Covid in our family - when can we get support

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Name changed for this. DS is 8 and Covid positive on sat, DD is 13 months and neg but been very very ill since Sunday (temp 40 but comes down and back up with medicine), bad cough. chesty breathing. I don't think I am testing her 'deep' enough as it's hard with a tiny one.

DH 1 jab and neg, DD 6 is negative. I'm also neg but just started to feel awful, temp, shaky, cough, achy AWFUL! i usually Work ft from home and have had this week off to care for DD/DS, DH still working ft (consulting so doesn't get paid if doesn't work).

My question is this - if I get terribly unwell when could family potentially help? It is tough looking after all 3 kids while feeling unwell and was hoping that after a certain time period it would be safe for DM (2 jabs) to help. Obv without putting her at any risk!

Am so overwhelmed I was hoping someone here could advise. DH income very much needed at this time but obviously if he has to then he will need to take time out , just wanted to see options that are safe.

I really feel for you as this is my nightmare. DH and I both have our own businesses and don't qualify for any financial help so would just have to crack on. It's really unfair.

Could you maybe ask DH to do some cooking for you and leave by your door? At least then that's one job off the list?

I hope you feel better soon

DM not DH 😅

Im glad youve got pcr coming.
Almost mainly because gps are disbelieving long covid sufferers had covid so i think it's important

Hi OP. It's totally shit, poor you! It will get better though X is your DM close by? Could she drop off packed lunches for you all each day? Could she do some laundry (after it being quarentined)? Could she drop off meals? All of these are big asks but much better than risking her getting it. If it all becomes too much for you then your DH will have to cut back on work to help look after you all. Your recovery is very important!

Why is her DS not free on day 11? So his grandmother could care for him? Isn’t it 10 days, but the clock doesn’t reset for the DS.

You all need to isolate. Unless you genuinely cannot care for the kids they should stay at home

We all had Covid in January. Looking after kids and having Covid is really tough but I think you should call upon your DH to help if needed, not anyone outside of your household.

We coped by just resting as much as possible. Friends dropped shopping and medicines on the doorstep. Get easy snack food and ready meals so food preparation is kept to a minimum. When even basic food prep was too much we got a pizza delivery left on the doorstep which fed the kids for 3 days until the worst few days passed.

Screen time and tv time was unlimited. Housework was zero. Just focus on getting through it.

It's really tough but definitely go with preparing lunches and dinners so you can just put them in the oven easily without having to stand and prep more things if you begin to feel worse. Get water bottles out for the children and then can keep them topped up rather than endless glasses/spilling them. Put snacks in an easily accessible place so children can reach. As much TV time as you need - absolutely fine just to get through.

Maybe your mum could cook your meals for him and do a doorstep drop off.

Are your littlies good with something like zoom? She could play some games with them online. I managed a game of monopoly with my nephews when their mum was ill! Obvs not for the baby. But maybe the others?

Should say cook meals for you!