have strange family too although not in the same way.

Are they all staying at home as if the first full lockdown were still in place? Or are they going to the supermarket/ for a walk / to sit outside a cafe etc? Among people they don't know hsve been vaccinated or not?
If they are leaving the house, this is so hurtful. How can you be any more of a danger to them at a social distance in a park or at the end of a garden than all the stragers are in the queue at the supermarket or at the next table in the cafe garden?
I am so sorry.

Not to even want to meet you outside at a distance must feel really hurtful and judgemental OP. Do they have underlying health problems that might add to their concerns? Have they always been paranoid about health issues or judgy about your role?
COVID is endemic and we're all going to have to find ways of living with it the best and safest we can. But if they hard line refuse to meet up with you and maintain a relationship other than online with you then they're the losers.
Thank you for all youve done with your work.

Thank you. They all go out shopping and for walks. No particular health problems. Just think I'm more risky because I work in the NHS. I do lateral flow testing three days a week. I think I'm more at risk catching off them tbh.

You are much less of a risk than other people they’re interact with.
Bunch of arseholes, leave them to it

From your posts it sounds like this might the final, undeniable evidence that they're a bunch of dickheads that you're better off without.

Sorry they're so horrible to you. It's on them and not you.

Wow, your family are being unbelievably harsh and unkind. I’m so sorry OP. Don’t let them get to you, it is their loss. It’s their choice and you obviously can’t influence them, so resolve to live your life without them as hard as that may be. Covid is not going anywhere and you can’t live with their rejection your whole life. Don’t let it eat you up - it’s their decision.

Gosh op that’s appalling. You poor thing.

I can’t imagine how hard it is to move on, but that’s the only answer. They don’t deserve any more headspace.