non isolating when told to

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I'm CEV but have been double vaccinated.
Partner doesn't live with me and usually comes over to mind at weekends. His son was told to isolate on 2nd July since his mother (dp ex wife) tested positive). He moved into DP home the day his mum had it to give her space. Son stayed in a few days no symptoms and avoided work but invited friends for a party last weekend (dp happy with this) then out and about socialising during the whole of isolation. Isolation should end tomorrow but never actually bothered. My DP thinks I am unreasonable and 'did I always follow rules' when I was younger when I said he should be isolating.

I just can't understand the complacency and cannot be bothered attitude since they are most healthy. He was going to come to mine and I said no chance.

Am I just unreasonable, I follow the guidelines but not anxious or over the top but this didn't sit well at all mainly since one of my children had to isolate a month ago and it was difficult but just sucked it up yet his adult son cannot be bothered even for a few days!

You are not unreasonable at all. You can't control how others feel or act, but at least you can control who you have contact with. Protect yourself. It's better to be safe than sorry.

@roguetomato

You are not unreasonable at all. You can't control how others feel or act, but at least you can control who you have contact with. Protect yourself. It's better to be safe than sorry.

Thanks. I was starting to wonder if it was me that was unreasonable. They have been lucky to have not needed to isolate before. Children always been sent home so it didn't seem a massive ask.

Your not being unreasonable. He should have been isolating.

However, I have reached a point where although I don’t agree with what they did. I just can’t get worked up or angry either about this stuff.

I have just been focusing on myself and my own because I can’t control the actions of others.

I don't think yabu. I am currently having to isolate because a parent chose to send their child to school whilst waiting for the result of a covid test . Gov website is very clear tgat if a household member has symptoms, everyone needs to isolate until a negative test received, or 10 days, whichever happens first. Because one parent chose to ignore that instruction, over 70 families, including children and staff, are affected.