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Feeling guilty releasing DS from self-isolation

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TumbyTumm · 12/07/2021 07:21

His time is ‘up’ on Wednesday - and for his sake I feel I have to send him in… but there is still active COVID in the house and it feels somehow reckless to assume it’s fine to put him back into the mix of the crowded school. LTF says he are clear. His sister had full on COVID, but he never tested positive or showed symptoms (though the delta symptoms are much more subtle - his sister’s symptoms were ‘tired’ and ‘headache’)

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ineedaholidaynow · 12/07/2021 07:24

You could possibly get a PCR test, say school recommended it

ColettesEarrings · 12/07/2021 07:26

Does he finish at the end of this week, or next week? If this week is not send him back tbh, more or of self interest for the family in case he brings it back from school before the holidays. If next week then I think I'd get him a PCR on weds and send him back when you get the result.

QuillBill · 12/07/2021 07:27

I’ll admit that I find it hard to keep up with the rules but I thought if someone in your house had Covid the whole house isolates regardless of LFTs or previous time isolating.

ColettesEarrings · 12/07/2021 07:30

@QuillBill They do, but the op is sensibly anticipating what to do at the end of the isolation given the dd is ill.

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TumbyTumm · 12/07/2021 07:37

Track and Trace said that asymptomatic people are released when the first symptomatic person is released - even if someone else got sick in the meanwhile

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TumbyTumm · 12/07/2021 07:38

So I have DD sick and recovered, DS never sick and DH right in the midst of it.

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dementedpixie · 12/07/2021 07:40

Yes he gets released after 10 days if he doesn't get symptoms.

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notanotherguitar · 12/07/2021 07:42

Is Friday your last day of term? If it is and you’re worried about it I just wouldn’t send him in for the last few days

SpiderinaWingMirror · 12/07/2021 07:43

Just keep him at home then. Term must be up either Friday or early next week?

Quartz2208 · 12/07/2021 07:45

I would get him a PCR test - there is a tick box to say you have been told too by an authority and he should be anyway

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TumbyTumm · 12/07/2021 07:46

Am I completely overthinking it to be panicky about him still being an infection spreader?

DD we caught by luck more than judgement because her first symptom was ‘tired’.

I thought about PCR - but if the result is not back in time - then stress is even higher - I need to plan for his MH sake not run it to the wire waiting on a ‘ping’ that I know is running slower than normal atm.

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ZoBo123 · 12/07/2021 07:50

He may never catch it. If he hasn't been isolating from the two people who have had it for the last 10 days I don't think he is likely to catch it now and then develop symptoms. Take a test if you want but there is the possibility that he may have had it a long time ago and already had ammunity or that he will never have it

Imnothereforthedrama · 12/07/2021 07:51

Your overthinking it he’s done 10 days with no symptoms so can go back . You can’t just keep isolating for longer until you feel it’s safe . How long do you think you need to wait 12-14 days longer ?.
You’ve isolated so you’ve done your bit to contain it .

OliveTree75 · 12/07/2021 07:54

This happened to us. My ds2 went back to school whilst ds1 still had covid. He never had any symptoms. I felt uneasy about it test and trace and the school both said that is the guidelines.

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TumbyTumm · 12/07/2021 07:56

The balancing argument is the known fact that he has had massive anxiety problems over all of last term. It’s been a real struggle to get him
through the door in the mornings.

So balancing a theoretical public health risk vs the MH damage of his last memory of academic year 20/21 being plucked from of sports day and marched out of school in his PE kit.

And the MH angle is another reason that I need to figure this asap and then present a breezy and confident front to reassure him.

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zafferana · 12/07/2021 07:57

I agree you're overthinking it. Do as the guidance suggests and if he's never shown symptoms or tested positive then send him back once his 10 days are up. He'll probably be really happy being back at school with his friends after 10 days stuck at home - I know my DC would.

zafferana · 12/07/2021 07:58

Anxiety = even more reason to be breezy and matter of fact about it and send him back as the govt guidance says.

ColettesEarrings · 12/07/2021 08:00

Like I say, I wouldn't send him if you finish this week, not because he might spread it but because there's a very decent chance he could bring it home with him if spending two/three days at school. Far far better to protect your own family summer holiday period than risk it coming back with him. It's more difficult if you don't finish till end of next week though as that's much more time off and school unlikely to be supportive.

PSSN · 12/07/2021 08:23

He has to isolate for 10 days after the last person in the house who caught it started showing symptoms. He may not have caught it from your daughter but could catch it from your husband.

dementedpixie · 12/07/2021 08:24

@PSSN

He has to isolate for 10 days after the last person in the house who caught it started showing symptoms. He may not have caught it from your daughter but could catch it from your husband.
He really doesn't
ColettesEarrings · 12/07/2021 08:27

@PSSN No he doesn't. You need to familiarise yourself with the actual requirements.

mocktail · 12/07/2021 08:31

@PSSN That would seem reasonable but it's not the guidance.

Olivess · 12/07/2021 08:39

We have had the same - seemed mad to send in DD when we were in the midst of it. Then she tested positive on lateral flow two days before she was due to go back to school so now she’s isolating as well.

OhNoNoNoNoNo · 12/07/2021 08:39

I'd send him back and I wouldn't worry about it. Hope his anxiety improves.

ssd · 12/07/2021 09:15

@TumbyTumm, I'm saying this is someone who has had anxiety issues and counselling throughout this pandemic. I think you need to try to be less mixed up and anxious yourself. I think you are passing it onto your ds a bit. I'm not saying pretend everything is wonderful, but just familiarise yourself with the gov.co.uk guidelines and trust your own judgement. I know its not easy.