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Friends party

15 replies

Vanityfairest · 23/06/2021 10:18

I’ve name changed for this, my friend is having a get together, been planned for months, people travelling there, invitations sent etc but I’ve found something out that’s making me feel uneasy and I don’t know how to tackle it…

Her DC’s school have recently had a few bubbles burst and children are isolating, currently 4 different year groups, it affects one of my friends DC and they are now isolating for 10 days. We are in a high watch area for delta variant so everyone in the area are being tested so asymptomatic kids are popping up having Covid here and there.

Here’s where my problem lies… I only know about friends child isolating because I know another child in the school who is also isolating, friend who is having the party hasn’t mentioned it at all and doesn’t seem to be planning on mentioning it, it would seem she is going to have the party regardless.

What would you do? Mention it and ask what the plans are now? Leave it and go even though there’s an isolating child there, just refuse to go and risk friend being pissed off?

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LadyCatStark · 23/06/2021 10:21

When is the party and when did the isolation start? Personally, I’m following the example of the Scottish football players so no isolation required…

Scrunchy95 · 23/06/2021 10:24

I'd be frank and tell her you know a friend at her school and the situation. Ask what she is going to do about the party.

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Vanityfairest · 23/06/2021 10:24

Isolation started Monday for 10 days. Party is on Saturday. I’m not sure if they are planning on getting themselves or DC tested.

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RockingMyFiftiesNot · 23/06/2021 10:28

It might not be the whole year or class that is isolating. Do you know for sure? I wouldn't go to a party where one of the host family was supposed to be isolating. Assume the party is outside as people in the highest risk areas are being asked not to socialise with other households indoors. I'd discuss with the host then decide whether you feel comfortable to attend.
Some people are past caring, some people are still very anxious, I'm inbetween but wouldn't go if the child was supposed to be isolating.

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Vanityfairest · 23/06/2021 10:37

It’s definitely the whole year, it’s nursery, reception, year 1 and year 3. It’s on the schools social media too. It’s outside as there’s around 30 people going so people will only really be going inside to go to the toilet etc.

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RockingMyFiftiesNot · 23/06/2021 10:44

Then I personally wouldn't go. Plenty of people will come on here and say just go, but you'd be supporting your friend in breaking the law. Plus potentially risking carrying covid to other people, even if you have been vaccinated. Children are a key source of the spread and you know that her DC has been In contact with a positive case. Yes it might upset your friend but then she's not much of a friend if she can't see that point of view.

siestalady · 23/06/2021 10:46

Personally I'd think meh and still go but I've got very little fucks left to give and I'd think that a child on day 6 of isolation is going to be very low risk, assuming they dont have any symptoms.

If you dont feel comfortable going then make up an excuse and just dont go. It doesnt sound like the host is planning to cancel; and if you make a pointed comment you'll be risking your friendship.

Honey12346 · 23/06/2021 11:55

I'd go. The sooner we stop complying with stupid and intrusive rules that politicians and celebs can "opt out of" but we can't, the sooner this bs stops.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 23/06/2021 12:07

@Honey12346 I totally agree with you about there being different rules for different people, that is wrong.

But I don't agree that it will stop sooner if we stop complying where people have been In contact with known cases. It will get worse for those of us living in areas like the OP where there are rapidly rising delta cases. Just been reading about people from Scotland having to miss a family wedding as they are not allowed to travel to a high risk area. There is talk - ok so rumours at this point - of some areas having tighter restrictions again. More money and jobs lost.
I'm not someone who believes we need to be locked up until there is zero COVID, we do need to learn to live with it. But going to a party, even outside, where a family member is supposed to be isolating is wreckless IMO .

campingfever · 23/06/2021 12:20

This really isn't ok. I wouldn't go, and I would suggest to her that she should cancel or at the least let all the guests know. Maybe say: "Sorry to hear dc's class is isolating, must be disappointing to have to cancel the party"

User5827372728 · 23/06/2021 12:23

It might be that dc will stay in their room all party and not join in?

BeachSunsets · 23/06/2021 12:27

It’s so odd they would host the party with a child in isolation. I would raise it and find out what’s the deal.

daisyjgrey · 23/06/2021 12:42

It's only the child who has to isolate, not everyone else. Maybe the child will be in her room and kept separately, especially if you're outside. I don't think I could bring myself to be cross about it. The choice to attend is obviously yours though and you're neither right nor wrong for choosing to stay away.

User5827372728 · 23/06/2021 13:36

@daisyjgrey

I agree, but do think the hosts have an obligation to inform the guests and let them make their own decision knowing the child is isolating. Lots will decide to go anyway and some more cautious may opt out

GlencoraP · 23/06/2021 13:41

If the child is year 3 or below as the OP implies I am not sure they will be able to stay in their room alone whilst a party goes on, can’t imagine any
of mine being able to do that aged 7.

I think at the very least guests should be told and they can make their own decision based on the situation. I would also probably be straight up and just ask the host what her plans are .

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