Would you travel across the country right now? DD meant to be going away

[Beebityboo]

DD is supposed to be going on a trip to Edinburgh with her grandparents at the end of the month. I'm CV and had to shield and am now wondering whether it is a good idea? I am double jabbed but I'm hearing more and more reports of CV people still getting pretty unwell.
I'm also worried she will get Covid whilst she's away. We don't drive and she wouldn't be able to cope self isolating for ten days at her grandparents without me due to some mental health issues she's been having.
It will cause a big falling out if I cancel but I just don't feel like traveling down the entire country is a good idea with cases being as high as they are. I'd imagine by then cases will be huge as it's after the Euros.
Wwyd?

I should add she'll also be stopping at different relatives houses in two different cities in the North, so it'd be a lot of traveling about and visiting.

How old is she? Does she want to go?
I’m CV, shielded and double jabbed. I won’t stop my DC from going out and about. I can’t. Not forever!! What are the plans when she’s there? Will they be going to busy places etc?

Yes doing all the touristy stuff. She's 13 and doesn't really want to go that much!

I’d let her go. Your health shouldn’t restrict her life experiences and you’re double jabbed so you’re as protected as you’re ever gonna be.

I definitely don't want to restrict her life experiences and we're not shuttered away or anything, but cases in the north are very high, as well as Scotland. I feel strange about it. I also haven't been away from her for a single night since Covid began so feeling a bit wobbly about that in general too.
More than anything though I am worried about her getting it whilst she is away and not being able to get to her for whatever reason as we are hours and hours from Scotland.

I would not want my vague unclear-if-valid fears to limit my kid's opportunities.

I can't tell you what you should do.

Is there any reason why a case of Covid would be any worse for her than a bad cold (typical reaction in teens if they are symptomatic?). Is there any reason why her risk of getting Covid are significantly more than if she stayed in your area and was out and about with friends etc? If you discussed with her what might happen if she tested positive while away and therefore had to isolate wherever, what would her response be? If SHE is unwilling then fair enough. But YOUR concerns I feel should not be the reason why she doesn’t go away.

The North isn’t one place OP!! Even in places where cases are high it is possible for people to reduce their chances of catching COVID.
This sounds more like you are anxious rather than there is a legitimate risk. Plus she’s only going to be a few hours away. Not on another continent.
Be careful not to make her feel “wobbly” and “anxious” because you are.
Decide how great the risk is. Act accordingly. I wouldn’t go to seriously crowded places. But I won’t refuse to see family.

We have self catering accommodation booked so we can go and see a grandparent at the end of the month. Like you, we've spent a lot of time shielding. We want to support our relative who is also CEV.

We are definitely planning to go. We holiday very cautiously, so we won't be going into bars or restaurants and we'll get food delivered. It's good for all of us to have the catch up and it will be our little holiday.

Mind you, we won't be needing to use public transport and we will be in relatively low risk areas.

If she genuinely doesn't want to go, I'd back her up. But if your opinions are swaying her decision, then I think you need to rein in your worrying.

More than anything though I am worried about her getting it whilst she is away and not being able to get to her for whatever reason as we are hours and hours from Scotland.

But she’s 13, very unlikely to be ill or even show any symptoms at all. And the same would be true (her being hours away) if any other accident or illness befell her.

The thing is OP, if you're double jabbed (plus 2 weeks) your immunity really isn't going to get any better. So if not now, when?

No I haven't talked about it negatively with her at all. She is the one who doesn't want to go and we've been telling her she'll have fun etc and I generally felt fine about it until the last couple of weeks. She has had a really rough time with bullying recently and her mental health isn't great, so she's not really enjoying the idea of being away from home with grandparents she doesn't see much at all and would not want to isolate there, she's only going for a week. I also know the North isn't one place! I just wanted to explain that she's not going to be in a little town or anything, she's doing a grand tour .

@Wilkolampshade

The thing is OP, if you're double jabbed (plus 2 weeks) your immunity really isn't going to get any better. So if not now, when?

Yes this is true. It's just hard to get out of the shielding mindset, especially when case numbers are so high again, I'm finding it tough to adjust, and know that I shouldn't let that affect DD.

I'm finding it tough to adjust

Understandable and many people are. We’ve spent 18 months with this thing governing every single aspect of our lives, with a giant dose of fear and anxiety coming with it, and now we’re meant to just ignore it and behave normally. It’ll take a while to adjust.

I'd say not, not only because of her views. Little is being done to enforce face coverings on trains, and none beyond 19 July. A pity as it is a beautiful city and I value the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, often undervalued in my opinion.

Actually Scotland don't plan to end all restrictions on the same date as England so she may be safer here than down south. I suspect we will still have masks and social distancing at the end of the month.

I don't think travelling around the country is a good idea at the moment, and Edinburgh currently has very high cases. I am at the highly cautious end of the scale, and in a minority on here, though!

I think you have a valid concern about what to do if she develops symptoms away from home, I can see how that may make things awkward for you.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

It's difficult as I have spoken to her about how she feels about going and she has said she would really rather not, but this trip had to be cancelled last year and her grandparents would be very annoyed if I cancelled it again.

I live near Edinburgh and most people are still wearing masks on public transport and in shops, social distancing is expected, queuing at the shops etc. The tourist attractions are limited numbers booked in advance. There are no plans to remove restrictions until mid august at the earliest and I think that will be put back. She might need to come by boat if this rain keeps up though.