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LFT - data protection breach?!

101 replies

polyjuicepotion · 07/07/2021 17:49

Please help, I need urgent advice.
My DC has invited a friend over. They are both secondary school age. I know there have been some children who were self isolating in the class meaning that covid has been going around at school.
My DC forgot to do their LFT today (usually done twice weekly) so I suggested they do it after school, and since the friend said they forgot to do theirs as well I asked if they wanted to do it too.

Long story short, both tests negative but later on I received a furious text from the friend's mum who accused me of breaching data protection and said that she will take legal action for making her child do the test at my house.
Any advice appreciated.

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Nohomemadecandles · 07/07/2021 19:03

She doesn't know what data protection is, does she? Hmm

Hmmm. She didn't want her child testing for whatever reason. That's what she's annoyed about.

Unless he's in witness protection or wanted for murder, I imagine nobody's that interested in his DNA.

ColettesEarrings · 07/07/2021 19:04

You grossly overstepped your responsibilities, actually quite shocking that you thought it appropriate to give another child a test. The mother won't get anywhere with a frivolous legal action so don't worry on that side of things, but I would be equally as livid as she clearly is. You made a huge mistake and need to grovel, copiously if you want to salvage your son's friendship.

Nohomemadecandles · 07/07/2021 19:07

@ColettesEarrings

You grossly overstepped your responsibilities, actually quite shocking that you thought it appropriate to give another child a test. The mother won't get anywhere with a frivolous legal action so don't worry on that side of things, but I would be equally as livid as she clearly is. You made a huge mistake and need to grovel, copiously if you want to salvage your son's friendship.
Really? 2 High school kids supposed to test and forgot. Been twice weekly testing now for months.

OP: Sid's doing his now, do you want to do yours?

Kid: Yeah sure.

That's literally it. Nobody needs to grovel to salvage anything. That's such an over reaction!

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polyjuicepotion · 07/07/2021 19:09

Yes, I agree it sounds like she is mainly annoyed with the fact that her child was tested without her consent. An understandable reason I guess. I wouldn't be annoyed if the same happened to me, but I respect other people's opinions.
I sent an apologetic text explaining the situation.

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roguetomato · 07/07/2021 19:14

I think I would be quite annoyed if someone tested my child, unless it was done at school.
But it's done and no harm done, I would just apologise profusely for not thinking and over stepping.

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polyjuicepotion · 07/07/2021 19:15

"You grossly overstepped your responsibilities, actually quite shocking that you thought it appropriate to give another child a test. The mother won't get anywhere with a frivolous legal action so don't worry on that side of things, but I would be equally as livid as she clearly is. You made a huge mistake and need to grovel, copiously if you want to salvage your son's friendship"
Seriously? Your comment makes it sound like I coerced them into circumcision or sperm donation or something. It's an LFT that they have been doing anyway, and would have done anyway today but didn't for whatever reason.

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WeWantAMackerelNotASprat · 07/07/2021 19:19

I wouldn't have minded, it would be one extra bit of crap that I wouldn't have to throw away after the children leave the stuff laying around 🙄

Quartz2208 · 07/07/2021 19:21

I cant see the problem given he did it himself and you offered rather than forced.

Plus it is pretty clear at High School who is positive given the fact that they do close contacts!

ColettesEarrings · 07/07/2021 19:26

Yep, I would be that livid. It's just not your business, not your problem, not your responsibility. I'd have got my own child to do his but wouldn't have let the other child because I don't know how his parents would have felt. You've just found out. It doesn't even matter if they'd have been perfectly happy that you saved them the bother, you shouldn't have done it. It's a flat nope from me!

eggman007 · 07/07/2021 19:27

I wouldn't have given this a second thought and the strong reactions of some just seem completely odd to me - we all have different buttons I guess.

Try not to worry, I'm sure this won't lead anywhere. Just apologise and try and put it out of your mind if you can.

moonbedazzled · 07/07/2021 19:30

It could be that she thought you were checking up on him. I'm sure when you explain what's happened she'll be fine. Dont worry. With all that's happening in the world, it amazes me what people decide to focus on.

ColettesEarrings · 07/07/2021 19:30

I'm curious though OP, if you don't think it's an issue why did you post? As I say, the mother will get absolutely nowhere with silly legal threats so you've nothing to worry about, but you asked for advice and opinions yet seem unhappy when they're given?

moonbedazzled · 07/07/2021 19:32

Oh, and yeah, you don't need to grovel. 😏 I'm sure your apologetic text is more than enough.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 07/07/2021 19:33

This really is sending people a bit batshit isn't it. She's probably one of the posters on here refusing to let their child test twice a week

SonnetForSpring · 07/07/2021 19:34

Please ignore all the people who will jump on this post and try to make you feel bad just because they have issues with LFT fullstop.

Chloemol · 07/07/2021 19:37

I would be telling her to refer to the ICO as a breach, they will soon make her see sense

AlmostSummer21 · 07/07/2021 19:41

She's nuts as are many posters!

He should have done one today, but didn't. You asked him if he wanted to do one with your son. He chose to End of.

Don't give it another thought 💐

ColettesEarrings · 07/07/2021 19:42

I seem to be the one being referenced yet I don't have issues with LFTs at all. For me it's about boundaries and the OP overstepped. Simple as that and nothing more. The other mother is also being ridiculous about legal threats as I've been at pains to point out. The reason I suggested grovelling is because the other mum is clearly furious.

Katefoster · 07/07/2021 19:46

I reallt don't understand how people say you overstepped. It's a LFT ffs.

SonnetForSpring · 07/07/2021 19:48

@ColettesEarrings

I'm curious though OP, if you don't think it's an issue why did you post? As I say, the mother will get absolutely nowhere with silly legal threats so you've nothing to worry about, but you asked for advice and opinions yet seem unhappy when they're given?
OP probably posted because she is in shock at the reaction of the other mum.
friskybivalves · 07/07/2021 19:55

I honestly think some people are more batshit crazy than a fucking bat trapped in a fucking biscuit tin.

Threatening to take legal action?

It really does take all sorts. I'd have offered a test and just gone ok either way, suit yourself, loads in this box.

Bellyfat · 07/07/2021 20:02

My child is in year 7, I couldn't give two hoots whether they had the test at home or at a friend's house. As long as it gets done I'm not really bothered where.
If I didn't trust the friend/their parents then they wouldn't be going over anyway.

HermioneWeasley · 07/07/2021 20:05

You’ve apologised, she sounds unhinged.

By the way, you’re not a data processor, so data protection rules don’t apply to you. And even if they did, you haven’t gathered or stored any data. I’d ignore her, she sounds bonkers

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polyjuicepotion · 07/07/2021 20:09

"I'm curious though OP, if you don't think it's an issue why did you post? As I say, the mother will get absolutely nowhere with silly legal threats so you've nothing to worry about, but you asked for advice and opinions yet seem unhappy when they're given?"

On the contrary, I am really grateful for all responses, also those that are of a different opinion to mine.

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enjoyingscience · 07/07/2021 20:13

I’d put it out of your mind - she clearly got a specific issue with her child doing flow tests, and a child that age is more than able to say ‘no thanks’.

Hopefully she’ll be embarrassed for overreacting to such an extent tomorrow.

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