Refusing to be tested

[Puditt]

Me and dh live with one of his relatives for a while. This relative started getting abit sick, just common cold symptons apparently. Me and dp went to go see one of my relatives yesterday. He has ended up needing an emergency operation due to some bad results. We have come back to dp's relative being more sick. Given it's meant to be just a cold, this relative has now been sick for quite a while and seems to be getting worse. For some odd reason he is refusing to get tested. I'm upset and worried for my relative we saw yesterday. I'm trying to talk sense into my dp in hopes that he can bring his relative around and see reason but dp has the same attitude that its "just a cold" and that is that. Even if it is so surely just for a peace of mind they can do a test which takes minimal effort to find out? Am I being outlandish for expecting this. If he is positive I need to be able to tell my vulnerable family member before he goes into surgery.

if he doesn't want to take a test then he doesn't want to.
You can't force a medical procedure onto someone.
Nothing "odd" about not wanting to test

@thenakedmolerat

if he doesn't want to take a test then he doesn't want to. You can't force a medical procedure onto someone. Nothing "odd" about not wanting to test

I agree ^

Sticking a swab up your nose is hardly a medical procedure

And its that attitude that continues to spread the virus. There is a reason why people need to be tested if they have symptoms. If nearly two years into the pandemic people still dont get that then I'm baffled

"Sticking a swab up your nose is hardly a medical procedure"
yes it is

Why dont you just get tested then you can be reassured that youve not passed it to your relative?

I dont get why you're getting so annoyed about this.

@thenakedmolerat - it absolutely isn't a 'medical procedure'. No medical professionals would be present.

And its that attitude that continues to spread the virus.

It truly isn't.

Try to persuade them to test by telling them that you will test if you have symptoms and their isolation will be longer as it will start from when you test. If they test they will get released quicker and they'll have done most of the ten days by the time they are better.

You can’t make people do anything, you can only control what you do.

Your vulnerable relative I presume will be have been tested at the time of their surgery and be receiving tests whilst in hospital? If they’re at home then they’ll be tested before being admitted and should be isolating for a set period they’ve been informed of by their medical team.

Lateral flow tests are available to anyone at the moment so get some and test yourself and your DH if he’s agreeable. If that’s not enough to reassure you, book a PCR for yourself as a contact of a case. I ordered some lateral flow tests from the government website yesterday afternoon and they were delivered this morning.

You do you and let the relative you live with do them.

@Againstmachine - I'm not quite sure what you're trying to say. But, how do you think this spreads? You can insult me all you want, won't make the virus go away.

And this is why personal responsibility sucks...yes, it's a medical procedure but it's hardly a big deal to do a test is it. There's not much you can do. It's a minor thing but you can't force somebody. Take a test yourself and I hope all is ok.

@luckylavender

Except you decided to name me first, so don't start with that.

You want to wear a mask go ahead dictating that others should, is totally wrong.

Is this thread about masks now? How did that happen?

@Againstmachine - we're not talking about masks. You're obsessed.

Get yourself tested! If your negative you can't have passed it on to your family member regardless of whether your dp family member is positive (unconfirmed) or not

If you've gone and passed anything on to a relative, that's on you.

If the person you live with doesn't want to get tested that's up to them. If you don't like it, move out.

Get yourself tested!

Who's paying the persons wages if they have to isolate.

@Againstmachine

Get yourself tested!

Who's paying the persons wages if they have to isolate.

If the other person in the house is positive they'd have to isolate anyway! OP wants the relative to test so presumably she is aware at the prospect of potential isolation

I'm curious why even with "just cold" symptoms in the house, you thought it appropriate/responsible anyway to see your vulnerable relative who needs a operation? It's a bit late to worry about it afterwards.