The human cost of lockdown

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I'd say the world's gone mad regarding covid. Lost all sense of sanity and humanity

That poor family. It's absolutely barbaric.

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This should have never happened

@Susannahmoody

I'd say the world's gone mad regarding covid. Lost all sense of sanity and humanity

Yep

How anyone can think it's acceptable to treat people like that because of 'covid' is beyond me.

Beyond words

That is horrific. The poor family. My heart really is breaking for them.

I do think we will look back on this period and wonder what the hell we were doing.

This is one story of many on this topic. Thousands of families have been through the same, including one of my friends.

If you tried to talk about this on here, it was impossible, people were (and sone still are) consumed with irrational fear and at the heart of it, only worried about their own situation (yet accusing anyone mentioning this sort of horrific outcome from lockdowns as a selfish granny murderer/ anti lockdowner / tin hat brigade)

They drove an hour and a half from their home to the hospital after he phoned crying, saying he was bleeding and pressing his buzzer but was being ignored.

That bit is also an incredibly common thing throughout lockdown.

Families used to advocate for their relatives when visiting in hospital, ensure things were being done correctly. None of that has happened for an entire year. I know we all clapped because Every Single NHS worker is a saint, but the reality is there were and are many instances of terrible NHS workers and they have basically been left unsupervised for a year.

I am a nhs manager. I am also a grandchild whose grandmother died alone in a care home. They would let us in because they didn't deem her end of life. She was 98 and had had major surgery and blood loss. We also paid £1500 for her care in her last days as she wasn't deemed eligible for fast track funding.

If I let myself think about it I am consumed by anger and grief. I don't know how we could have have got to such a place and what happened to this family is much worse. In the meetings I was in we agreed visitors for those in extremis. The problem was where was that line drawn? This young man was seriously ill and needed his parents but he wasn't deemed to be dying so they were kept out. They didn't talk about getting him home because I presume they were talking about ongoing treatment and then he needed icu. You don't admit to icu if there is no hope of recovery so the hospital were obviously still aiming for recovery.
But they were wrong. Protected from Covid but isolated is the fate our fears allowed for Olly and my grandma and who knows how many others and that thought haunts me.

Sorry that should say they wouldn't let us in

Yes, to the advocacy part! My DH has had repeated hospitalisations during lockdown, and the fact is that when you’re ill you can’t advocate for yourself and the nurses etc. are busy and can miss things. Families are an important part of the care. They notice. They advocate.

This is so so harrowing and heartbreaking. Can’t stop thinking about that poor man and his family. The one comfort people look for when their loved one dies is that they didn’t suffer. This has been taken away from them all.

The hospital have left this family with an awful legacy they will probably never recover from, and a dying mans last moment were spent in mental anguish because of what? A lack of logical thinking and failure to deign to consider an alternative proportionate and compassionate response. When did the caring profession become so alienated from its core values?

The company who write the Horrible Histories books must be rubbing their hands, they've been handed a 21st century edition!

This is generally the way I've been helping my kids keep things in some form of perspective for the last year - we've been mentally writing the Horrible Histories episode among ourselves with how fucked up things have been. The kids have suggested numerous songs about panic buying bog roll.

Back to the more sombre tone - it's appalling. It's what's fucked me up in my own mind much more than any fear of the virus... what we've done to society, social cohesion, inclusion of those with disabilities and what we've done to our children's mental health and wellbeing. My little one was 6 when she was sobbing about how she couldn't get to sleep at night because of too much sad inside her brain and her language loss was horrific.

Didnt open the link as the post here were upsetting enough. We have collectively lost the plot . Surely people must see now this needs to stop. An in law relly lost her mum 6mth ago to covid and she was only allowed 20min with her. Dont think she will get over it.
Whats most frightening as others have said is the fact that families would be advocating for their ill family member. Esp if they were incapacitated and then not being there to do that, to make sure they are being seen and nothing missed/not being neglected. Its sickening.

This is beyond barbaric and makes me despair for the society we have allowed ourselves to become. I totally agree that close family members are a vital component of the care around the patient. Without the oversight and advocacy from loved ones, patients are extremely vulnerable to having their basic care needs neglected with sometimes tragic outcomes which could have been prevented. How all of this is acceptable in the name of Covid I will never be able to comprehend.

It’s evil the way many people have been treated like this young man and his family. Absolutely evil.