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My wedding.. Saturday 3rd July

42 replies

Idontwantarow · 30/05/2021 18:58

Hi everyone,
I know that in the grand scheme of things this is not even a topic worth discussing.
I just don’t know what to do 🤷‍♀️
Lots of guests have paid for hotels and childcare and I feel like it’s really unlikely we will be able to have more then 30.
I feel bad about telling people they aren’t in the 30.....
This is our 3rd try...
Am I worrying unnecessarily? Argh!!!!?

OP posts:
SGChome20 · 30/05/2021 18:59

Oh dear, you have my sympathies. How many guests in total do you have on the list?

Workyticket · 30/05/2021 18:59

I hear you - we're the 16th. 3rd date!

I have no answers or advice - just bumping and showing solidarity

Original poster
Idontwantarow · 30/05/2021 19:00

We have 110... I know it’s really unlikely 😩😩

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Workyticket · 30/05/2021 19:03

we have 60 day time, 120 ish evening

All of our potential guests have said yes.

Data suggests we should be OK. Sorted DPs suit today. Sick of paying out for things we don't know we'll need 😭

Overthebow · 30/05/2021 19:05

Have you got a plan b guest list for 30 people? If not I think you need to come up with that now and let everyone know. The weddings I’m invited to this summer all have a plan A and a plan B guest list and everyone was told the plan when the date was confirmed. No ones upset about which list they’re on, everyone knows it’s just what it is at the moment. Hopefully the plan A can go ahead but you do need a back up.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 30/05/2021 19:27

I’d take parents or two witnesses as a backup so no one feels second best.
I’d not have delayed it three times if I wanted to be married.

Workyticket · 30/05/2021 20:07

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

I’d take parents or two witnesses as a backup so no one feels second best. I’d not have delayed it three times if I wanted to be married.
Easy said when some of us booked and paid before the pandemic hit unfortunately
Chailatteplease · 30/05/2021 20:18

I’m in the same boat, no advice just following for opinions.

TakeYourFinalPosition · 30/05/2021 20:19

We had this last year, third time round. We created a plan B of 30 people, so that it was ready to put into place if needed. We wrote a message apologising and explaining. We had to send it - everyone was lovely. I think almost everyone had expected it.

My advice would be to do the same. It helped a lot.

newnortherner111 · 30/05/2021 20:43

Unfortunately you will have to wait until 14th June for a decision. I expect the chances of a yes for weddings increased after the Prime Minister marrying yesterday, as he would be criticised even more than usual if people were denied the wedding they had planned.

Lubiluxe · 30/05/2021 20:54

You need to let people know that they wouldn't be on the list if it drops to 30. They may lose money on hotels otherwise.
I'm invited to a couple of weddings in the summer but I've purposely booked cheaper hotels as I know their plan for if the numbers are low

hilarymantlepiece · 30/05/2021 20:56

Honestly? CEV husband, shielding for 14 months?

I think you’ll be fine. It will go ahead and you’ll have the most glorious day.

motogogo · 30/05/2021 20:56

Depending on when they booked, they may have deliberately booked refundable rooms - I have multiple bookings this summer and all are 100% refundable

manicwhatday · 30/05/2021 21:32

@hilarymantlepiece

Honestly? CEV husband, shielding for 14 months?

I think you’ll be fine. It will go ahead and you’ll have the most glorious day.

@hilarymantlepiece

What’s your point....?

pinkpanther84 · 30/05/2021 21:40

I'm also worrying, 24th July, 4th date. I really hope we can have the 70ish we've invited and not have to cut the numbers to 30. I think we just have to wait and see... it's so hard.

PrincessNutNuts · 30/05/2021 21:43

You have my sympathies. I know this is very stressful.

The thing is, if things go incontrovertibly south, or the government changes its mind between June 14th and your wedding day you could still be screwed (remember Christmas?!)

Two of the summer weddings we are invited to have the plan A and plan B system (my friends). The other one (OH's family) is adamant it's all going ahead this time. "numbers are low, the country is vaccinated, covid is over, shut up."

We won't book air bnbs or hotels until nearer the time. I don't even have an outfit yet.

Planning for both contingencies is the best anyone can do I think. People understand.

RandomMess · 30/05/2021 21:47

I'm on the B list for friends but it's easy I'm local I can still go wait outside and watch them arrive and see them exit the venue.

I'm really hopeful that things will be ok for everyone hospital rates are still very low. Vaccines numbers are go up and up 🤞

PosyBoo · 30/05/2021 22:07

My sister in law is in exactly the same position as you OP. 3rd of July, 3rd attempt and 110 guests. I wish there was some magic advice to give you both, it seems so unfair that you can’t enjoy the run up to your wedding. I think you just have to plan as if it’s going ahead but have the plan B in the back of your mind. I’m keeping everything crossed for all the lovely couples hoping to get married this summer.

hilarymantlepiece · 31/05/2021 09:38

manicwhatday

hilarymantlepiece
Honestly? CEV husband, shielding for 14 months?

I think you’ll be fine. It will go ahead and you’ll have the most glorious day.
@hilarymantlepiece

What’s your point....?“

Point: we have had to take Covid very seriously and shielded for 14 months.
I believe that the situation has entirely changed now though because of the vaccination programme and that things will open up fully on 21st June.

I don’t think that OP has anything to worry about.

PadManic · 31/05/2021 09:49

If weddings were likely to be able to have unlimited guests from 21 June, surely the Prime Minister would have waited an extra 3 weeks for his own wedding?

It's been reported that they are having a large celebration with family and friends next summer instead.

Workyticket · 31/05/2021 11:07

@PadManic

If weddings were likely to be able to have unlimited guests from 21 June, surely the Prime Minister would have waited an extra 3 weeks for his own wedding?

It's been reported that they are having a large celebration with family and friends next summer instead.

He's already had 2 other weddings!
Original poster
Idontwantarow · 31/05/2021 12:19

Thank you everyone ❤️
We phoned everyone on both lists last night/this morning. Everyone was so kind and understanding. Feeling much better today.

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PrincessNutNuts · 31/05/2021 13:25

@Idontwantarow

Thank you everyone ❤️ We phoned everyone on both lists last night/this morning. Everyone was so kind and understanding. Feeling much better today.
That's really good

Have a lovely day, no matter what. Thanks

NavigatingAdolescence · 31/05/2021 13:28

@PadManic

If weddings were likely to be able to have unlimited guests from 21 June, surely the Prime Minister would have waited an extra 3 weeks for his own wedding?

It's been reported that they are having a large celebration with family and friends next summer instead.

Most people don’t bring their wedding forward because a spouse can’t testify against their husband/wife. Wink
NavigatingAdolescence · 31/05/2021 13:28

@hilarymantlepiece

manicwhatday

hilarymantlepiece
Honestly? CEV husband, shielding for 14 months?

I think you’ll be fine. It will go ahead and you’ll have the most glorious day.
@hilarymantlepiece

What’s your point....?“

Point: we have had to take Covid very seriously and shielded for 14 months.
I believe that the situation has entirely changed now though because of the vaccination programme and that things will open up fully on 21st June.

I don’t think that OP has anything to worry about.

Not following Independent Sage’s data then? Just “belief”?
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